Shyness makes dating more difficult, especially if you are afraid of rejection. If you have a crush on a guy but shyness keeps you from telling him, you need to bring out the courage. Start with discretion, with signs that let him know you like him, especially if you don't know him well. Try methods that make you less afraid to reveal your feelings, such as writing a note. If he doesn't understand or if you know him well, try talking to him in person. Even if you are shy, you will be able to communicate how you feel.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Send Signals of Attraction
Step 1. Meet his gaze
Eye contact is a simple and unobtrusive means of letting a guy know you like him. Take every opportunity to look him in the eye. For example, if he greets you, make eye contact when you answer. You can show yourself shy by looking down, before looking at him again with a smile.
- If he also looks you in the eye, he probably finds you attractive. Try to stare at it for a second or two.
- Don't stare too hard! Notice how he reacts: does he smile at you, look away, or keep his gaze fixed without showing emotion? Find out if he's willing to interact with you.
Step 2. Make him understand your feelings
You may be too shy to openly tell him "I like you". In that case, try to send him signals instead of talking to him explicitly. However, keep in mind that the guy may not understand how you feel if you aren't direct.
You can give him a signal by saying, "I really enjoy spending time with you" or "It would be fun if we were lab mates."
Step 3. Write him a message
If you are shy, it will not be easy for you to approach the guy, especially if he is always surrounded by friends. Texting is a way to make it easier for you to flirt and interact with him, without worrying about awkward silences or being left with nothing to say. If you already write to each other often, take the opportunity to send him some signals.
- Speaking to him by message is already a sign of interest. If you want to be even clearer, you can write "Anyway, I find you cute".
- You can even say "I like you" by text once you have found the courage.
Step 4. Write a card
The idea of telling him you like him in person can block or terrify you. If you see the boy regularly at school (or somewhere else), you can leave him a note. This way, you won't run the risk of stammering or being speechless. Also, by writing a card you can try out some drafts before choosing the one you prefer and deliver.
- Start by handing him a card and waiting for his response. After you've exchanged a few tickets, write him that you like the next one.
- Think about what to write on the card for a while. You can choose a short, concise sentence or describe your feelings. Only you can decide what to write, but make sure you let him know you like it.
Step 5. Send him something as a secret fan
If you want to let him know that you care, but can't find the courage to say it, send him a gift from a secret admirer. Send him his favorite food (like hot sauce or chocolate) or something you know he'll like. Simply write "Your Secret Admirer" on the card.
If you decide to send him something while anonymous, try to ask him if he liked the gift. Sooner or later you'll have to tell him it was you
Method 2 of 3: Communicate the Attraction to the Boy in Person
Step 1. Invite him to spend time with you
You may be too shy to say "I like you" directly. An alternative is to invite him to stay with you. As you spend time together, you will understand how he feels about yourself and if you need to hang out more often. This will show him that you appreciate his company and you will get to know him better.
- For example, ask him to go dancing or a football match with you.
- You can say, "I have two tickets for Sunday's game, if you're free we can go together. What do you think?".
Step 2. Set a deadline for disclosing your feelings
If you are shy, your best bet is to prepare for confession. Decide when you will do it, then take action. For example, set a specific day and time when you need to tell him you like him. Do something that helps you meet that deadline, for example by writing it down on your diary.
For example, if you know you're going to a party this weekend, promise yourself: "At the party I'll look for him and when I see him, I'll walk up and tell him I like him."
Step 3. Choose a time when he is alone
Better not to let his friends overhear or listen to the conversation. If you're shy, having an audience won't help you! The boy will appreciate your tact and respect for his privacy. Consider the situation and find the ideal time to talk to him.
If he is talking to someone, wait a few moments. When the other person walks away, it's your chance to get closer
Step 4. Get to the point and tell him
Don't let the conversation go on too long without telling him you like him. He may lose interest or get bored. Start by saying: "Hey Marco, do you have a minute? I would like to tell you something".
Continue with: "I really enjoy being with you and I wanted to tell you that I like you. I hope you feel the same thing."
Method 3 of 3: Overcoming Your Fears
Step 1. Find out if he likes you
Your job is much easier if you know they like you. If he smiles at you, goes out of his way to see you or spend time with you, chances are he's interested in you. He may tell you he likes you or you may find out from a friend. Now your job is to find the courage to confess that you reciprocate his feelings.
If she doesn't know who you are or if she sees you as a friend, you have more work to do
Step 2. Notice if he flirts with you
If you're shy, you'll probably prefer to flirt with a guy before explicitly telling him you like him. Evaluate his interest and see if he reciprocates. In many ways, "facts speak louder than words," so let your body language communicate for you. Try some simple attempts at seduction, such as laughing at a joke or touching him lightly on the arm. This way you will send him signals of interest. Notice how he reacts if he approaches or moves away.
Do not overdo it. A discreet approach is often the best, because you will take advantage of the aura of mystery
Step 3. Think of the worst case scenario
Part of your shyness could lead you to imagine that things are going wrong. However, what is really the worst outcome? Try to be realistic and rational. He may tell you that he doesn't love your feelings back, but he is very unlikely to make fun of you or embarrass you.
If it makes you feel embarrassed, it puts him in a worse light than you and everyone will notice that he misbehaves
Step 4. Turn your confession into a challenge
Instead of making the situation difficult or scary, think of it as a challenge. Are you able to overcome it? Whatever happens, you know you've stepped out of your comfort zone. You must be satisfied for trying, even if you don't get the desired result.
