You've been wondering lately how much your mate cares about you. It can be difficult to tell if he loves you, especially if he has never explicitly confessed it to you. However, you can spot some signs that show you whether or not he really loves you.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Observe His Behaviors
Step 1. Notice how he treats you
When a boyfriend loves his girlfriend, he usually treats her with respect. In other words, she listens to her and cares about what happens to her in life. She notices the little things she likes and goes out of her way to give them to him. He appreciates you as a person and takes his opinion into account. From these behaviors, you can tell if your boyfriend genuinely cares about you.
Step 2. Evaluate the extent to which you question his feelings
If a guy really loves you, it's unlikely you'll feel the need to question how he feels. That is to say that, in one way or another, he will make you understand how much he loves you with deeds and with words.
- On the other hand, you have to make sure that your insecurities don't interfere with the feelings expressed by the person you love. In other words, you may not realize that he is in love with you, but it is likely that it is just your anxiety that does not let you know. If other guys you've been with have told you in the past that you're clingy at times, this may be due to some insecurity. Or you have found that when you want to win someone's heart, you are particularly nice and kind or you always try to meet their needs, regardless of yours.
- To deal with this type of insecurities, pay attention to what you feel instead of always focusing on others - take the time to identify your every emotion. Then take your behavior as a reference. If you are confused and start to fear that your boyfriend doesn't love you, you will probably go out of your way to accommodate his every request. Often, this kind of anxiety is unfounded, especially if the other person always finds ways to show you how much he loves you.
- Also, you should identify where your insecurities arise from. Perhaps you have internalized the critical voice of one of your parents or perhaps in the past you have had the misfortune of building relationships with boys who have abused you. Don't allow the most critical part of you to go wild. Rather, get in touch with her. If you find yourself questioning the other person or yourself, try changing your point of view. For example, if you find yourself saying, "If you haven't called me back, chances are you don't love me anymore," drop that kind of thinking. Instead, he thinks, "No, that's not fair. Every day he tells me he loves me. Probably a commitment will have arisen suddenly."
Step 3. Pay attention to how much time he spends with you
If a guy loves you, he doesn't have a hard time spending his time with you. If he regularly arranges to get together and goes out of his way to see you, chances are he is in love.
- See if he neglects you. If your boyfriend actually didn't care about you, he would undoubtedly neglect you. Basically, he would never find the time to be together every time you ask him and, if he does, he could blow you away at the last minute. If so, it means he doesn't love you.
- Of course, it can happen that you have a valid reason to cancel an appointment. However, he should try to notify you as soon as possible and also be interested in seeing you again. If not, he may not be that involved.
Step 4. See if he is willing to commit to the relationship
Basically, you shouldn't be the only one setting schedules and inviting him out - he should do his part too. You don't have to plan everything by yourself. If he's inclined to take the lead, at least sometimes, he almost certainly cares about you.
To make sure he's willing to do his part, try not to schedule everything. Give him the opportunity to arrange appointments for you. If he's interested in you, he needs to be willing to take the initiative
Step 5. Make sure he is willing to compromise
Sometimes a relationship involves the sacrifice of compromising with the other person. It means that in some circumstances it is he who gives something more, in others it is you who give him more. For example, he might come to the cinema to see a movie even though he knows he won't like it, while sometimes you might be watching a football match even if it's not your thing. If he's willing to get into the give-and-take game, he's probably starting to fall in love with you.
Step 6. Be careful if you make small gestures
For example, does he ever ask you if you want water when he goes to the kitchen? Does it put your phone on charge when it notices the battery is running low? If he makes himself useful even before you ask him for something and does small things to make your life better, then he probably loves you.
Step 7. Make sure she doesn't feel embarrassed by your presence
If a guy loves you and wants to be with you, he shouldn't feel any shame. It basically means that he has no problem introducing you to friends and family. If he doesn't intend to, he may not be sure of you yet. Although he may have other reasons that discourage him from taking such a step (such as, for example, different religious beliefs), this kind of embarrassment can be a red flag.
Step 8. See if he wants to be close to you among the people
This aspect marries the previous one. If he's ashamed, he won't approach you in public. In other words, see if he likes to hug you when you are around people or if he shows his affection in front of everyone, for example by holding your hand or hugging you. If he doesn't, he may not be interested in you or it may just be a simple matter of shyness.
Part 2 of 3: Interpreting Your Way of Communicating
Step 1. Observe the way he communicates
If he calls you once a week and has almost nothing to say to you, that's definitely not a good sign. However, if he spontaneously sends you messages and emails, and calls you on a regular basis, he probably can't stop thinking about you, so he's in love with you.
However, every guy is different. Perhaps he is introverted and does not like spending all his time with another person, even when he has feelings for them. Make sure you understand what kind of person they are before jumping to conclusions
Step 2. Pay attention to what interests him
When you are together, does he ask you personal questions, perhaps asking you how was your day? Are you curious about what you are up to in life? If he's really interested in what you do, he probably cares about you.
Step 3. See if he has a good memory
By themselves, guys (like everyone else) tend to forget about things, including important dates and conversations in the past. However, if he goes out of his way to remember the important days and, of course, pays attention to what you say to each other, bringing back your speeches at other times, then it is likely that he is in love with you.
Step 4. Notice if it's rather controversial
If we get into a fight with someone, it means that we care about that person even if we later look for a way to remedy it. If he isn't willing to confront or just shrugs off any topic, he may not feel that involved with you.
You don't necessarily have to be a fight to the death. However, everyone should be able to express their opinion and what they think, even if it can spark an argument. If he doesn't seem willing to commit to this, he may not be interested in you
Step 5. Pay attention to how he expresses himself
If he starts using "we" instead of "I" on a regular basis, it could be another sign that he is in love. "We" indicates that he is starting to see you as part of a unit, a pair, which means his transport is starting to increase.
Step 6. Notice if you use the same type of language
If you use the same expressions, including nicknames and jokes that only you understand, that's a good sign. It means that you are on the right path to establishing a strong bond. If he has given you a nickname (intended exclusively for you), it is very likely that he is falling in love.
Step 7. Don't be afraid to ask questions
If your relationship is going well, you can easily talk about how each one feels about the other. Tell him what you like about him and what you feel. In turn, ask him if it is the same for him too.
For example, you might say, "I think I'm falling in love with you. I'm not sure I'll be loved in return, so I'm not so sure."
Part 3 of 3: Understanding Why It Might Not Say "I Love You"
Step 1. Realize that they may fear rejection
When there is no certainty that the other person feels the same feeling, the phrase "I love you" lays bare the person expressing it, making them vulnerable. Maybe your boyfriend fears that you may refuse his love, even if you have already shown him that you are in love.
Step 2. Be aware of how the past can affect the present
If he had a bad relationship before meeting you, he may not be so inclined to throw himself headlong into your relationship. Therefore, if you have not yet addressed this topic, do not automatically assume that something is not going the right way. Chances are he is just waiting to feel ready to commit to you.
Step 3. Realize that some teens have a hard time putting into words what they are feeling
He may not like to talk about his feelings at all and may prefer to show how important you are to him by making you a priority in his life.
