Getting a girl's attention may seem as hard as climbing Mount Everest, but it doesn't have to be! Follow these tips to get the girl you like and become irresistible.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Attracting Attention with Personality
Step 1. Be funny, but not crude
Everyone loves to laugh; Getting a girl to laugh is a big step in getting her attention. This doesn't mean that you have to become the next Jim Carrey, but that you have to follow your personality, using the kind of humor that suits you best. Remember that you don't have to be funny all the time, but make a few lines during a conversation to get girls interested in you.
- Regardless of the kind of jokes you make, don't wait for the girl to laugh; use quick witty humor: if she thinks it's funny, then she'll laugh. Don't wait for him to laugh at your jokes and don't say phrases like, "Didn't you find this funny?" or you will only risk creating embarrassment.
- Get busy. If you don't think you're a funny guy, watch comedies on TV or study funny character moves in movies. Observe how they introduce the lines, but don't copy the sentences from them or you will notice that they have been studied before.
- Make jokes about situations. Even making bright and witty jokes will be able to make a girl laugh, but try to embellish your humor by talking in a funny way about your situation or the environment in which you live.
- Only laugh if you think something is really funny; avoid false laughter, because they are easy to recognize. A real laugh can be very attractive.
- Don't make too many jokes about her; While it may seem funny at first, it can be tiring in the long run. No girl wants to go out with a guy who spends all night teasing her, even in a playful way. On the other hand, laughing at yourself in a playful way can make a girl approach you and make her feel comfortable, because you would prove to be a confident person.
Step 2. Do your best, whatever your interest
If you put passion into what you do, you will attract the attention of many girls, because you show that you care about something besides yourself and that you are a hard worker. You will also show that you are ambitious; not only do you want to do something, but you want to do it as best you can.
- If you are part of a sports team, work hard to be the captain; if you are part of a discussion club, try to lead the discussions; if you take an art or photography class, don't be afraid to show your artistic side and talent.
- Don't hide what you really like. If you are happy, confident and enthusiastic, people will be interested in what you like. Don't pretend you hate what you like; act like it doesn't matter and let them know the fun aspects.
Step 3. Show her that you are a deep person
Don't cry desperately if a sad topic comes up, just try not to look like an emotionless robot when you're with her; try to talk about your emotions. By saying things like, "Oh my, the movie we saw today made me think about how I would feel if I was trapped in the Titanic. It was scary and sad!", He will realize that you can understand how other people feel and you have those feelings in turn.
Step 4. Show good manners
Girls love polite and courteous men. Don't say or do things that many people might find offensive, including swearing and jokes or sexist / racist / etc. phrases. If you act like a gentleman, showing your respect for women and other people in general, girls will welcome you more willingly.
Saying things you know are likely to offend someone is not a good way to make new friends or keep the ones you already have. You may seem like a "tough guy" to your friends, but you will push the girls away. It is easy to despise something; it is much more difficult to believe in anything. Be a man and believe in something
Step 5. Show her you have a sense of adventure
You don't have to be the captain of a ship or a world famous mountain climber; be ready for anything, though. Invite her to go hiking, camping, or visiting another city. Take the opportunity and, if you go out with her, make something exciting happen.
Step 6. Respect all women equally
You'll have a much better chance of making a good impression if you treat the girls you don't care about as well as the ones you like. This doesn't mean that you will have to talk or flirt with all the girls, but don't ignore them and don't treat them smugly. You can't know when a girl will become attractive or who she will become friends with. The best idea is to treat them all as they would like to be treated.
- Don't talk to one girl about the beauty of others; it is in bad taste and can worsen a woman's self-esteem. Plus, it's easy to inadvertently say the wrong thing or something you don't think. Just talk about the other girls with your friends.
- You shouldn't talk about your previous relationships or other girls who might interest you. No girl wants to compare with past relationships nor does she want to be compared with other girls. Make her feel like the only girl in the universe and life will smile at you.
Step 7. Be careful
When talking to a girl, give her your full attention. Listen carefully to what she says: you could learn a lot about her and discover the things you have in common.
- Ask her a lot of questions. This will let her know that you are genuinely interested in her and not just her looks. Ask her what she likes to do, what kind of music she listens to, and what movie she's recently seen. Ask her about her parents, her siblings, her childhood and her aspirations. Any sincere and respectful question will be fine.
