Sometimes you will find yourself in situations where boys and girls are together (at a party, in a club, or in any other informal situation) and have a desire to stand out from the others. You may want to go out with a group of guys for the first time to test affinity with someone you like. Or, you might be at a party and want to impress a guy you've known for some time. How can you get guys noticed without risking going too fast or passing for someone desperate to start a relationship at all costs? How can you naturally relate to children while aiming for a possible future relationship? Keep reading!
Steps
Step 1. Think in advance about the personality of the kids who will be present
Determine if they are outgoing, introverted, sporty, intelligent and well-behaved, etc. This, for example, will help you avoid talking too much with a guy who isn't too talkative, which could negatively affect a possible future date with him. Ultimately, try to make a good impression on everyone, even if you're only interested in one or two, because maybe a person you're not interested in could become the best friend of the guy you like.
Step 2. Look closely at how the kids interact with each other and try to mimic their behavior
They will find that you are trying to get closer to their platonic style in relationships and this will give you an edge. They will see you as a platonic friend and will want to spend more time with you. This will give you other opportunities to develop chemistry and attraction between you. Just remember to do not try to intrude on their bonds. Guys value friendship a lot, and you have to do the same thing, so let them always do what they need to do.
Step 3. Try to be interesting
Guys get bored easily with girls who don't have a lot of interests or limited conversation topics. Bring out your culture and fun nature by talking, joking, playing, etc. However, this does not mean that you are talking non-stop (as often happens). Let them talk about themselves. Reassure them by making original and inspiring comments to show that you pay attention to what they say. The longer they think about what you said, the more they will think about you, perhaps questioning their attraction to you. Boys love to solve mysteries!
Step 4. Socialize with everyone
If you're trying to leave a door open with guys, or if you've picked the guy you like, don't just go with him. Socialize with everyone equally. Guys like open girls and this will also create a slight competition between them. Guys like to chase girls and get involved with themselves, it gives them purpose. If you like a guy, don't rush too much at the start of the match, keep your distance. You don't have to reveal your choice too soon, or you risk giving the impression that finding a boyfriend was your only goal!
Step 5. Let yourself be desired
Another way to express this concept is to "pull it", although this expression is often misunderstood. Guys don't want a girl so outgoing that she's open to everything, including her own sexuality. Sure, they might fantasize about spending hot nights with these kinds of girls, but that will reduce the likelihood of a lasting relationship. Choose clothes that showcase your best features, but without showing too much. Beyond appearance, don't reveal your thoughts or intentions too easily. If they ask you something about yourself, don't always give a clear answer, keep yourself a little evasive. Let them try to find out who you are. Be a puzzle.
Advice
- Always be yourself, at any cost. Guys recognize the fiction a kilometer away and you'd lose their respect.
- Never talk about your period, diet, or weight-related topics. These things are typically feminine and you don't want to be the typical girl, the stereotype: you want to be different. These things are also topics that a guy has no interest in talking about.
- When you talk to them do not avoid eye contact. All the more reason, if you're not interested in someone, make eye contact to show them you don't like them and make sure you don't blush when they're around.
Warnings
- If a guy seems to be completely disinterested or indifferent to you, don't be angry. This attitude can be due to multiple reasons: he may be pretending not to be interested, but in reality he is not, or it could be due to his shyness or maybe because he thinks you are the indifferent one. Be patient! There are some things you can't change, so look for someone else! He may be interested in another girl, he may be gay, or he may have just gotten out of a long relationship.
- Someone might take advantage of you, so try to be very careful not to take too sensual an approach. You don't want them to consider you the sex object of the community!
