Many young people suffer from depression and many of them find it difficult to find the courage to tell their parents or simply do not know how to behave in this situation.
Steps
Step 1. Check that you are truly depressed and that you will not upset your parents at all
However, you shouldn't convince yourself that you aren't just not to tell yours. Find out if you are feeling depressed.
Step 2. First, realize that you can always talk to your mom about how you feel and that if you do, it's a huge, albeit scary, step in the right direction
Step 3. Try to stay calm by breathing deeply and meditating on your own for some time before deciding what to do, as this terrible situation can get worse if you act on impulse
Step 4. If you want to write a letter to your mom, explain that you preferred to use this medium only because you were struggling to find the right words, so you will not give the impression that you do not trust her
Explain yourself fully, honestly, and using good grammar to show how serious what you are communicating to her.
Step 5. If you wish to speak directly to your mother, do so slowly, catching your breath often, and accept that she may be very upset
She is not ashamed of you, but it is very likely that she will feel bad because she will be led to think that it is her fault.
Step 6. Your mother may deny the problem
If it does, perhaps you need to give it more details. If you have been thinking seriously about suicide, let her know.
Step 7. Tell her that you love her and that it's not her fault that you're depressed (and if she is, you know she didn't do it on purpose)
Advice
- Understand what you want beyond the discussion. Do you need help? Or do you just want me to ultimately consider how neglected you feel?
- It's best to talk in a quiet, private place where you feel comfortable and relaxed.
- By telling your mom that you are depressed, you send a definite signal for help, and your mom will surely understand. Talking to her can be very scary… but she will be more helpful than you think.
- Remember that it doesn't matter if you are depressed. Your parents will understand this and will try to give you all the help you need.
- Don't worry if you need to take antidepressants. They will not change your personality, only the feelings you feel. In fact, they're not that bad.
- Seek professional help if you still can't tell your parents. Help of this kind, which may come from a school guidance counselor or a psychotherapist, can be helpful in analyzing your situation and providing you with the means to become happy again. Remember that a professional is completely trustworthy.
- Sometimes it is the negativity of our mind that depresses us, so there is the risk of depending on antidepressants if the problem is not solved. So, the best way to relieve depression is to work on the problem that is making you feel depressed.
- Do not rush. Time heals everything.
Warnings
- Your parents may show rejection or break down after you tell about your depression.
- If you have suicidal thoughts, seek help immediately.
- If you start taking antidepressants that make you feel more depressed, tell your doctor. Don't stop taking it on your own terms. The action of some antidepressants can take longer to work and you may feel worse in the meantime.
