Of all the ways to flirt with a girl, online is the most challenging. Words can be misunderstood, humor can be dispersed, and interaction can be a real disaster. However, you do have the opportunity to hook a woman over the internet and invite her out using the right tools and building a friendly atmosphere. If you have confidence in yourself, you will be able to attract her attention, but learning to relate to her will also allow you to get closer to this goal.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Choosing the Method to Flirt Online
Step 1. Flirt via a dating site
There are dozens of dating sites online today, so do your research and pick one that suits your needs.
- Find a site that takes into account your age group, your religious beliefs, the type of relationship or the type of membership you are looking for (free or paid). Among the most popular online dating websites consider Meetic, Badoo, Lovepedia, Parship, and Zoosk.
- Sign up and build your profile. Answer the questions that are asked honestly, because in this way you will help the site's algorithm to select the girls that best suit your personality.
- Upload at least one photo in which you look attractive so that those interested can get an idea of what you are physically like.
Step 2. Flirt using social networks
By now, social networks have spread enormously and, as a result, they have also become a way to flirt and build relationships.
- Register on a social network, such as Facebook, Instagram or Twitter;
- Enter the most important information and upload a photo on your profile;
- Decide whether to make your profile public or private. However, be aware that if you choose private mode, you may be preventing girls from interacting with you.
- Look for hashtags or groups on topics you are passionate about so you can find girls to share your interests with.
Step 3. Flirt in a chat
Chat is another space that lets you get to know a girl without getting distracted by the profile and status updates.
- Find a chat for single people who want to flirt or start a relationship.
- If necessary, sign up or simply log into the site to start chatting.
Part 2 of 3: Internet Flirting with a Girl
Step 1. Trust yourself and be friendly when you contact her
When communicating with a girl over the Internet for the first time, put yourself in the game to let her know that you are interested in her.
- Start by saying "Hi!".
- Introduce yourself briefly. All you need to say at this point is your name.
- Ask her a question about something on her profile that caught your attention.
Step 2. First of all, try to make her feel comfortable
Many girls can feel distressed and unsafe when flirting online, especially if they don't know the man they're interacting with.
- When she writes to you, reply to her within a reasonable time. If you respond immediately, he may think that you are an anxious type, while if you waste too much time, he may convince himself that you have no interest in him. If you have the opportunity, you should respond within a few hours.
- Try to get to know her and understand her character. By inquiring about her physical appearance or asking her to send you some photos, you risk giving her the wrong impression of why you keep chatting with her.
- Avoid asking her for an appointment right away or setting up a meeting. Again, this could give her the wrong impression and discourage her from chatting with you. It is preferable that you continue talking for at least a few days before meeting each other in person.
Step 3. Continue to contact her at your own time
During this phase, you should get to know her just enough to figure out if you'd like to go out with her.
- Keep your conversations balanced by avoiding focusing on yourself alone. Answer her questions and, when you can, try to reciprocate by asking her about her life.
- Be polite and, if appropriate, make a few jokes. Don't be afraid to joke and be witty as your sense of humor is very likely to appreciate.
Step 4. Keep your conversations alive by asking open-ended questions that concern you personally
- "What do you do?"
- "If you could travel around the world, where would you go and why?"
- "What is your favorite season and why?"
- "Do you have brothers and / or sisters? How many?"
- "How do you spend time with your family?"
- "What do you prefer to do with friends?"
- "What was your favorite vacation and why?"
- "Do you like animals? Which ones?"
- "How would your best friend describe you?"
- "What is your favorite memory from years in high school / college?"
- "What's your favorite application?"
Step 5. Compliment her by pointing out what you like about her
- "I love your sense of humor!"
- "It's so interesting to hear you talk about travel. You obviously love to explore the world!"
- "It's a great book! You are very sensitive"
- "You have good taste in music"
- "It's clear that your family is a point of reference in your life. I'm glad"
- "It's admirable that you enjoy volunteering. The world needs people like you!"
- "I haven't met many people who appreciate their work as much as you do. Keep it up!"
- "I appreciate the fact that you love animals"
- "You are such a caring person. It is truly commendable!"
Step 6. Have a friendly chat about what you have in common or interest both of you
Try to find out what you have in common.
- "What's your favorite musical genre?"
- "Have you ever been to any concerts? Which one did you like best?"
- "What's your favorite kind of reading?"
- "Do you support a sports team?"
