Do you have a crush on a great guy and wonder if he feels the same way too? If so, then don't worry… this article is for you! If you want to know if he's really into you, you need to pay attention to what he does, what he says, and how he behaves around you. If you avoid acting too blatantly, you will soon be able to know how he really feels. Here are some tips on how to figure it out.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Notice what it does
Step 1. Watch her body language
Body language can often reveal a guy's true feelings, no matter how hard he's trying to hide them. While it doesn't tell you exactly how it feels, body language interpretation can help you determine if the guy is more or less romantically interested in you. Watch out for the following signs:
- Turn your hips towards you, even if they are looking in the opposite direction.
- He looks at you, smiles, and then looks down again.
- If he notices you are looking at him, he smiles at you.
- When he talks to you he never puts his hands in his pockets or crosses his arms.
- He leans towards you when he talks to you.
- Turn your feet towards you. If, on the other hand, he points them away from you when you are sitting next to each other, then he may not be interested.
- He may casually brush against you when you speak or touch you lightly with his hands.
Step 2. Notice when he makes his way for you
If he goes a long way to school just to walk with you, or if he offers to take you to class even if it's a long way from his, he probably likes you. He may also find excuses to suddenly appear next to you. For example, to lend you one of his books. It will be his way of letting you know that he wants to spend more time with you.
- See if he offers you a ride home even if he lives on the other side of town.
- See if he waits for you, seemingly for no reason, until you show up.
Step 3. Be careful if he treats you differently than his friends
The greater the difference, the more advantage you will be. For example, he may have vulgar behavior with his friends, but limit himself in your presence. If he's trying to behave as best he can, he might like you. If she sees you as a friend, she may not try to be super refined in your presence.
If he treats you just like someone is his friend, swearing, acting unrefined, or talking to you about other girls he likes, he might just consider you a friend
Step 4. Notice if he behaves well with your friends
If you're out and about with your friends and he comes along, pay attention to how he treats them. If he's attracted to you, he'll want to make a strong impression on your friends so that they tell you how phenomenal he is. Guys know girls like to talk, and if they like you, they'll go out of their way to please your friends. The next time you meet him, check if he is being extremely nice to them and goes to great lengths to be nice.
The same goes for your family members. If he meets you with your mom or siblings and goes out of his way to be nice, he may be doing this because he likes you
Step 5. See if he wants you to meet his friends
If he's reluctant to introduce you to them, it's possible he just wants to have fun. If, on the other hand, he insists on letting you know them, it is a great sign. It means that he wants to show you to others and that he doesn't think like a womanizer.
However, there is an exception to this rule: he may decide not to let you meet his friends because he is too ashamed of them
Step 6. See if he does you constant favors
If he likes you, he will try in every way to do nice things for you. It might bring you lunch when you're having a busy day, it might get you homework if you're sick and haven't been to school, or it might give you a lift when you need it. Think about it: is he just a nice guy or does this behavior suggest something more? If he does constant courtesies in an exclusive way, then there is a chance that he likes you.
He may even text you to ask if you need anything just to have an excuse to talk to you. If he tries to spend as much time with you as possible, even if just to help you, then he is definitely into you
Step 7. Notice if he always moves to your side of the group
The next time you go out with friends, be careful if it naturally ends up gravitating to the side you are on. If you notice that you always have him around in this type of scenario, then it's probably because he likes you. If not, why on earth should he talk to you rather than his friends or the other girls in the group?
It may not happen right away, but if you find that you always end up with long conversations at the end of the night, perhaps sitting next to each other, while the whole group goes to have fun, then it can be a sign that he is really interested in you
Step 8. See how she behaves with others
This can be an important indication of how he feels about you. If he's a womanizer, he'll treat all girls just like he treats you. If he jokes, flirts, compliments, and pays a lot of attention to every girl he meets, then he probably doesn't particularly care. But if you're the only girl he flirts with or the one he somehow prefers, then that can be a good sign for you. He may like you, but he's too shy to really flirt with you, while he's more casual with other girls he doesn't care about.
This might be a little confusing, but it has a profound meaning. The main thing to understand is if he treats you differently from other girls
Step 9. See what it does when you are not together
When you don't see each other, are you also far from his mind? If you haven't seen each other for a while and he's not looking for you, he probably doesn't think about you. But if he texts you, calls you, or just shows up to say hello when you haven't been out in a while, he might be really interested in you. The same goes for social media: if he comments on your Facebook posts or prefers your tweets, it can be his way of letting you know that he likes you.
If you are online, see if they try to chat to you on Facebook. This may be another sign that he wants more from your relationship
Step 10. Pay attention to what you do together
Another way to see if he's really interested in you is to see if you're already dating without knowing it. If many of your outings are already intimate and very close to romantic dates, then it may mean that he is really interested in you. Here's what to look out for:
- Do you find yourself having a coffee together or are you going to dinner? If you meet during the day, and not after a couple of drinks with her friends, then she might consider you worthy of a romantic relationship.
- Do you often go out alone? Do you go to the cinema? Do you go for walks? Do you just watch TV together? If so, you may already be dating without knowing it.
- Are you planning to go out with you a few days in advance? If so, then it means he's genuinely interested in spending time with you.
Step 11. Are you trying to impress yourself?
If so, it means he wants you to know how charming, capable and brave he is. This way of thinking doesn't apply to all guys, and it may be an outdated method, but it is likely that it will go to great lengths to get your attention to itself. When he does these things, try to notice if he checks if you are watching him. Here are some things it can do in front of you:
- It shows you how good he is at basketball or football.
