Having a crush can exasperate you, especially when you feel like you're invisible to the person you like. There is no secret formula to get someone's attention, but you can definitely use certain tactics to get noticed. To get started, you should make a good impression. You should therefore look your best, be resourceful and optimistic, convey confidence. Next, look for the right opportunities to talk to the person you like, in order to show them your uniqueness and your sympathy.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Get Noticed
Step 1. Pay more attention to your physical appearance
Before you see the person you like, take 10-15 minutes to look your best. Small precautions are enough to stop being upholstered and start being the center of attention. This way, not only will he notice you, you can also gain the confidence to impress.
- Pay attention to the hair. Sometimes it is enough to comb your hair with greater care to make a difference. For girls in particular, straightening or curling their hair can boost self-esteem.
- If you wear makeup, be sure to do it carefully and touch up throughout the day.
- Also, take care of your body in general: get enough sleep and pamper your skin, so that it is fresh and healthy.
Step 2. Try to have a unique look
Dressing differently from the people around you helps you get noticed. This is a particularly effective tactic if you are in an environment where everyone has similar clothing.
- If your schoolmates dress in a similar way or wear a uniform, put on a colorful necklace or a particular pair of sneakers to get the attention of the person you like.
- If you work, dress appropriately but differently. For example, wear a shirt with a distinctive print or a decorated headband.
Step 3. Dress in red
If you know it looks good on you, go ahead and use it. According to some studies, both sexes are particularly attracted to those who wear red. Wear a red dress or shirt to grab the attention of the person you like. If this color isn't your thing, choose another bright one to stand out.
Step 4. Don't overdo it
It's easy to get carried away to hit someone. It is important to look nice, but remember to dress appropriately according to the context.
- For example, if you like someone in a yoga class, don't dress like you're going to a "red carpet".
- Remember that it is best to do everything in moderation. This also applies to perfume.
Step 5. Make sure this person has noticed you
Try your best to enter its orbit. If you go to school together or go to the same gym, try to get close by putting yourself in a strategic place. Keep doing this until they notice you.
Don't get to the point of going wherever this person goes. There's a big difference between making sure you get noticed and stalking her
Step 6. Participate more in places where you see this person
If you go to the same school, apply for a class representative or audition for a school play. If you volunteer together, offer to collaborate for several hours. If you participate more, you will get noticed more, not to mention that you will prove to be a strong and determined person, two undoubtedly fascinating qualities.
Part 2 of 3: Getting in Touch
Step 1. Talk to his friends
If taking the first step makes you nervous, try talking to his friends. If a friend of yours knows someone from their social circle, contact them. If you don't have any connections with his friends, try to meet a couple of them by chatting about things you have in common, like a lesson or a work project.
- You could strike up a button with something as simple as, "So, when do you have the math exam again?"
- If you talk to his friends often, sooner or later you will get to know each other or spend time together. This is an effective tactic for getting into the good graces of the person you like.
- When talking to his friends, don't reveal your intentions. If you start asking suspicious questions right after you get to know them, they will understand your purpose. Try to keep a certain distance.
Step 2. Flirt non-verbal
If you are afraid of coming forward with the person you like, you can use different tactics to get their attention and let them know you care.
- Make eye contact and smile to show that you are friendly and warm, but make sure you don't overdo it. If it doesn't respond the first time, try again.
- If you are a girl, play with your hair, especially if it is long. Curl them with your fingers or bring them to the side and stroke them. Drawing attention to your hair helps you bring out one of your qualities.
Step 3. Attach button
If you've never talked to the person you like, it's time to step forward. Find an excuse to talk to us, preferably in a quiet time, so you don't have any interruptions. If you don't know it, talk about a topic related to the context you are in.
- For example, if you're standing in line, ask her if she thinks it's worth the wait. If you are taking a break from work and are in front of the vending machine, comment on the selection of snacks.
- Asking a question is useful for starting a conversation. For example, if you go to school together, ask her: "Sorry, can you tell me which homework the Italian teacher assigned us?".
- You can also ask for help. Whether it's opening a jar, grabbing something from a high shelf, carrying a heavy backpack or solving a math problem, asking the person you like for a hand allows you to strike up a conversation with them. You'll also boost his self-esteem, so it's an effective tactic for making the first interaction a positive one.
Step 4. After breaking the ice, talk about your common interests
Most people naturally feel attracted to people they have something in common with, so talking about their passions is a great way to connect.
