It can be hard to find the courage to tell a girl you like her. Especially if you are still in school, you can be worried about your classmates talking about you if you reveal your feelings to her. In these situations, it may be best to let them know without ever saying the words "I like you". Refer to your feelings, create occasions when you can bond, and send her signals through a third person, such as a trusted friend.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Referencing Your Feelings
Step 1. Reveal that you are single and that you are looking for a girl
Say it as naturally as possible, without being very direct, as your words may be considered too strong. It is possible that the girl you are interested in has not understood that you are looking for a partner. Try saying:
- “I've been single for far too long. I'm just out of luck in love. How are you?".
- “I tried to find a girl to take to next week's party and I had no luck. I don't want to go alone”.
Step 2. Make a comparison between the girl you like and your ideal girl
It's not strange to talk about your ideal partner, even with the girls you care about. If you have the opportunity to do so, try to vaguely describe the girl who won you over as your ideal woman, in order to let her know that you are interested in her. You might say:
- “I had nothing in common with the last girl I dated. I want a woman who loves books, electronic music and video games. I have to find it!”.
- “I just want a girl who is relaxed, loves reading, board games and sleight of hand. Am I asking too much? I do not believe!".
Step 3. Highlight the romantic sides of your friendship
In some cases, the girl you have feelings for may have always regarded you as a friend and not a partner. To change her mind, point out all the characteristics of a beautiful love story that are already present in your friendship. For example, you could tell her:
- “We always have so much fun together. I don't laugh like that with anyone else and we could talk endlessly”.
- “I can't find a girl who has our interests. You and I have a beautiful relationship. I wish I could share the same with a girlfriend”.
Step 4. Use body language
Many people worry too much about the words to say to make a girl understand what they feel and overlook the all-important signals we all send with our bodies. These are very effective ways to tell a girl that you are interested, without saying a word!
- Look her in the eye. Meeting someone's gaze can be a very intense experience, and in almost all social gatherings, people rarely look into each other's eyes for more than a few seconds. Send her a clear signal by maintaining eye contact for a few moments more. Don't overdo it, though, as your behavior could be considered hostile or you could make the girl you're staring uncomfortable.
- Turn your whole body (including your feet), not just your head, towards the girl you're talking to to show her you're interested.
- Try to "mimic" his posture. If she leans forward, do the same. If he takes a sip from his glass, do it too. Don't copy all of his actions right away or you will look weird; let a few seconds pass. This way you will not only let her know that you like her, but will also lead her to appreciate you more.
Step 5. Show her what you feel with small gestures
Try to do something special or unusual, but don't reveal your intentions too much. You can open her car door, offer her your help with her homework or housework, give her a lift, bring her a little gift after a vacation or her favorite snack at school. This advice will be more useful to you if you know her tastes and interests, because you will be able to find an idea that she will appreciate.
Step 6. Give her priority
By giving the girl you like more importance than others, you will make her feel special and let her know that you care. You should be careful when trying to follow this advice. In some cases, she may be exploiting your attentions, or you may be hurting the feelings of someone else who will feel neglected.
You don't have to ignore other people. To make the girl you care about feel special, just give her your full attention when she talks
Method 2 of 3: Create Opportunities to Bond
Step 1. Spend time together
If other people are present, you will not be able to give all your attention to each other. By spending time alone, on the other hand, doing fun activities with her, you can show her that you would be a great partner. You can consider:
- Go for coffee together. The relaxed and welcoming atmosphere of the bar will help you keep your cool when you are with her.
- Watch a movie together. You can go to the cinema or watch it at home; in both cases you will be able to have a fun experience together.
- Go hiking together. You will have the chance to enjoy the beauty of nature while getting to know each other.
Step 2. Exercise together
You don't have to start running, although training alongside the girl you like can allow you to become more united. A simple activity like throwing a Frisbee in the park can help you build a physical bond. You can also try:
- Play your favorite sport, such as volleyball, football or tennis. You can do it yourself, or invite friends.
- Team up with her for a game for two.
Step 3. Invite her to events for couples
Some events are generally considered to be for couples, such as watching fireworks or going out for dinner. In order not to give the impression that it is a date, but still try to make her understand that you like her, you can invite her by saying:
- “I heard that a great new restaurant has opened downtown. Their dishes look delicious and I wanted to try them, but I don't want to go alone. Would you like to come with me?".
- “I haven't seen the fireworks for the patron's day in years. I know a beautiful place to watch them from. Would you like to come with me?".
Step 4. Learn something together
Learning a new skill with the girl you like is a great way to grow your relationship. Also, after learning something, you will both feel fulfilled and your relationship will benefit. Here are some activities to consider:
- Take an evening painting course. Even if you won't become Picasso at the end of the course, you will both enjoy the time spent together learning a new skill.
- Learn the basics of pastry or cooking. You can find many evening cooking classes, or you can learn recipes with her at your home.
- Take a dance class together. Physical contact releases a hormone that encourages trust and intimacy, so when you dance with her, love may be born.
Method 3 of 3: Send a Signal Through a Third Person
Step 1. Get help from someone you trust
It is very important to choose the right person. Even your closest friends may have different ideas than yours on how to "help you", and in some cases they may say too much. If you are going to rely on someone to act as a Cupid between you and the girl you like, it is best to be honest and clear with whom to help you. You can tell that person:
- "There is a girl I like very much, but I don't have the courage to tell her what I feel: I need your help. I was wondering if you could find out if she has a boyfriend or if she likes someone”.
- “Please don't tell anyone, but I really like that girl. But I can't tell her how I feel about her. Can you help me understand if she likes me? ".
Step 2. Ask a trusted friend to speak highly of you to the girl you care about
If she often hears good things about you, she will likely begin to associate you with positive characteristics. Ask a close friend you trust to talk about your skills, talent, and successes in their presence.
- You should carefully choose the person to ask for your shoulder. Some friends have a tendency to exaggerate and make your feelings understood too clearly.
- Pick some of your best features and ask your friend to name them. For example, you might ask him, "Would you talk about the football match I won my team last night?"
Step 3. Get approval from her friends
If a girl's friends like you, you're more likely to end up liking her too. Plus, if your friends like you, they'll say good things about you when you're not around. Unfortunately, in some cases, girls may feel that you can't fit in well with their circle of friends.
- Get friends' approval by helping them. You can help them with their homework in the subjects you know best, or fix something broken if you have good dexterity. Alternatively, offer some snacks or do similar cute gestures.
- In some cases, you may create jealousy between the girl you like and her friends. This can make you see you in a more romantic light, but it can also be counterproductive and upset her.
- To prevent episodes of jealousy, when you do something nice for one of her friends, you can say, “Of course I'll help you. You are one of Sara's best friends and she is exceptional. All her friends are also my friends”.
