Are you tired of sending absurd messages to the girl you like? Well, follow these steps to become a flirting sms expert and get a date!
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Techniques for Flirting via SMS
Step 1. Don't be boring and predictable:
it's the worst crime you can commit. Your messages should be fun and interesting. If they can't find anything that works for you, then you shouldn't even write them down.
- For example, you shouldn't start a message with “Hello!:)”Or“How are you doing today?”. SMS like that can be received by anyone.
- Try something more unique, something that gives her a way to answer you, like "I bet you can't help but think of me:)" or "Last night you totally cheated on table football … I invite you for a rematch".
Step 2. Get personal
Sometimes SMS can seem a bit impersonal, so you better personalize them. You will create a closer relationship between the two of you.
- Use his name in the message - the girls are delighted to read it. There is nothing more intimate.
- Alternatively, you could use the special nickname you call her. It will be like sharing a joke.
- Use the terms "we" and "us" in your text messages - girls love this feeling of "you and me against the world".
Step 3. Give her a compliment
It is quite simple and the girls feel special and appreciated. If you can, put some nice compliments in your messages.
- Try something classic, but always effective like "I can't help thinking of you in that dress" or something less conventional like "You have a weird sense of humor, but I like it."
- Make sure the compliment is genuine, as girls spot falsehoods miles away.
Step 4. Be mysterious
There's nothing wrong with being mysterious in texting - you don't want her to feel hunted, so it's okay to be a little vague or detached from time to time.
- If she asks you how your day was, for example, you shouldn't reply with a long message describing every boring detail (see step 1). Instead, try something like “It was pretty weird reality. People never cease to amaze me”. She will likely be intrigued and, in the following message, she will be the one to ask you for new details.
- If she asks what your plans are for the weekend, don't be too frank unless you have really exciting plans. Tell her a weird reason that doesn't have to be true, but interesting.
Step 5. Make fun of it
This is usually a great method of flirting - it creates a kind of intimacy between the two people without being serious.
- As mentioned before, call your girlfriend a cute nickname, the one that is only used by you. It's a good way to tease her without being offensive. A good example is "Freckles"
- Tease her about something she said did the last time you went out together. It's an example of avocation humor - it takes you back to the time you were having fun together and causes her to think positively about your relationship.
- Make sure you do not overdo it, trespassing into mediocrity or offense, otherwise your relationship via SMS will quickly die.
Step 6. Be suggestive
No SMS flirting would be complete without a joking note to keep interest alive.
- You could fall into the classic trap of asking her what she's wearing or saying something like "I love you in that dress, but I'd love what's underneath it even more."
- Another good technique is to take an innocent comment from him and deliberately misunderstand it as if it were something sexual. For example, if he told her “It's really too long!”, Referring to a film in a completely innocent way, you could reply with a simple “That's what they say!”.
- If you feel a little nervous about taking the sexual route, you should casually mention that you just got out of the shower. His mind will do the rest.
Part 2 of 2: Etiquette for Flirting via SMS
Step 1. Keep your messages short and sweet
Long text messages are boring and will make you look too eager.
- You should therefore write no more than two or three sentences.
- Try to make every message fun, clever and sweet - flirting should never involve chattering about the weather.
- Get her to talk, don't be the only character in the speech. If she tells you she practices a certain activity and you meet up, ask her to show you something she is good at… she will feel more comfortable.
Step 2. Send a balanced number of messages
A person should never send a significantly higher number of SMS than the interlocutor.
- Sending too many messages will make you seem too eager and available. She will begin to feel you are a little too pressing and may lose interest.
- On the other hand, by sending a few, you may seem disinterested or lead her to believe that you are writing to several girls at the same time. If so, he may see you as a lost cause.
- It is therefore necessary to find a balance in the number of SMS sent, perhaps by having her write you a few more.
- Also pay attention to who starts and ends each SMS conversation - take turns if possible.
Step 3. Pay attention to spelling and grammar
Try to give her the impression of being witty and intelligent in your messages, avoiding those horrible abbreviations. Teenagers, perhaps, can get away with it, but those who are a little older should still pay attention to spelling and grammar.
- You don't have to go looking for big dictionary words just to sound smart. Just check each message quickly before sending it to make sure there are no obvious typos or misspellings.
- Punctuation can have a huge impact on the interpretation of the text. For example, if your girlfriend sends you a picture of her in a new outfit, "Wow!" it sounds more enthusiastic than just "wow", while "I like …" is more tantalizing indicative of a "I like it".
- Don't go overboard with exclamation marks, question marks, smilies, and other emoticons - they can be very effective in the right context, but they can seem childish if excessive.
Step 4. Don't let the conversation drag on
One of the most important skills in texting is knowing how to put an end to a dialogue that is now dead.
- If the message exchange drags on for too long, you will run out of interesting things to say and the conversation will quickly become uncomfortable and boring.
- The trick is to end the conversation 'before' it gets to that point, creating a wait in your girlfriend.
- Try ending with something beautiful and intriguing like “I'm going now, baby, see you tomorrow! Don't get in trouble without me! " or “It's time for me to go to sleep - I need my beauty sleep. See you in your dreams!”.
Step 5. Don't use SMS flirting instead of actual flirting
Messages are to be used only as a stopgap between moments of royal courtship.
- While texting flirting is a great method, nothing can beat the sparks that arise during in-person courtship.
- Use SMS to arrange an appointment or plan an informal outing. This gives the message a useful purpose for both of us.
- Remember that prolonged eye contact, a bright smile, and a swipe of the arm always tap any bunch of words on a screen.
