You've seen it loads of times in the movies, the girl sitting in the corner drinking a glass of punch, the cute guy coming over and asking her to dance. She gives him his hand and they begin to dance romantically in the center of the ballroom, like two lovers. After the dance the boy takes her home and in front of her door she says "it was a nice evening", and he replies "for me too". Then they look into each other's eyes and, you know what happens, BAM! They kiss. Would you like it to happen to you too? Read this article to make this dream come true.
Steps
Step 1. Make sure the guy comes to the prom
If he doesn't feel like it, convince him. If, on the other hand, you already know he will come, it's perfect, but don't force him to dance if he doesn't want to. If you force him to come, he probably won't dance, he may feel intimidated by your behavior. But don't worry if he doesn't come, there will be more dancing.
Step 2. Wear clothing that makes you look fabulous
Even if the guy you have a crush on isn't going to go to prom, you still have to dress well, you never know who you might meet. Remember to wear a dress suitable for dancing. Middle school dances are generally not very formal; if that's the case for what you're going to, just wear a cute t-shirt with skinny jeans. Make sure they are suitable for your age. If the prom is more formal, take the cutest dress you have in the closet. Wear a whimsical, comfortable and elegant dress. Don't use pompous Cinderella clothes, as you will end up looking silly. Put on some makeup, but don't overdo it, remember that you are in middle school. Try to stay natural, just a little lip gloss and a touch of blush with a tone similar to that of your skin. It doesn't matter if your parents don't want you to wear makeup, you will look beautiful even without it. If you usually wear glasses, wear contact lenses for prom, but only if you want.
Step 3. When you arrive, look around until you find the guy you want to dance with
Some girls think it is better to sit in a corner and show a solitary air, but often this technique does not appeal to boys; they like lively girls, who have fun on the track. They don't want to dance with a loser sitting in the corner alone! Have fun! It's a dance, after all. Be confident and dance with your friends. Don't overdo it, but act like you're having fun. Make sure you are in the "cute boy's" field of vision. He won't be able to notice you if you don't show up. Glance at him while you dance to see if he has noticed you and if he wanders aimlessly, follow him unnoticed. Don't act like a stalker, though. If he always stays in the same place, stay close to him so that he notices you. If you catch him looking at you, or vice versa, he notices you looking at him, smile at him and if he comes over while you dance, don't start acting weird or silly. Smile and introduce yourself if you don't know him yet. If you already know him, say hello.
Step 4. When the slow starts, go find it
Stay close to him so that if he wants to dance with you, he can find you easily. If he's dancing with another girl, wait for the song to finish. If he doesn't dance with anyone, wait for him to come and ask you to dance with you, but if he doesn't, don't worry. The night is still young. If he asks you to dance it's perfect! Look around you. If everyone else is slow dancers normally (the boy's hands on the girl's waist, and the girl's hands on the boy's shoulders), do it too. Swing to the beat of the music. If everyone is dancing (even if it doesn't happen often in junior high), take his hand and bring him to the middle of the room. Don't dance in silence, tell him something!
Step 5. When another slow starts, go find it again
If he is dancing with another girl, try to understand if she is the same as before. If it's her, then she's probably his girlfriend, which means she's probably not going to dance with you anymore. If it's not the same, then you're in luck! He probably doesn't have a girlfriend, and he's a person who likes to dance. If he is still alone, stay in sight and see if he asks you to dance. If it doesn't, don't worry. There will be another slow one later. If, on the other hand, he asks you to dance with him again, you've hit the mark! You're one step closer to the kiss you've been waiting for, he probably has a crush on you! Dance with him again.
Step 6. If you found out he has a girlfriend, find another guy to slow next
If he is dancing with several girls, then you will have to make your move. Guys don't like having to ask girls to dance all the time! We are in the 21st century! Walk towards him randomly and ask him to dance. He'll probably tell you yes, but if he doesn't, don't worry. Find another guy. If once again it is he who comes to you, you can play with your cards face up.
Step 7. Make sure you dance with him the last song of the evening, so you will remain etched in his mind
Step 8. When the song is over, tell him you enjoyed it
If he greets you and walks away, it means he doesn't like you (not enough to kiss you, at least). It does not matter. There will be other dances and other kids. He may even be too shy to declare himself! If he smiles and tells you that it was a good evening for him too, then things are looking good. If you walk home, ask him to keep you company. If he tells you he already has another way to go home, smile and tell him "see you soon", or whatever you prefer, and go home with your friends. If he accepts your invitation, however, everything goes as planned! Go out and start a conversation if you find he isn't talking. You decide the topic, sports, teachers, homework, pets, family, friends, dance. Whatever, just talk. If you're lucky enough, she'll hold your hand, which means you'll likely get your kiss. If not, don't worry. There is always a good chance that that kiss will eventually come. After all, you've come this far!
Step 9. Now that you have arrived at your home, the time is right
Either now, or never. Before you knock on the door or ring the doorbell, tell him he's a very nice guy, that you had a good time with him, or that you enjoyed meeting him. Then thank him for keeping you company. Be brave and kiss him on the cheek. At this point you will both blush a little. Now walk away, look him in the eye and smile. If he wants to kiss you, he will. If it does, fine, otherwise don't force it. He may not be ready or is probably still confused by the kiss you gave him on the cheek (for many middle school kids this might be the first kiss). Smile, say hello and go home. Sooner or later he will think about it, and you can take advantage of it at the next dance!
Step 10. If he kisses you, congratulations
After the kiss you will blush a little. It's perfectly normal, make a cute face and say hello. Don't look at him as if you made a mistake, or he'll think you don't like it. Show him you liked it!
Step 11. It's all downhill now
If he kissed you, he'll probably ask you out sometime, which means he really likes you. If he doesn't, try to be friends with him anyway. Friendship is an excellent springboard for more serious relationships. When you are friends you will feel comfortable with each other and can be ready to take your relationship to the next level (probably in the next prom!).
Step 12. Always try to be close to him
Act like you're having fun, so they'll think you're a fun person!
Advice
- Make sure you have fun with your friends during the prom, don't focus solely on that guy.
- When you are with him, don't be silly or giggle nervously, or you will make him uncomfortable. Act naturally and be yourself.
- Don't get too fixated on him, he might get annoyed and quickly lose interest in you.
- Don't show interest.
- Since you're in junior high, neither of you will have a car. This means that you cannot have a romantic moment in the car without feeling the embarrassment caused by the presence of parents or an older brother in the front seat.
- Don't be rude when you talk to him.
- If that doesn't work, don't worry. There are a lot of fish in the sea, and you still have all your high school years ahead of you!
- Learn how to slow dance, there are many articles on WikiHow explaining how to do it. This way you will avoid many embarrassing moments.
- Learn the moves of famous dances, such as Beyonce's “Signle Ladies” or Souljia Boy's “Crank Dat”. Do it for fun and to impress others.
Warnings
- Do not overdo it.
- Try not to act silly when you are at the prom, and don't be silly just to impress him, like dancing like crazy, shouting his name, or popping a bag of potato chips just to get noticed.
- Find out if he has a girlfriend before you know him. If it does, don't be afraid! As already mentioned, the sea is full of fish!
