Are you a girl with a crush on another girl, but can't get her to know you're interested? Don't worry, a lot of girls have the same problem. Sometimes you don't feel comfortable admitting that you're gay, or you don't want others to know yet. Here are some ways to let her know you're interested.
Steps
Step 1. Get comfortable when you are close to her
This is a crucial step in the process of getting noticed. Try not to be too shy or nervous around her. It can be very difficult for someone who stutters or gets nervous easily, but keep calm. There is nothing to be afraid of.
Step 2. Get to know it
This is a very important part of the relationship, but DO NOT rush this step or overdo it. If you become too close or for a long period of time, he will have a hard time seeing you as a potential flame. He starts with some chat and every now and then he throws some digs and clues to leave her to think about. Talk about school or work. Start a speech, work in a group or on a project with her. He'll look at you differently when he gets to know you better.
Step 3. Insinuate
Throw some digs at her. To start, give her some pretty subtle clues when you show her first interest. Always without exaggerating. See the sections on verbal and non-verbal clues.
Step 4. Step forward
Explain and ask her if she has never considered being bisexual or if she has never been interested in a bisexual experience.
Step 5. Overcome disinterest
There will be many disappointments in your life, don't let a failure interfere with the rest of your life. If you've tried everything to no avail, it's simply time to move on to a new experience with the next person. No resentments, not everyone is meant to be together.
Method 1 of 2: Verbal Clues
Step 1. Investigate
Make a slightly inappropriate joke about gays and lesbians and watch her reaction (don't be too mean, though, you're just looking into her response). What you are trying to do is determine if she is bigoted or has negative feelings towards gays in general, or if she seems to have no problem with it. Make the joke funny so that you can laugh at it together if there is a neutral response from him.
Step 2. The friend
Approach her often, start conversations in that direction (girls hanging out with other girls), and throw a "Sounds funny" there. Or, the evergreen, "I've never tried but it doesn't look bad."
Step 3. The leap
Ask her or tell her about the girls you've had. This requires you to come out and admit that you are bisexual or lesbian.
Step 4. The oops
Ask her if she has a girlfriend or if she ever had one. If he corrects you ("You mean" boy "?"), Say "Oops, what did I say? What a fool". And smile.
Method 2 of 2: Non-verbal
Step 1. The wink
If he glances at you, give her a wink.
Step 2. The suggestive smile
If he makes a joke or asks you a very personal question, answer them with a suggestive smile, maybe even a little naughty. It can be VERY effective.
Step 3. The hug
If you get the chance and it feels natural and not weird or forced, hug it. Try to hold her for a little longer than normal, but don't wait for her to walk away.
Step 4. The touch
If he puts his hand on the table or desk and you are nearby, reach for the thing that is closest to his hand and intentionally brush his hand with yours and pause for a second before blushing and grabbing the object. Watch her reaction carefully.
Advice
- If she seems scared of your flirting, don't push yourself any further. Don't ruin your friendship.
- Keep calm. A nice, reassuring voice or an interested attitude can go a long way.
- Don't wait too long before making your move. There aren't many chances of success if you don't step up.
- Sometimes asking her out directly works better than the whole "friend" process. Let's face it: it's often hard to get a friend to see you as a possible flirt. So, if you are interested in a girl, you can speed things up a lot if you ask her right away "Would you like to go for a coffee or a movie with me? I would love to spend time with you."
- Stay productive during your courtship, don't fall behind at school or work.
