Regarding all relationships that start in chat or email, 94% of those who know each other for the first time continue to date. In other words, "online dating" is more successful than you might think at first glance. To get to the point of being able to meet someone you know on the internet in person, you will need some initial flirting skills online.
Whether you're looking for a casual fling or a steady relationship, here are some tips for successful flirting online.
Steps
Step 1. Stand out
Look for a way to stand out from all other people looking for love online. It's not difficult, it's just about being reasonable, kind and not trying to fight or insult anyone. Sadly, the internet never forgets anything, and it keeps track of everything that is posted, so make sure you're always fair and writing things your grandmother would approve of too (at least as far as what you write in public). It is simply much easier to be nice, friendly and thoughtful than to be aggressive and have to retreat afterwards; however, the very essence of flirting is to be intriguing and kind. It's also about making a good impression right from the start:
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Think carefully about how to summarize yourself in your profile. Highlight your most characteristic, interesting and true aspects, so that everyone can read them.
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Use a cute profile photo. Do not try to be the "gymnasium" or the "weird" on duty. Show yourself in a genuine, ordinary and pleasant way as a human being, starting with a photo that enhances yourself to the fullest.
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Avoid looking stupid or doing stupid things, like those pictures of riding a mule completely naked, or making some cries. They might have been funny at the time, but now they aren't anymore, and rather prove that you are quite immature.
Flirt Online Step 1Bullet3 - Avoid masking your true age behind youthful imagery. Getting you called "Sexyboy1962" isn't very tempting; "DaddySatisfied49" could be more interesting and realistic.
Step 2. Be careful, it's a rule
In other words, don't flaunt your private information every time you meet someone new online. Try to be a little mysterious, but most importantly, keep your personal data safe. Giving your phone number or address to someone who looked nice at first but then turned out to be "weird" can be scary or even scary. Before sharing intimate details, spend a lot of time getting to know the person in front of you, but even when you decide to meet, make sure that the first meetings always take place in public. If you stick to this simple rule, the rest of your flirting online is just fun.
Step 3. Try to look your best
When flirting, nice pictures of your face and full figure (dressed!) Are a must. If you can't take decent photos yourself, ask a friend or professional to take some of them. After all, once you have them, you can reuse them around until you find the right person. Make sure you smile in those photos, to make a better impression. Send them to the person you're flirting with to take them into account.
- Avoid the temptation to post hundreds of photos to show off with other people. Everyone will start to think that you are a vain. Also, if all of these photos are available on your public profile, they'll start wondering if you can handle a serious monogamous relationship. Instead, select just a few of the best photos that reflect your lifestyle, hobbies or other interests.
- Show your funny, friendly and kind side in photos. Pictures with animals, children, or where you do funny or out-of-the-ordinary things will do just fine. Make sure they reflect your current habits.
- Use your photos as an opportunity to showcase your hobbies.
- Keep the dirty photos for your personal album (if you really can't do without them). Do not circulate these photos, otherwise you will end up finding them scattered on the net in the most unthinkable sites, for example in pornographic ones. Avoid, really: it's for your own good.
- Photos in which you appear drunk are deleterious. They may look good to you at the moment, but the impression doesn't last. Also, it's a weird thought to believe that your drunk photos may be tempting to the opposite sex; they are not: they simply show that you cannot control yourself and that you have the potential to become an alcoholic in the future. Definitely a way to fail.
Step 4. Be honest about your age
If you're not, and the person you're flirting with turns out to be worth meeting, you could screw it up the moment they find out your true age. Being honest about your age is also important when you want to connect with people of a specific age group; It is not fair to let them assume that you are younger or older, and being honest helps you connect with people who have no problem with the age difference.
Step 5. Be funny when flirting
Humor is a good way to start flirting online, and you could use the shared interests shown in profiles to help you. Don't be heavy and don't take yourself or your flirting too seriously. Try to entertain the other person, especially on topics that interest both of you. Just make sure you don't share offensive or degrading jokes. Even photos or images can be fun.
Step 6. Don't overdo the approach
You may ditch the flirtation prematurely if the other person believes you are rushing things with overly amorous language. Whatever you do, avoid coming up with an "I love you" based on some email exchange or a couple of profile photos. It would just be a way to end the relationship instantly. It's okay to tell the other person that you think they are lovable, good, and charming, but leave love language aside until you get to know each other thoroughly. If you would never say something in real life, then don't say it in chat.