If he's wearing a band shirt you like, talk about music. If you meet up often at the gym, talk about your favorite ways to keep fit
Step 5. Invite the person you like to tell you about themselves
By asking her a question, you show her that you find her interesting and that you want to get to know her better. Since people like to talk about themselves, it can also be an effective tactic to keep the conversation going.
For example, ask "How long have you been working here?" or "What courses do you take this semester?"
Step 6. Learn to listen
After inviting the person you like to talk about themselves, you could go into crisis for various reasons: you are not sure what to say next, how to respond or what to do if silence falls. All this can be solved by listening. It's hard to be careful and at the same time worry about making a good impression. With active listening, you will divert attention away from you and bring it back to the topic she is talking about.
- Try to answer with meaningful questions that can keep the conversation going and show interest. If he tells you he wants to take a scuba diving course, delve into this interest. How was it born? Which course will you enroll in? How long does it take to get a certificate?
- Don't use pauses to bring the spotlight back to you. A conversation should be a fair exchange. Just as you shouldn't focus on your interlocutor for the duration of the conversation, you shouldn't seem eager to talk about yourself either.
- Showing that you can listen with genuine interest can put the person you like at ease.
- If you don't get nervous, look the person you like in the eye to show that you are listening carefully. Don't stare (this may be a bit excessive), but try to make good eye contact.
- Show attention by nodding and making appropriate sounds (like "Mm-mm" or "Sure").
Step 7. Compliment her
As superficial as it is, people like to be flattered. As you speak, try to pay a compliment. It's also an effective tactic for keeping the conversation going, as it offers new insights.
- If you know the person you like thanks to a sport, you might say, "I saw you playing football. You are really good!".
- You could also say "I like your shirt", or compliment other aspects of its look.
- Limit yourself to just one compliment, or else it will seem like you are licking her feet.
Step 8. Laugh at his jokes
It's another tactic to flatter the person you like and connect with them. This will show her that you have a sense of humor similar to hers and that you find her funny. Laughing together helps build a bond and share a carefree moment.
- You might point out how funny it is while you laugh.
- If you want to flirt more explicitly, touch her arm while laughing. A greater harmony will be created and the person you like will feel closer to you.
Step 9. Keep in touch
Try to keep seeing the person you like and talking to them. Whenever you see her in the hallway or around, say hello. Pick up the thread of the last conversation. If you think she likes you, flirt more explicitly or invite her out on a date.
Part 3 of 3: Maintain Your Identity
Step 1. Define your style
Take a look at your wardrobe. Make sure all the clothes represent you, that they are not things you have had for years that you can't get rid of. Clothing is very effective for expressing oneself and demonstrating one's personality. If you have a specific style, the person you like can get an idea of your identity and your interests, so they may feel tempted to speak to you.
- If you are a sporty type, wear your favorite team shirt. If you are more feminine, reveal your side by dressing in pastel colors and lace dresses.
- If you have a rebellious soul, wear band t-shirts and black jeans.
- Don't copy the style of the person you like. If she is a perfectionist, you certainly don't have to change your look and dress the same way. Clothing should make you feel comfortable.
Step 2. Express your opinions in the presence of the person you like
If you go to school together, participate and answer the questions the teachers ask. Voice your ideas at work or at a gathering of your association. You can also try chatting with your friends in his presence or when you know he is listening. This will give you a better idea of your way of being.
If talking in his presence makes you nervous, take it step by step. To start, talk to someone else when you know they hear what you say. Then, go further and ask her a question in class or at a meeting. Taking one small step at a time will help you gradually develop greater peace of mind and confidence
Step 3. Try to be present on social networks
They are effective for indirectly approaching the person you like. Even if you're not friends on Facebook or aren't following you, they may still see posts or photos via your mutual friends.
- Try to curate your online presence to put yourself in a good light. Make sure your posts and photos make you look nice and interesting.
- Don't get tagged in photos that are unflattering or that portray you in inappropriate poses.
Step 4. Try to have confident body language
As much as the nervousness tries to take over, do your best to behave confidently. Straighten your back and smile in a relaxed way. Do not cross your arms, look at the ground, or nervously gesticulate - these behaviors can denote closure or anxiety. Also, turn your body towards the person you like and nowhere else.
Advice
- If you get nervous in his presence, proceed step by step. Taking care of your physical appearance can give you the confidence to make bolder moves.
- Don't think you need to change just to get her attention. Being yourself is the only way to achieve your goals.
- Don't flirt shamelessly. It is better to have a discreet and friendly attitude than to pester people.
