You like a guy and maybe you are friends too. Maybe you are a bit old-fashioned and wait for him to make the first move or maybe you are shy. The fact is that things don't seem to be progressing between you. Nothing prevents you from "suggesting" a turning point.
Steps
Step 1. Flirt with him to open the door to a new relationship
Make sure you are not explicit but also send them the right message.
- Laugh at his jokes, but not falsely, so you will let him know that you find him interesting.
- Tease him when he's in a good mood. For example, if he's good at something, tell him he's not. Make it obvious that you are joking.
- Send him notes or hide messages in his backpack. Write phrases like "I hope this day ends soon …" or "What are you going to do this summer?". It will feel special.
- If you don't know him well, say hello when you meet him and smile at him.
- Haven't noticed you yet? Wink at him but try to close only one eye, or he'll think you're just blinking.
Step 2. Make physical contact
We are willing to share our personal space with someone special. How to touch it and when?
- Ask him to help you solve a math problem and rub your shoulder against his, getting you even closer if he doesn't move.
- Touch your forearm or shoulder when you speak. Don't grab it: place your fingers for a second randomly.
- If you have a joking relationship, you can be more daring. Ask him to carry you on his shoulder (when you're not wearing a skirt!) Or tickle him when he least expects it.
Step 3. Smile, smile, smile
Be happy when you look at it and project what you feel. Positivity is attractive.
- Don't smile forcibly. Your smile must be sincere and contagious. Think about the things that make you happy or that make you laugh out loud.
- If he smiles back and tries to look you in the eye a little longer than a friend, he is interested.
- Smile at him as you touch your hair so he can focus his attention on some of your gorgeous features.
Step 4. Go to his usual places to get noticed
- In class, try to sit next to him or approach him during recess.
- Practice the same hobby as his, unless it is purely male.
- If he does sport or another activity, go see him at a public performance. Don't act like a stalker. Go from time to time: when he gets used to your presence, he'll miss you the moment he doesn't see you in the audience.
Step 5. Exchange glances in class
When he looks at you, you look away and blush: it is non-verbal information that will make him understand that you like you.
- Don't stare. You want him to think you are interested, not obsessed. Look at him occasionally, but if he doesn't look back, don't get nervous. Try to get noticed by texting or talking to him.
- When you speak, don't lose eye contact and smile.
- Maintaining eye contact allows you to show off your eyes and smile and let him know that you are attentive to him and confident.
Step 6. Give sincere compliments, especially referring to his character
- Congratulate the new hairstyle - he'll appreciate the fact that you noticed it.
- He appreciates his personality, such as his loyalty to his friends. It is important to give the idea of going beyond the surface.
- The compliment should also be an excuse to strike up a conversation, so don't stop at appreciation. Seize the ball to jump to another theme.
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Give him an unexpected and well thought out gift. If the idea of buying an unwarranted gift intimidates you, wait for her birthday or another occasion.
Hint to a Boy That You Like Him Step 7 - If you opt for the surprise, give him the gift and say: “when I saw it I immediately thought of you”.
- No extravagant or overpriced purchases. Buy a small item so he doesn't feel obligated.
- Buy a packet of gum or fruit juice during recess or, if he always forgets his notebook, give him one as a gift.
- If you're not ashamed to ask him out, buy two tickets to a movie or a game and ask him to go together.
- Before buying the gift, find out about his tastes: in this way it will be easier to attract his attention.
Step 7. Call him often but not every day and don't keep him on the phone for hours on end
You just have to let him know that you care about him.
- Call it with an excuse: from homework to the time of the party you will both go to, through to asking for advice on the latest mobile phone on sale. Be creative.
- Tell him something funny that happened at school or ask him questions about his life. Listen carefully and keep the details in mind - you will need them for upcoming conversations and to choose new topics.
- Exchange information and perspectives. This is the chance to get to know you. Guys get bored on the phone, so laugh and be happy.
- Not very communicative? Ask him lots of questions. Ask him what his parents do, where he grew up, what job he wants to do, what his brothers or sisters are like, what destination he would like to visit. The conversation will progress and he will realize that you care.
- Don't keep him on the phone for too long - he may be busy. As if that weren't enough, you should be able to keep some mystery around yourself. He will have to make an effort to get to know you and feel curious.
Step 8. Tell his friends you like him
It's risky because they could distort the information and make fun of it (don't worry, they're just jealous!), So be careful who you tell it. Sooner or later they will tell him everything and it will be up to him to take the next step.
- This should be a last resort, to use in case the previous steps didn't work. Don't forget that you cannot exert any control over the words of his friends.
- Don't tell friends you want them to tell them everything. Talk about your crush with at least one of them - the rumor will spread through the group.
- If you trust them, you can ask if they might "let" it slip away. But choose the right people. The guy you like will have to know that you are interested in a "casual" way and feel flattered, not have a gun pointed at his head.
Step 9. Sometimes indirect flirting isn't enough:
you will have to say everything clearly:
- Ask him if he wants to go for a ride with you after school. If he seems undecided, ask him: "and you leave me all alone?". Does he answer you that he can't do it? He's not interested. If she says yes, flirt along the way. Finally, if his answer is immediately affirmative, he absolutely likes you.
- Ask him if he wants to go dancing with you.
- Ask him to help you with the backpack. You could tell him that your back hurts and that he looks strong. If he helps you, it is because he cares and feels pleased.
Advice
- Always be friendly. Guys like nice girls.
- If he treats you badly, it's not worth it.
- Accept it for what it is if you really like it. Many girls enter into a relationship convinced that they can change their partner, but this almost never happens, unless he doesn't want to.
- Shy guys don't expose themselves until they feel confident in the girl's feelings.
- Don't expect to be invited in public - he will do it in private.
- Being subtle while flirting is better than appearing obvious or obsessive. You will need to prove that you have a life beyond the relationship.
- Sometimes boys are slower. If he doesn't react in any way, don't give up for now!
- If the guy is really shy, DO NOT ask him if he likes you, or he may say no, even if he is interested in you. Make him understand your intentions and wait.
- Be civil, whatever the development of the relationship. If you find out he's an idiot, respect him anyway but stop seeing him.
- If it's your birthday, invite your friends to go to the movies and call them too. Sit next to him: it will almost be a date.
- Try asking him if he likes you when he's in a good mood and quiet.
- If he looks at you often, he is interested in you. Look back and smile.
- Don't be too obvious.
- Guys love self-confident girls.
- If he is very shy, encourage him to talk to you, but only in his comfort zone.
- Don't act like a stalker - you want to attract him positively, don't scare him.
- Are you almost sure he likes you? Stop and talk for a long time when you meet him and ask him if he wants to go for a walk with you.
- Your appearance will need to be neat but don't give the impression that you are superficial. Don't overdo the makeup.
- Try to figure out if he's the right one. You don't want to go out and find you don't like it.
Warnings
- Don't make a thousand interpretations of his attitude. Guys are simple, and if it's obvious they don't care, don't go looking for possible explanations - they just don't like you.
- The advice we have given you will help you right away if he likes you.
- Don't be fake or change your personality: you have to like him for who you are. How long can the play last?
- Don't seem unreachable, or you will confuse him and make him insecure. Guys looking for girls who are hard to win are more attracted to the challenge than to the person.
- Don't invade a shy person's personal space.
- Do not offend him or make statements that could be misinterpreted and lower his self-esteem.
- Some guys aren't comfortable with pet names.