- Avoid references and images related to the sexual sphere. The online equivalent of a deep breath on the phone, dirty stories and free nudity are to be avoided when flirting. Imagine the embarrassment of meeting for the first time a person who has already seen your genitals via webcam. No. Simply, no. Avoid. Keep some mystery, and keep your self-esteem. If it's not something you would show your friends too, then don't even show it to someone you barely know but who you really want to get to know better. Seriously!
- Be funny and make some "risqué" jokes if you know your interlocutor is open-minded, but don't go overboard with smut. If it looks like pornography, it's certainly not a flirtation.
Step 7. Reply
A flirt requires someone to be on the other end of the line, otherwise it won't work. Reply to as many messages as you can (if motivated) and show the other person that you enjoy texting with them.
Being available does not mean telling all the details of your entire existence. This way you will no longer be flirting, but just boring the other person. In particular, avoid your stories from elementary or middle school like the plague: they are boring, especially if they are also about your first experiences or your previous partners. These tales will make the situation deeper and more meaningful, actually moving you away from a simple and light flirt
Step 8. Persevere
Put at least a little effort into flirting, without expecting too much in return, at least until you find the right person. Be positive when connecting with others; if it sounds too good to be true, or too little sense, then trust your gut and look for some other person online. On the other hand, don't give up too easily: the online environment leads people to embellish some aspects of themselves… It may take some time to "scratch" the surface behind which they hide. As mentioned, keep the flirting light and stay available.
Step 9. Be very careful about asking "M" issues, such as marriage, monogamy, and motherhood
These are all words that kill flirtation. They might become suitable words in the future, but they aren't when you barely know a person - they're not suitable for flirting (unless you're the classic type of person who flirts with anyone and makes empty promises). This is especially true in the context of the internet, where you haven't had a chance to get to know each other in person yet or are still trying to figure out whether or not it's worth pushing the relationship to a higher level. Talking about love and marriage when you are flirting online can send ambiguous or just plain wrong messages.
Step 10. Be the prize
Much of online flirting is about establishing roles. You have to make the other person understand that you are the object to be conquered, and not the other way around! It may seem strange at first, but once you have done the proper practice it will come naturally to you. Tease the other person lightly if you post pictures that clearly try to get you aroused, and do the opposite of those people who take advantage of the situation in an exaggerated way! For example, you can say: "I guess with that photo you want to get some more emails to fuel your self-esteem, right?". This way you will dispel any doubts about your ease of costumes.
Slow down if you are excited. Your photos and profile will do most of the work in the beginning. By taking things slow, you won't feel like you're a desperate or easy person, especially if you're a girl. It's also a lot more fun to flirt at your own pace
Advice
- Some dating experts suggest that women should try to get as much information as possible about the man they are flirting with, while sharing theirs as little as possible. This is a precaution for your safety. Use instant messages as a means of getting the information you need. Search his identity online to see what else you can find.
- Letting the other person have instant control of the interaction (and relationship) comes as a natural consequence of too many compliments like, "You're so hot". Seriously, any idiot sends messages like this: don't be one of them! If this person is really that hot, you know what? He already knows! So it doesn't matter if you write it to him … Now he'll just know it's not worth taking you seriously.
- When you're chatting, adding a description of your actions will let the other person know what kind of person you are. Did he pay you a compliment? Thank her, and if you feel flattered, write "I blushed." The other person can understand a lot about your personality from the type of actions you describe.
Warnings
- People lie online. Sometimes you may be surprised or disappointed.
- For women: if you have to meet in the evening, bring some friends with you.
- Always meet the other person in public places, at least until you have gotten to know each other thoroughly. In particular, the first date should always take place in a very crowded place.
- Avoid photos from afar; let your potential partners see a close-up photo of you.
- Photos of you dating back to the 1980s simply reveal that you were mentally stuck at that time. Avoid them like the plague.
- Unless you have a phone with an excellent video camera, avoid cell phone photos. Also avoid the photos of the booths: they are too "set".
- Avoid using photos with any of your exes (or from whom your ex has been clipped).
