Many girls dream of getting their first kiss from a special guy. They have the right person in mind but don't know how to get him to kiss them. Sometimes, in the course of the night, they dream of receiving the fateful kiss from the boy they are in love with in the most romantic place imaginable. Read these steps and you can soon get your first kiss. Also, it can be a way of having a boyfriend for the first time.
Steps
Step 1. Make sure she's single
If he's dating someone else and she finds out you kissed him, things will get bad (in the sense that she could hurt you).
Step 2. Make sure it's the right guy
Sometimes girls have a hard time figuring out if they're really into "him". The time has come to investigate. Make a list of 12 things you wish your ideal boyfriend had. Be around him without attracting attention and without persecuting him. It must possess the qualities you have listed or come very close to it. He must score 6/12 or more, otherwise it's not for you. Even if he turns out to be the right person, talk to him a little to feel comfortable with him later. You have to make sure that he wants to be with you too, even if you will have to play hard to get it.
Step 3. Give him clues that lead him to believe that you are interested in him
Simple things, like smiling at him, aren't that hard to do. If you are already doing this, you can skip this step and go further. However, don't overdo it. Technically, the trick is to not flirt with him (yet). Give him clues for about a week or two and see what happens. Without overdoing it.
Step 4. Look for signs of her interest
He should start to show that he's interested in you too. Don't assume that it will happen immediately, it may take some time to express it. If nothing happens, repeat step 3 until you see him interested. Indications of your interest could be:
- He stares at you all the time
- He touches your arm or shoulder (does not necessarily include finger tapping on you).
- Smiles, etc.
Step 5. Become friends
Now that he's showing signs of interest, you could be friends (unless the guy you're infatuated with is already your friend, in which case you can skip this step and proceed to the next). This should happen before he asks you out, because if he doesn't, you may say no and he may get mad and not hitting on you for a while. To become friends with her, do the same things you would do with someone you don't have a crush on. If he has shown signs of interest, you can start by sitting next to him at lunchtime and strike up a conversation to focus on things in common (for example, you may both be sports fanatics). Hang out with him for about 2 weeks so you can be friends with him. He may then lose interest in you, so to keep his attention high, it's time to move on to the next step.
Step 6. Flirt
It's like giving him clues but more daring: giving him your hand, resting your head on his shoulder (if it doesn't bother him) and all while smiling and then turning his gaze elsewhere when he notices it. You can tease him gently at times, hug him when you meet, giggle or laugh shortly whenever he does something to amuse himself - even if it's a hackneyed joke, etc. Do this for 10-13 days or until he begins to do the same with you. Of course, this all makes sense if she hasn't already asked you out together. Don't force your hand too hard in this step.
Step 7. Make your move
Many girls can feel a little nervous at this point. Keep a cool head. Don't give him the impression that you have a plan. To make your "move", tell the boy if you can meet in a place you know and where there is not too much crowding. Don't choose an alley, though. If it happens during school, you could invite him to your house, to do his homework together, but you can also choose a park or the beach: maybe even the school garden or the back. You can meet him in the afternoon. This way there won't be many people around to see you, but choose a popular place to not make them suspicious of what's about to happen.
Step 8. Show more interest and intimacy
When you meet him somewhere, greet him affectionately, hugging him quickly. Tell him to sit somewhere (on the grass, on a bench, etc.). After a short time in silence, a short conversation begins about something that happened in the previous days. If the story interests him, he might say something that makes you smile. Otherwise, he'll probably start talking about something he likes. If you don't really like what he says or don't particularly care, change the subject and if he says something nice, make him look at you and smile. If it doesn't work, look at it and smile for yourself. Gaze at him long enough for his smile to disappear. Stop smiling too to give him the impression that he has lost control. It is now in your power. Get a few inches closer to him. If he gets close too, it's clear he's interested in what's going on. If he stands back and looks to the side, he may not be sure what is happening or he may be shy. If he looks away or says something, he's probably not ready.
Step 9. Kiss
Now that you're staring at it, it's time. If you can reach for his hand, place yours on his gently. He could take your fingers and squeeze them in his. Now you know it's time. Lean a little towards him: if he leans too, he is definitely ready. If he remains seated, he is probably not sure if he is ready. If this is the case, let him know that everything is okay by putting you cheek to cheek or kissing him on the cheek. If he gets hot, kiss him on the lips. If he responds with a shiver or making small movements, move a little closer and gently pull him towards you by pressing on his arm. Win his attention again by staring him in the eye. If it works, make the most important move. Tilt your head slightly as you approach him. Sometimes guys don't respond to the first lip contact. Keep trying until it responds. When it does, it starts with a soft, passionate kiss. A trick: think about positive things. This will make it more intense. Bring your arms up and slowly hug her neck. He may respond by placing his hands on your hips. He may not even respond, but if you're still kissing, he's still into you and the moment.
Advice
- Girls: Keep your breath fresh. No guy wants to kiss a girl who looks like she just ate raw onion. Put some mints in your mouth or chew gum. And, anyway, you will need to brush your teeth daily.
- Remember to tilt your head. This will avoid a clash of noses.
- Make sure he's ready before you try to kiss him. Don't just throw your face against his when you first meet!
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Put on some lip balm or butter and cocoa; not lip gloss. Not many guys like to have the cherry flavor of a lip gloss all over their lips.
Dress and move as you feel most comfortable
- There are other ways to show that you have a passion for him during the kiss. You can put your arms around his neck, but you can also: put your hands against his chest, put a hand on his shoulder, put your hands on his chest; try different ways to make the kiss more interesting by touching his cheeks or hair etc.
- Never rush things. A guy will appreciate what happens more if it happens slowly and nicely.
- Don't look desperate. It would make him think that something is wrong. Be patient.
- Be yourself and don't change just to impress him.
- Don't kiss him in public or in front of people you know - especially friends. It would be too embarrassing.
- Close your eyes when you kiss. If, however, you don't want to do this, it's not mandatory.
- Try to arrange the meeting in a place that is not filled with memories or that means something just to you as a couple. This will make the kiss much more memorable.
- Don't wear something uncomfortable just to impress him.
- Practice the art of kissing before deciding that the time is right. If you can't kiss, how can you expect him to reciprocate with passion?
- Make sure he's the best guy for you.
- When giving a French kiss, don't stick your tongue in each side of his mouth. Your tongue would look like a fish out of the water in its mouth. At the same time, do not keep the tongue dead, it would seem to him to have a lump in his mouth. To do this well, "train" your tongue for French kissing by standing in front of a mirror and moving your tongue in a circle until you feel comfortable. When the feeling you have is positive, you are probably doing it right.
Warnings
- Don't rush into the kiss. If you do, it may reject you and make you feel uncomfortable.
- Don't make him think it's a step towards sexual intercourse. Let him know that you stop at the kiss and he will understand.
- Don't try to make out if you're not sure he likes it. Some guys don't feel comfortable doing this.
- Never overdo it.
- If he touches your breasts and you're not ready for it, tell him to stop. If he continues, stop kissing him and tell him you need to leave.
