Is there a girl you like, but you don't know how to get her attention? There is a way to communicate with her without resorting to words and make her fall in love. Body language belongs to the category of non-verbal communication, and includes your physical appearance, your smell, the way you walk and move your body and the expressions on your face. Below you will find some very useful steps to conquer the girl of your dreams.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Part 1: Probe the Ground
Step 1. Get her attention
This doesn't mean you have to stare at her until she feels uncomfortable. What you need to do are simple things that will make her want to get to know you before approaching her. That way, when you get close to her, she'll be ready to listen to you.
Step 2. Find out what she likes
Be careful if she brings her favorite book with her, or if you hear her talk about a movie or game she likes. Then, walk or sit near where she usually goes and take the object of her interest with you and wait for it to notice you.
Step 3. Look up and greet her when she passes you by
Smile when she looks at you, but don't look too excited to see her or she'll think you're desperate.
Method 2 of 3: Part 2: Prepare
Step 1. Dress well
Girls immediately notice the appearance of a boy, especially the shoes because they determine if you are a confident and interesting person. Get ready for the day your eyes meet. You always look your best, that way when she looks in your direction, you will feel confident in yourself.
- Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable but also look good on you.
- Wear bright colors. This doesn't mean you have to dress in glow-in-the-dark green, but if you always wear soft colors, such as gray and black, no one will notice you, especially the girl you like.
- Look after your appearance. Nobody wants to get close to a scruffy person. If your appearance says you're happy to get up in the morning and get ready, everyone will want to get to know you, especially that special girl. Leave those holey, smelly sneakers at home and focus on your look. Girls spend a lot of time getting ready and looking beautiful, so they certainly appreciate a guy who is as committed as they do. For sure he will notice it.
Step 2. Take care of your smell
Women have a developed sense of smell and almost all of them adore a man who smells good. Make sure she likes your perfume.
- Take a shower every day. If you are an athlete, take a shower even after training.
- Brush your teeth carefully without forgetting to brush the back of the tongue where foul-smelling bacteria tend to accumulate.
- Floss every day. The removal of bacteria between the teeth and from the tongue eliminates heavy breath.
- Always carry refreshing mints with you. He will never kiss you if you have bad breath.
- Put the perfume on, but only a spray or two at most, not the whole bottle, otherwise the perfume will get the opposite effect. My suggestion is a perfume bought from a perfumery and not from the supermarket. A bottle of good perfume will last a year or more for most kids. If you really care about her, it will be worth it. If you shower, comb your hair, floss, wear a squirt of perfume, and eat a mint before you talk to her, not only will she respond to you, but she'll also appreciate your cleanliness and remember your smell.
Step 3. Prepare questions and approach her as she walks or sits alone
To start the conversation, you might ask her something like: "Can you believe the Prof gave us some homework for the holidays?", Or "Did you like the band that played at the bar last week?". Be friendly and welcome her with a smile and a simple "Hello". You will be surprised how effective such a simple approach is. Try to ask her questions about things you share, such as a teacher you have in common, or a sport you both play. Be positive and cheerful. The feeling she gets when she is close to you is the most important thing she will remember when she thinks of you.
- Comment on the spot if you meet in public places, such as bars or parks. For example: “Don't you think this park is very beautiful and relaxing?”, Or “Have you ever come to this place on Karaoke night? Is fantastic!". Don't offer her a drink until you've talked to each other for a few minutes.
- Be enthusiastic about any topic of conversation. A flat personality and a monotonous tone of voice will push her away and she will barely respond to you. You may approach her on the dance floor, but be careful. After all, girls go out dancing to spend a night with women. The winning approach is your smile, then extend your hand and introduce yourself in this way: "Hello, I am (your name)". Then, talk to your friends and say something like “Hi girls. I am (name)”. Her friends will appreciate your safety.
- After talking to her for a few minutes, invite her to a dance or offer her a drink. Remember that your smile must be genuine. Girls are used to having other guys around, so she'll be on her guard even before you've exchanged a word. Either way, thanks to non-verbal language, like a nice smile and a clean look, she'll feel safe when you speak.
Method 3 of 3: Part 3: Keeping His Interest Alive
Step 1. Be sure of yourself
Women are more aware of the trust we place in us than anything else. If a boy is sure of himself, he perceives himself from the other side of the room; she will feel at ease and will talk to you if you give her the impression of believing in yourself and in your abilities. Don't be arrogant though. Be aware of yourself and your strengths.
- Keep your shoulders straight and let her know that you are confident.
- Remove your hands from your pockets and stand still on both feet.
- Wait for the right moment to get close and don't chase her.
- Look for eye contact and keep it. Looking away from time to time is natural, but let her know that you are listening to her. Be prepared to make the first move. She will expect you to be the first to call or text her.
Step 2. Be yourself
If you're a funny type, then make her laugh. If you are smart, then talk about something interesting you know. If you are a musician, tell her what it feels like to play an instrument. Focus on simple topics and don't try to impress too quickly. Girls don't like guys full of air.
Step 3. Be a good listener
Pay attention to her stories about her friendships, or what she finds funny. You don't have to agree with her, but don't tell her what to do. Sometimes repeat the things he tells you and don't talk too much about yourself. Smile to let her know that you like her and that you are happy to spend time with her. Keep your eyes on her. Don't look or talk to other girls while you are with her; must understand that it is the only one in your thoughts. Put your phone away.
Step 4. Be on time
Never cancel an appointment and arrive on time. He will understand that he is your priority and that he is important. Girls work a lot on their looks, so be patient. Your calm will put her at ease and the evening will go well.
Step 5. Be a gentleman
Open the doors for her and have her walk in front of you in narrow streets. Most girls will appreciate these kindnesses. Offer her your sweatshirt or jacket if she feels cold; girls love to wear a boy's jacket.
Step 6. Break down physical barriers
After spending several hours together, and you know she likes to be with you, get close to her. Physical contact will make the conversation more intimate and meaningful.
- Start by hugging her when you say goodbye. Do not make the hug last more than 3-6 seconds so as not to make her feel uncomfortable. If he squeezes you and holds you tight, it means that you are ready for the next step.
- Take her hand. If she squeezes yours too, or if she intertwines her fingers with yours, then she really likes you and wants to be your girlfriend.
Advice
- Beware of jokes. Be playful, but not offensive. Girls are sensitive and joke differently than men. Only joke about topics she feels confident about.
- Girls really like sincere compliments, like: "I really like your hair". Don't make compliments about her body - including lips and eyes until you know each other well enough. She'll feel uncomfortable if she thinks you're thinking about her sexuality and not just the fact that she's a cute girl you want to get to know better.
- Read the WikiHow article to learn how to read her body language and see if it's even worth getting close to her. Understanding body language will reveal everything you need to know.
- Never criticize a girl or treat her like she is one of your friends. He'll think you're not interested.
