You've met a handsome guy and maybe even flirted for a while … but how do you know if he's really interested? While it's not an exact science, if it sends you any of the signals described in this article, it is likely that it is interested in you. So pay attention, he will probably subconsciously send you some clues to really understand what he thinks.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Reading the Body Language
Step 1. Look him in the eye
If he looks back at you and makes eye contact, there's a good chance he's interested. It is also a good technique for flirting. Holding his gaze, especially while you are talking, will soon create a bond between you.
If every time you look up you notice that he was watching you, that's a good sign. It means he likes to watch you, but may be too shy to let you know he's interested in you or to attempt an approach
Step 2. Try to notice if it tends towards you
Subconsciously, people want to be as close as possible to those they care about. If he is inclined towards you, it means that he is comfortable with you and that he wants to be close to you. This is a very good indicator of his interest.
- The fact that he moves to get closer to you is also a good sign. For example if you are walking together and your arm continues to rub against yours.
- This is a discreet and often involuntary gesture, but you can make it much more explicit. You can intentionally move towards him to flirt. For example, you can avoid a puddle by moving to the side facing him to get closer.
Step 3. See if his movements mirror yours
People unconsciously tend to copy the body language of people they like. If he is copying your movements and postures, it is very likely that his subconscious is guiding him because he is paying attention to you.
- For example, he could drink from a glass a few seconds after you, or rest his arms on the table when you do.
- This can also be used to actively flirt. Imitate some of his movements. If he crosses his legs, do it too. When he drinks from the glass, wait a few seconds and copy it.
Step 4. Pay attention in case he touches you
Physical contact is a great indicator of interest. Unless you have been friends for a while and are therefore already totally comfortable with you, it is unlikely that he will touch you very frequently.
- Some ambiguous contacts can be: your hands rub against each other as you walk together (it could be intentional, but also accidental), pat yourself on the back (it looks more like friend contact than lover) or any contact " as a boy "(such as high-fives and the like).
- The contacts most likely to show interest are: placing your hand or arm on your lower back to guide you, hug you and keep your arm close to you for as long as possible, perhaps rubbing your hand along your back or side, an arm on the shoulders.
- You can use the contact to flirt yourself. Put a hand on his arm as you talk to him. Give him a friendly nudge when you say something funny (and show him a 32-tooth smile).
Part 2 of 3: Evaluating Your Stocks
Step 1. See if he's standing next to you
If a guy is interested in you, even if he's ignoring you right now, he'll always want to be around you. You will notice that every time you turn around, he is there nearby. Seriously, even if he's ignoring you, if he's interested in you he'll make sure he's still around you.
- If he remembers everything you tell him, it is the most obvious sign. It means that he not only listens to you carefully, but he is also keen to remember it. If he is only interested in you for other purposes, he may just pretend to listen to you, but without really listening to you.
- Make sure you listen to it yourself. He will be very happy to see that you show interest in him too and that you remember everything he talked about. It will show him how much you think he is important to you.
Step 2. Notice if he is nervous when he is with you
Quite often, when a guy is interested in you, he will tend to be a little nervous in your presence. This happens because he absolutely wants to make a good impression, and will strive to look as casual as possible.
- Pay attention to things like giggles born out of nowhere, sweaty palms, and being unable to sit still for a few seconds. He may also have difficulty maintaining eye contact without showing slight discomfort.
- Do your best to make him feel comfortable. Tell him about when you spilled a drink on yourself at a party, or something that makes you look human, and not a superior and wonderful being.
Step 3. See if he does some nice things for you
If a guy feels like he likes you, he'll want to impress you, and he'll always want to be there for you. If a guy does nice things for you, he's probably interested, especially if he's showing other signs of interest as well.
- He might do something like give you his jacket when you're cold, offer to pay you for coffee or a drink even if you're not dating, or offer to drive you to the airport when you need to catch a flight.
- Try to be nice to him too. This way he will see that you are not someone who takes the attention of others for granted and that you have noticed and appreciated what he is doing for you. If you're not interested in him, try not to take advantage of the fact that he likes you.
Step 4. See if he compliments you
If a guy likes you, he'll want to, discreetly or explicitly, tell you how much he appreciates you. Hopefully it goes beyond just compliments on your physical appearance, but those can be cute too.
He might compliment you on your new haircut (which also means he's paying attention to you), or tell you you're doing a great job with that school project
Part 3 of 3: How to tell if he's not interested
Step 1. Notice if he doesn't listen to you
As mentioned earlier, if a guy likes you (a lot), he'll want to know as much as he can about you. This means that he will listen to you and remember everything you said. If he doesn't, you can bet he's not interested. You can find better!
If he's not interested, he's also unlikely to ask questions about you. Try to stay away from such a guy. Either he's not interested, or he's too narcissistic to think of you as an interesting person in his eyes
Step 2. Check if he never makes eye contact
While some guys may be too nervous to seek out the gaze of a person they're interested in, at some point they would anyway. If he's looking around the room instead of looking at you, especially if he doesn't seem to be listening to you, then he's definitely not interested.
Seeing a guy who's too busy with his cell phone to listen to you is a big wake-up call. It means that he is more interested in other people than in you
Step 3. Pay attention to her body language
He can tell you how he feels, and whether or not he's interested. If he's not interested, his body language will bring it out.
- He never tries to get near or touch you, even discreetly. If he doesn't do anything nice for you (or anything in general), it could be a sign of his lack of interest.
- Again, even if a guy is shy or reacts to his interest by ignoring you, he'll still want to be around you. If a guy is never around you, then it's a sign that he's not interested.
Step 4. Doesn't answer your calls within 24 hours
Aside from very rare exceptions, a guy will try to get in touch with the girl he's interested in. It takes 5 seconds to write a text message, even if it's just a: "I'm at work, I'll write to you later". An interested guy would never leave you waiting for an answer.
Step 5. See if he tries to avoid meeting your friends
If he always manages to somehow avoid meeting your friends, he probably isn't interested in you. Sure, you don't have to introduce him to all your friends right after you meet him, but have you been dating for a while and he's still a mysterious object to others? It means he's not really interested.
The reverse is also true, which is that he avoids introducing you to his friends. Doing so shows that he has no serious intentions towards you, because otherwise he would be dying to show you to everyone he knows
Advice
Sometimes the best way to tell if someone is interested in you is to ask them directly. It might seem heavy and difficult, but it is the most mature way to handle the situation. Besides, you never know, he could end up being your boyfriend
Warnings
- Always keep in mind that this is not an exact science. Each boy is different from the others; even if there may be the same behaviors, it is not certain that they have the same meaning for everyone.
- If he treats you like one of his friends, chances are he's not interested in you in the romantic sense of the word.