- Give her time to talk. If you ask questions, give it time to express yourself and don't be upset if you talk a lot. Remember: if he talks a lot, that's a good sign!
Step 8. Be confident, this is something many girls find attractive; if you walk with your head held high, don't hesitate to talk about some topic you are very knowledgeable about and walk safely towards girls, you will be immediately noticed
You know you are a handsome guy, and if you show confidence, girls will be even more attracted to you.
Remember not to be presumptuous; being confident is another thing. A presumptuous boy knows he is beautiful and wants everyone (absolutely everyone) to know it; a confident boy, on the other hand, has only self-confidence. Boldness can turn girls away; a guy has to have self-confidence, but he doesn't have to flaunt it all the time
Part 2 of 3: Attracting Attention with Actions
Step 1. Make eye contact if you want a girl to notice you right away
Whether you are in class or at the bar, eye contact is one of the most important steps in getting a girl's attention. Look at it; when he turns to you, he looks away; do it one more time and hold eye contact for a moment, hinting a smile, if it feels right, then look away again. In this way you will arouse her interest and make her understand that you are interested in her turn; if she likes you, she'll look at you to see if you're still looking at her.
- If you see that she doesn't return your gaze, she may be very shy or not interested. You will need to follow the other tips in this article to see if she likes you.
- When talking to girls, try to make eye contact with them - you will show that you are confident and pay attention to what they say.
Step 2. Be a gentleman with women
Girls have a different sense of humor and points of view than men, so being aware and aware of these differences is important if you want to get their attention.
- Do common gentlemanly gestures, like opening the door for a girl, letting her pass you in line, saying "I'm sorry". It will be very easy to do these gestures and remember that girls are more careful about these things than men.
- Don't tell jokes or make sexual comments. Girls already think men are obsessed with sex, so don't give them another reason to think so. Be mature and respect the subject of sex, at least when there are girls and you will undoubtedly attract the attention of one of them.
Step 3. Don't treat women like objects and don't talk to them as if they were inferior
It may sound absurd, but many men think women are stupid or classless. This is unfair and you won't make many female friends if you think so. Think before you speak ill of girls. As a general rule, pretend your parents are listening to you when you talk about girls; you will refrain from saying something inappropriate.
Step 4. Stay relaxed when you have girls around
Even if you are a bundle of nerves on the inside, try to look calm and relaxed on the outside; you will give the impression that you are a safe and nice guy to hang out with. When you are tense or nervous, you are more likely to feel embarrassed if you make small mistakes; this could turn many girls away. Staying calm allows you to fully enjoy a girl's company, stay confident, and show her your true self.
Staying confident is difficult, but try to imagine that the girl you are trying to impress is a friend. You wouldn't be nervous with a friend - why be nervous next to her? If you are confident and can look cool and calm, you will become very popular. His attention will be focused on you in no time
Step 5. Smile your way
The smile is the universal symbol of happiness: if you show the girl you like and people in general that you smile often, she will come close to you. Women love men with a keen sense of humor, who often laugh; smile and be as carefree as you can.
Step 6. Help others; it could be you or someone else in the room
Helping others will show that you are humble and that you are truly kind; everyone likes to be next to someone like that. This way, you will not only grab his attention but also feel better about yourself. Every woman loves a man who knows how to be empathetic with others; be the one who helps her carry something heavy and she won't forget it!
- Are you carrying something heavy? Tell her, "Let me help you" and bring it for her; hold the door for her if she is carrying a lot of things; give her your jacket if she's cold or maybe offer her your umbrella if it starts to rain.
- Anyone have little money? Lend him some money so he can buy lunch.
- Don't be a hypocrite though, and don't do these things only when she's around. Always help people, in many ways. She will notice it and so will the people who know her so that when they talk about you they will say "He's such a good guy!" and she will start to think "That's true, in fact it is."
- One aspect that holds many kids back is the fear of being misunderstood. For example, you may not help her carry something because you are worried that she will see you as a macho and that you believe that she cannot carry it alone. Put the fear aside and think about what you are actually doing. You're just helping her because you want to, what can be wrong with that? If you are not trying to question his abilities, then it is not very fair of him to believe that you are doing this. Be brave. If what you do comes from the heart, a good girl will understand it.
