Children are greatly influenced by the language of adults and the way they speak. Hearing something, they can get upset, even if the parents don't even notice what they are saying. Words that children hear can affect their growth, so it is best to use gentle and understanding language towards them. Prohibit the use of certain phrases for the whole family. Find new ways to interact and communicate with your child. Reflect on the words to use in his presence and try to teach him the different nuances of the language.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Adopting a More Positive Dialogue
Step 1. Show patience
You may be thinking, "How annoying you are!" or "How can you be so stupid?". However, don't tell your child, or you risk humiliating him, hurting his feelings, and compromising his self-esteem. Remember that it is normal to feel overwhelmed at times and to find yourself in situations that are difficult to understand.
If you lose patience with your child, take a deep breath before saying something. Instead of yelling, "Why don't you understand?", Answer, "What is confusing you?" or "Would you rather take a break and resume later?"
Step 2. Avoid making comparisons
It can be harmful to say to a child, "You are just like your father" or "Why don't you act like your sister?" He is likely to feel embarrassed by the idea of looking like his father or feel a sense of rejection whenever the father is criticized. When making comparisons between your children, you may be fueling sibling rivalry or making them believe that one is better than another.
If you have this temptation, don't talk. Recognize your frustration, but don't blame your child
Step 3. Comfort him when he is sick
Some parents never miss an opportunity to say, "Nothing happened" or "Stop crying. You're okay." While children must learn to manage stress and pain, it is important that they feel listened to, especially when they are sick. Even if you think your child is exaggerating, acknowledge his state of mind. You won't comfort him by saying "you're okay" or "don't cry".
Hug him and say, "You hurt your knee! It must hurt a lot!" or "You are sorry because the grandmother is gone and you feel sad"
Step 4. Give him the time he needs
If your child wastes time getting ready in the morning or when he needs to do something, don't push him. You would probably tell him: "Move!" or "We'll be late if you don't finish". However, by rushing him, you increase his stress, make him unnerved and do not encourage him to move. Rather, wake him up a little earlier than usual so he can slowly carburetor.
If you have trouble completing the simpler tasks, suggest a game. Tell him: "We want to have a competition to see who wears the shoes first?"
Part 2 of 4: Contain the Effects of Your Words
Step 1. Notify your child when you are busy
If he always gets the message that "mom is busy" or "dad has to work", he will start to think that his parents don't have time for him. He may stop asking for your attention because he assumes you will answer "no". If you need some free time, please let them know in advance.
Tell him, "I have something important to finish, so play it quietly until I'm done. Then let's go to the park."
Step 2. Convey a positive body image
If you want to lose weight, keep it to yourself. Do not talk to your child about diets, dietary restrictions, or weight, otherwise you could feed him a negative perception of the body or lead him to adopt this kind of behavior. If he asks you about your eating habits or your workouts, answer him: "I like to eat healthy and exercise."
If he asks you about whether you want to lose weight, say, "Sometimes, the body changes based on what we eat or how we treat it."
Step 3. Win their cooperation without saying "no"
Constant denial can be exhausting for both you and your child. Instead of explaining what behaviors you don't want him to engage in, tell him what behaviors you want. For example, instead of saying, "No, don't run", say, "Can you please walk when we are at home?". Correct him by specifying what attitude he should adopt and praising him when he behaves well.
Instead of exclaiming, "Don't touch!", Tell him, "It's fragile and we don't want it to break. Please look without touching."
Part 3 of 4: Interacting in Other Ways
Step 1. Listen to it
If you feel frustrated or annoyed to the point that you want to lecture him, listen to what he says and ask him for some clarification. Talk to him in a way that helps him understand his state of mind. Finally, listen and value what he is feeling. Give him time to tell his story without interrupting him.
- If he doesn't stop complaining, tell him, "I understand you're upset. What bothered you?"
- Alternatively, you could say, "Oh, that's very sad. Are you feeling low on morale?"
Step 2. Don't argue in front of your child
A child may be frightened if he hears his parents arguing or colliding. If you have an argument when your child is at home or sleeping, close the door and continue away from their room. Avoid yelling, yelling, yelling, or breaking objects. He may feel unsafe and anxious.
Even if he has fallen asleep, he may wake up, hear you arguing and get scared. Try to argue in a civilized way so as not to compromise his well-being
Step 3. Apologize when you're wrong
If you use abusive or negative language in front of your child, tell them you were wrong and apologize. In this way, you will make him understand that anyone can make a mistake, but also admit his responsibility. Also, with this attitude you will prevent them from getting scared or resentful.
Tell him, "I've lost control. I know I scared you. I'm sorry, I'm sorry."
Part 4 of 4: Avoid Turpiloquy in Your Child's Presence
Step 1. Avoid using bad language with your family
Whether you are upset with your child, your partner, or your ex, avoid speaking abusive words to other family members, especially in front of children. Think carefully before speaking this way, especially if you know you could hurt or insult someone.
Make everyone in your family understand that it is wrong to offend people by insulting them, and correct this behavior whenever it happens. You might say, "It's not fair to address others like this."
Step 2. Recognize the importance of context
Swear words are used in a variety of circumstances, but context becomes important in the presence of children. There is almost certainly no problem if you make a few more salacious jokes to describe a fact or situation, but not to address someone. Sometimes swear words denote pleasure or joy in the speaker, other times it could be very offensive and insulting. If you want to help your child understand this difference, clarify any ambiguities in family talks.
- Teach your child the nuances of language. Some parents have no problem using foul language in front of their children, but they do not allow them to do the same, as they are convinced that only adults can express themselves in this way.
- If a person in the family crosses the line, reprimand them by saying, "We don't allow this kind of conversation at home."
Step 3. Use other words
If you are concerned that your child will hear you swear, you can use other phrases to curb this bad habit. For example, many people use "damn!" or "cabbage!" instead of more scurrilous words. If you are trying to contain yourself but need a little help, try to come up with some expressions that will help you express what you are feeling, without cursing in front of your child.
