It is inevitable that at some point in life we run into problems that we cannot escape from: whether they are personal (such as the loss of a loved one or the end of a love affair), professional (such as career choice) or financial problems, each of these problems is accompanied by a series of factors that fuel stress, to which however there is no lack of solutions. To overcome the difficulties that arise in the course of life, one must have patience and manage them carefully. However, once they are resolved, you can learn something new and hopefully become a stronger person.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Overcoming Relationship Problems
Step 1. Talk about it
Communication is the most important tool in relationships. Explain what bothers you, what you want and hate, looking for a solution to the problem. Try to be as honest as possible and dig deeper to understand what you are feeling.
When talking to your partner, listen to them and be open to them. Express what you think by making affirmative sentences in the first person. For example, instead of saying, "You make me sorry", try this: "I regret when you don't remember our anniversary."
Step 2. Think positively
You may feel that your relationship has entered an endless spiral of negativity: you complain about work and friends or continue to annoy each other. Put an end to this vicious circle by focusing on the good that binds you to the other person and focusing on the best parts of your relationship. For example, appreciate their strengths, such as a sense of humor, or the wonderful things you have accomplished together, such as the house you bought or the unforgettable vacation you shared.
- Thinking positively also means expressing gratitude. Thank each other in order to highlight the best sides of your respective personalities.
- If you don't take certain situations too seriously, you will be able to face everything in a better frame of mind and think more positively. Be witty and appreciate humor!
Step 3. Accept your partner as they really are
You have chosen it with all its flaws, so accept every facet, good or bad it may be. If he is a chronic laggard, don't try to change him. Tolerate this flaw, but don't give up on being punctual.
To appreciate the person around you, think about the best sides of their character in order to overlook the negative ones
Step 4. Do something new together
Plan an exciting day on a kayak, improvise a vacation or go on a treasure hunt! Have fun trying something you've never tried. In this way, you will go back to the beginning, when you met. Everything you lived together was new to your eyes, so by experiencing this kind of feeling again, you can rekindle the spark of desire.
When you experience something new, pretend you are on your first date. In that circumstance, you wanted to impress each other by dressing well and behaving in the best way possible
Step 5. Offer couples therapy
Some relationship problems are difficult to solve without outside help. You should probably consider seeing a couples therapist to help you overcome your difficulties. This is a mental health professional who specializes in this field who will allow you to express your respective feelings and show you the best way to solve problems.
Try to be honest, question each other and clear your doubts with the help of the therapist. Make the most of this experience by actively participating
Part 2 of 3: Overcoming Professional Problems
Step 1. Face difficulties head on
Don't put them under the rug. Look the monster in the face and use aggressive strategies to dominate it! If you have to choose between various job offers, each of which offers you a different career path, don't wait until the last minute to decide. Instead, gather as much information as you can about each job and talk to others about it to make a reasoned decision you won't regret.
Make a list of pros and cons for addressing workplace issues
Step 2. Frame your difficulties from another point of view
Think of them as an opportunity to improve yourself and take on new responsibilities. It could be a chance to show your boss a side of you they've never seen before and earn a promotion.
If you want to overcome your problems, you have to let go of all prejudices. For example, list any preconceptions related to a particular product in your industry. So, think about what would happen if it didn't exist or if I acted in another way. For example, Cirque du Soleil has challenged the normal concept of a "circus" and created something innovative and profitable
Step 3. Set achievable goals
Do you want to be the CEO of a large multinational company or manage your own restaurant? Write down your ultimate goal and then break it down into smaller goals. By following each of them, you will be able to achieve your dream.
Make sure your goals are achievable and measurable, so you can track your progress. Do not hesitate to celebrate each milestone achieved
Step 4. Imagine your professional reality in ten years
Think about what life you would like to have in five or ten years. Consider to what extent your problem will be a help or a hindrance to the future you have imagined. How can you face it to be sure that your future is bright and proceeds along the path you want?
You can also imagine the solution to your problem. Think about all possible strategies and outcomes. Choose the one that is most advantageous and that involves less disagreement with colleagues
Step 5. Talk to someone
Reach out to a mentor, family member, or other person in your life that you can rely on. It is not easy to overcome problems if you are alone. By asking for an outside opinion, you will be able to put things in perspective and you will receive alternatives that you would never have thought of.
If you find it difficult to confide in people you know, such as friends or family, seek out a spiritual guide, consult a psychologist, call an anonymous listening service, or find a support group. This way, you will have the opportunity to express what you are feeling and seek help without fearing other people's judgment or other repercussions
Part 3 of 3: Overcoming Financial Problems
Step 1. Identify the source of your financial problems
Are you unemployed or was there an unexpected episode that cost you, despite yourself, thousands of euros? Sit down and discover the expenses that weigh the most on your wallet, studying all the bills and considering the personal events or expenses that could be connected to your financial distress.
- Sometimes it is not easy to identify the source of one's economic problems. For example, if you are emotionally attached to something, such as a car, or suffer from compulsive shopping, the best way to understand the root cause is to strictly examine the numbers.
- Create an expense spreadsheet based on the bills you receive monthly. Order them in relation to costs (highest to lowest) to determine which direction most of your money is going.
Step 2. Open a savings account
It is essential to get out of financial problems. It can often nip them in the bud. In case of difficulty, the money set aside must be sufficient to cover six months of out-of-pocket expenses. The best way to open a savings account (or a deposit account) is to transfer a portion of the monthly expenses into savings. Take € 100 that you could spend on a concert and pour it into the booklet.
If you are already in financial difficulty and have no savings set aside, immediately open a savings book and prioritize this investment. It will come in handy over time, so you won't have to worry next time something unexpected happens
Step 3. Create a budget
Once you understand how you spend your money, create a monthly budget that you strictly adhere to. It will help you make decisions about what to do and spend your money better.
- Start by taking into account your monthly income. Then prioritize your budget by saving money for your car, house, college loan, and other necessary monthly expenses first. Finally, enter other items, such as food, fuel, and entertainment.
- Adjust your budget based on inflation rates. For example, you should consider the price of gasoline which fluctuates every month and the cost of food which varies according to the seasons.
Step 4. Gradually reduce your spending
You probably can't afford the luxury of writing off € 500 at once. Therefore, try to reduce 3 or 4 purchases by 75 or 100 €. The simplest area in which to spend less is that of unnecessary expenses. For example, if you are used to eating out, start going to the supermarket more often and learn how to cook! You can save a fair amount of money each month by making small, but significant, lifestyle changes.
By gradually reducing your spending, you will gradually acquire a different lifestyle
Step 5. Keep track of how much you spend
Record everything you buy. Keep receipts and create folders in your email for online invoices and receipts. Create a spreadsheet to enter your expected expenses and update it every month to see if you're actually meeting your budget.