- He takes the guitar and starts strumming.
- He dives into the water from high heights to show you how brave he is.
- Challenge his friends in friendly fights or races.
Step 12. Laughs loudly in your presence
Sure, you might be the next Littizzetto, but if he always laughs when you're around it could mean that he likes you a lot and is obviously a little nervous in your presence. If he laughs at your jokes more than usual, perhaps at ones that aren't even too funny, it could be a surefire sign that he's interested in you.
Next time you are together, pay attention to how much he laughs. Try to notice when he is with others: does he always laugh so much or does his laugh seem to be more intense when he is with you?
Step 13. He acts nervously in your presence
It is an unequivocal sign. If he's really attracted to you, he may be more nervous than usual because he's afraid of getting in trouble. He may laugh, but also stammer, forget what he was about to say, ask the same question twice within 10 minutes, repeat himself, go back and forth for no reason, or seem nervous because he really cares what you think about him.
The next time he's around, be careful. Do you get agitated? Does it take him a while to ask a question? Does he make self-deprecating comments? If so, it's possible that he likes you and doesn't quite know how to behave
Step 14. You discover this while watching you
It's another big clue. If you are in class together or if you happen to be in the same place, try to surprise him while he stares at you. This is another surefire way to see if he has feelings for you. The only problem is, if you watch him often, he might think you have a crush on him. Try to do it discreetly.
If he catches you looking at him staring at you and blushing, lowering his gaze, this is another sign of his interest in you
Step 15. See if he starts striding around you
If he likes you, it's only natural that he cares about his appearance when he's around you. You might catch him doing one of the following when you are together:
- She runs her hands through her hair.
- Try to tidy up your clothes or remove any stains that are present.
- He checks himself discreetly in front of his reflected image.
Part 2 of 3: Notice what it says
Step 1. Be careful when he talks to you
For example, if he calls you by your nickname or comes up with one, or addresses you with the name of an animal, it is a sign that he likes you.
- Notice if she often calls you by name.
- Notice if he talks to you slowly and more softly than he does to others.
- Notice if he makes eye contact when he addresses you. While he may look away occasionally, looking you in the eye means that he pays special attention to you.
Step 2. See how long it takes to talk to you
When you are in the same room with other people, pretend you don't realize he is there. Check how long it takes to come and say hello. If he takes a few minutes, that means he probably has some interest in you. However, if he takes longer to say hello to you, he may just be very shy.
You can also try to see how he reacts when you enter the room. Does his face light up or just change his expression?
Step 3. Downplay the other guys in front of you
Whenever you hear him say something negative about a guy, it means he sees him as a threat, especially if you know him well. He obviously wants you to pay attention only to him, and to no one else. If you tell him about your friend and he immediately becomes suspicious, it may be that you think you have some romantic feelings for the other.
- If he knows you're dating the other guy and tells you he's not good enough for you, then it may be that he's telling you because he thinks he's the right one.
- He may also make fun of you about how you feel about other guys you're just friends with. It could be another way to show you that she thinks of you with romantic eyes.
Step 4. Does he always make fun of you?
If he's interested in you, chances are he will. If he tickles you, if he calls you by a silly nickname and teases you about how you dress, it probably means he cares. Why else should he try so hard?
Teasing is typical of flirting. You may not even realize that gambling is his way of wooing you
Step 5. What does it say about the other girls?
It can be a decisive indication as to whether or not he is interested in you. He may be bragging about his achievements just to impress you. He may also tell you that he can't find a soul mate because he cares. If he says no girl he meets is as good, interesting, nice or beautiful as you, then yeah… he's basically trying to tell you he wants to go out with you.
If he always tells you that he can't find the right girl, it could be his way of letting you know that this girl is the one in front of him
Step 6. Notice if he really opens up to you
If he's really interested, he may start opening up and treating you like a closer friend. Make sure, though, that she doesn't see you as her best friend. If she wants to take the relationship to a deeper level, she may begin to confide in you things she wouldn't tell anyone, like:
- His childhood.
- His hopes for the future.
- His relationships with family and friends.
- Some of his secret hobbies, which he is ashamed of.
- Anything after a sentence like "I've never told anyone before …".
Part 3 of 3: Ask him if he likes you
Step 1. Make sure you are asking them
After all, the best way to really know if he's interested in you is to simply ask him. Don't get his friends involved, don't ask him with a note or text, but be brave and ask him yourself. If he is too shy, then your potential future relationship is all in your hands. It's not as scary as it sounds.
Step 2. Find the best place and time to talk to him
It doesn't necessarily have to be the perfect and magical place, but it must at least guarantee you some privacy with no friends around and no possible distractions. If you want an aura of romance, you can ask for it in the evening or somewhere special for both of you.
Step 3. Tell them directly
Chat for a while, but then ask him how he feels about you. Explain that you have feelings for him and that you want to know what he thinks about it. Look for eye contact, without putting pressure on him.
Step 4. React appropriately
If you find that they like you, you can celebrate privately and decide how to proceed further. Otherwise, it's not the end of the world and you don't have to pester yourself wondering what he's really thinking. Be proud of yourself for being brave enough to declare yourself and go on your way.
Advice
- Never be rude, as they may think you don't like them.
- Don't act like you don't care or he'll think you really do.
- Don't ruin the friendship by going after him.
- If you ask him or a friend asks for you and he says no, it doesn't necessarily mean that he is, but it is likely that he is just shy or that he prefers to keep it hidden. Sometimes kids like to be mysterious.
- Don't make him jealous.
- Sometimes the best thing to do is to ask and be honest.