- "Have you visited many places?"
- "What's your favorite dish?"
- "Do you like cooking?"
- "When you were in high school / university, what did you do in your spare time?"
Step 7. If possible, avoid complaining
Focus conversations on getting to know each other. Tell her frankly and politely what you think, leaving aside the most controversial topics, otherwise if disagreements arise, you risk compromising communication.
- Don't complain about friends and family
- Don't complain about your job
- Don't complain about other women you've dated or flirted with in the past
- Don't discuss politics and legal issues
- Don't talk about religion if you don't know which denomination it belongs to
- Don't discuss environmentalism and animal rights
- Don't discuss civil rights and women's rights
Step 8. Avoid overly personal questions as well
They might give her the impression that you are interested for the wrong reasons. They include explicitly sexual arguments. Here are some questions not to ask when you start flirting and dating a girl online.
- "How much do you earn on average per year?"
- "When did you last have a relationship?"
- "Why is it over?"
- "How many boyfriends have you had?"
- "Have you ever been married?"
- "Where do you live?"
Step 9. Write correctly when chatting
Many women do not waste time closing the conversation when they notice that their male interlocutor is writing without respecting spelling and grammar rules or making excessive use of emoticons.
- Respect the rules of grammar and spelling. You don't have to write flawlessly, but if you are careful, you will prove to be a mature and responsible man.
- Use punctuation appropriately. It is possible that it will tell you something you like or find funny, but in this case avoid using more than one exclamation point at the end of the sentence.
Step 10. Manage the use of emoticons during the conversation
They can make you seem immature or unable to communicate.
- Excessive use of emoticons gives the impression that you have nothing important to say or risks damaging what you have already written.
- Furthermore, it can be a source of misunderstanding and, for example, convey an inappropriate message.
- Contrary to what you might think, emoticons are not meant to make the other person understand your intentions or the tone of your message.
Step 11. Be aware of how your words can be interpreted
It is difficult to convey a message online correctly, so don't assume that your interlocutor understands your intentions perfectly.
- Try to express yourself in a simple way until you get to know her better.
- Be direct even when trying to make a joke.
- Remember the suggestions we have made so far regarding punctuation and emoticons. For example, uppercase characters or too many exclamation marks can be interpreted as if you were yelling.
- Avoid sarcasm while chatting. It is very likely that you will be misunderstood when communicating online with a person you don't know well.
- Don't assume that your interlocutor is knowledgeable about every topic you bring up. The safest thing to do is ask her if she knows, and if not, you can explain yourself better.
Part 3 of 3: Carrying On the Knowledge After Flirting Online
Step 1. Contact her again to let her know you care
He will appreciate having confirmation that you are interested in him. Then, you can give her this reassurance by contacting her or chatting with her other times.
- When you are very busy and unable to respond to her messages, send her a short reply to let her know that you are thinking about her and that you will respond more carefully when you have more time.
- If you want to try chatting back to a girl who hit you, search for her username. When you feel comfortable, ask her for her email address so you can regularly communicate with her through a more private channel.
- Keep flirting with her online until you feel like you can take a step forward.
Step 2. Ask for an appointment in a public place when you are ready
If you want to meet her in person (chats connect you with people from all over the world), send her to a public place so she feels comfortable.
- As a first date, a candlelit dinner can be overwhelming and intimidating, so an afternoon meeting is much more suitable.
- Find something to do that relaxes you and doesn't put you under pressure the first time you meet. For example, a concert by a local band or an art show will give you something to focus on and the chance to eliminate the tension that might arise from the idea of having to have a conversation.
- Be willing to accept any time he suggests, but also a proposal regarding places or things to do. Show her that you appreciate her initiative and sense of security.
Step 3. Be patient and understanding
If you ask her out and she refuses because she still feels uncomfortable, give her more time if your interest in her is genuine.
- If you are not in a hurry to meet her and manage to put her at ease, she will agree to meet you as soon as she feels ready.
- Offer to continue the conversation via text messages or calls. In this way, you will have another channel of communication thanks to which you can feel more and more at ease.
- Let her know that you are willing to wait for her by continuing to talk to her, taking an interest in her life and stories, and being patient.
Advice
- Be yourself. It is important that your interlocutor really knows you and does not have a person in front of you who tries to identify with the man she wants.
- Be understanding when he is late in answering you. She has her own life and probably a job, so if she's interested, she'll respond as soon as she has time.