Step 7. Give her a sincere compliment
For example, you could say that she has beautiful eyes or a beautiful smile. Do this only if you intend to make her understand that you want to go beyond a simple flirtation; choose something of her that is unique, in this way you will make her feel special, admired and beautiful.
Step 8. Include girls in your activities
When you do something men only, be brave and include the girls you want. You won't have to do this on every occasion (it's important to have time to spend only with male friends), but don't be afraid to add girls to the company.
If the guys will point out your behavior, know that they are just jealous that they didn't have the courage to invite them; there's no reason girls can't be part of the group
Step 9. Find ways to make physical contact with the girl you're interested in:
it's a great way to set off the spark. However, don't make this obvious by moving around to be close to her; she might walk away if she doesn't know you're into her. Start small, like touching her arm if she says something that makes you laugh.
If she has lashes or a tuft on her face, make eye contact and stroke her cheek to move it (do it gently though!)
Part 3 of 3: Attracting Attention with Your Appearance
Step 1. Take care of yourself
Depending on your style, this step may vary but the basics are always the same: shower regularly and brush your teeth. Nobody wants to be with someone who stinks and who still has breakfast in their teeth; give yourself a good wash and buy a toothbrush.
- Beyond the basics, there are other ways to take care of yourself and show your best. A little hair gel can make your unkempt locks a monument to beauty; don't wear too much though: slicked-back hair doesn't appeal to most girls.
- If your beard grows fast, keep it under control. Some women may like an unkempt beard, but if it is not maintained well, it can be anything but attractive. Invest your money in a good razor.
- In addition to the beard, take a look at the rest of your body; remove nose and ear hair, for example. Most girls (even those who love a beard) don't like to see hair other than on the chin, chest and private parts.
- Trim your nails. Girls watch hands a lot, so make sure yours don't look like Big Foot's. Trim the claws and remove the dirt from under the nails.
- Moisturize your skin. It may seem less than masculine, but if you have the girl of your dreams in your arms, you don't want them to be dry or cracked. Use a cream to soften your skin and she won't be able not to touch you.
Step 2. Keep your wardrobe up to date
Everyone has their own style and that's okay, but avoid the bum one. Don't wear sweatpants every day and try to change your shirt every day before going out. In addition to this, remember that girls like to see a man take care of their look, even just by putting on a flannel jacket, tight pants or sunglasses.
If you are trying to get the attention of a co-worker, try to focus on your professionalism. Buy some classy suits and some nice ties. If you don't know how, ask your best friend for help
Step 3. Be aware of your body language
Women pay close attention to what a man looks like; if a guy is hunched over in a corner, avoiding eye contact, no girl will ever go talk to him. Stand straight, make eye contact and smile. Remember that you want to have good posture, but you don't want to make it too obvious by being in a cast; do it with simplicity.
- If you don't know how to do it, look for a model; watch movies where guys manage to break into the hearts of all women and imitate their behavior.
- Watch her body language; if he shifts his weight frequently and doesn't look you in the eye, he probably doesn't feel comfortable. It could be due to the topic of conversation, how close you are, or something else. Respect her feelings and change the subject or walk away if necessary.
Step 4. Keep fit
Even if you are already a handsome boy, remember that women like those who train; Plus, the gym can also be a place to grab a girl's attention. If you want to impress the girl you like, you also need to keep your body in good condition. Exercise both to lose weight and to strengthen muscles and sculpt your body.
Remember that girls like people who keep fit, but you don't have to become like Arnold Schwarzenegger when he was Mister Universe. If you are afraid of tearing your shirt when you have to raise your hand in class, start relaxing a little
Advice
- Don't panic if you do something embarrassing. Many girls find it cute, especially if you catch up with humor.
- Don't let bad experiences stop you from taking advantage of opportunities. If you've been in a bad relationship, learn from your mistakes and leave it in the past. It doesn't do you good to rethink failed relationships and it probably won't be very attractive to a woman. Welcome with open arms what life has to offer you.
- Do not scaccarsi, do not scratch your butt, do not scratch any part of your body, do not burp and do not flatulence on the first date; you'll be lucky if he still looks at you.
- Be careful not to pin all your hopes on one girl - it will make the eventuality of her rejecting you much more painful. Remember that there are many fish in the sea. If things don't work out with one particular girl, find another one. You may be able to make those who rejected you regret their choice.
- If you have a sister who is the same age as you, ask her for help in knowing what to say and how to behave.
