Flirting isn't just the icing on the cake when it comes to impressing that special boy or girl. Flirting is absolutely necessary. It allows you to instantly establish a connection with that person and show them that you like them. If you want to get noticed by him or her, you need to learn a few tricks.
Steps
Step 1. Break the ice
This isn't difficult if you are confident and determined to flirt with this person. If you don't know each other, introduce yourself and try to tell a story. If you've chatted before and enjoyed it so far, try making contact by lightly touching her or removing an imaginary lash from her cheek.
Step 2. Observe how he reacts
Should they walk away (determining the physical distance between you), cross your arms (establishing the symbolic distance between you), find an excuse to text, etc., stop flirting (or stop making it seem obvious - it's possible that you're intimidating her). Don't react badly; part of flirting is knowing how to put a good face on a bad situation, so smile, thank her for the chat, and say you have a commitment. Then, go back to your friends or try to use your charm with someone else. If you can't stand being rejected, read How to Stop Needing Other People Too Much for some advice.
Step 3. Flirt using body language
People watch body language more carefully than words when flirting, so it should be a top priority. Don't cross your arms, hunch your back, create distance between you and your target, or avoid looking this person in the eye. These are all classic signs that they'd better stay away from you. If you are a girl, smile; it may seem trivial, but some studies show that it is the most effective thing a woman can do to appear more attractive to a man. Make sure you smile with your eyes to make your expression more effective. If you are a man, try to maintain good posture and look sturdy and strong so that you can protect it.
Step 4. Flirt when you are not around
Just because you can't touch her, which is the most effective method of flirting, doesn't mean you can't do it anyway when the other person isn't next to you. Put a letter or drawing in her locker so she can find it during the day (or leave it on a Friday so she can find it Monday morning and wonder how she got there). Also, send her text messages, emails and messages on Messenger. Read How to Flirt Via Sms for useful tips.
Step 5. Leave it watering your throat
If the flirting is going for the best, you want it to never end (especially if you like the person in question), but by doing so you risk becoming boring. Watch out for any signs that this is stalling. If you can't think of a new and exciting way to make conversation, give it a break. Be polite, but don't apologize; ditching, at least temporarily, a person interested in you will make you seem more intriguing.
Step 6. Flirt often
Flirting doesn't just involve a certain way of acting, it also involves understanding people, which takes practice. Flirt (discreetly) with many people and you will be able to hone your seduction techniques. Just be careful not to overdo it, or you will get the reputation of someone who tries everything, and the person who really interests you will not take you seriously when you make a sincere effort.
Step 7. Try to avoid the "friend zone"
Being friendly with someone sometimes puts you at risk of being considered, well, as a friend, and nothing is less seductive than being considered as such by the person you like. Avoid being too available, giving too much (time, energy, attention) or putting too much effort into it. For example, if you and your crush usually meet at the lockers or while queuing in the canteen, try not to be there every day, so that they will have time to miss you. If you feel more comfortable with a polite and platonic flirting style, step out of your comfort zone and try to send out more explicit signals. If you're a guy, read How to Touch a Girl to Make Physical Contact. If you're a girl, read How to Suggest a Boy to Kiss You.
Advice
- You smile! You will show the other person that you are comfortable in their company!
- Don't overdo it when flirting!
- Do not be shy.
