Texting and chatting on the phone is a great way to get to know a girl you may not see very often. Here's how to send and say unforgettable words to her.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Effective Messages
Step 1. Ask her for the number:
this may be the most complex step. If he gives it to you, that means he is available to receive your messages.
- Don't get his number shady - the last thing you want is to look like a stalker. His number is private information, so he will have to give it to you of his own free will.
- Find an excuse. She will probably understand that she is, but if she is interested, she will gladly give you her number. If you are in the same study group or go to school together, swapping phone numbers is important to coordinate better, isn't it?
- Give her your number and then say "ah, I just realized I don't have yours."
- Ask directly if you don't have an excuse. Don't get nervous and ask her if she can give it to you but first have a chat with her and create a pleasant atmosphere.
Step 2. The right time for the right message
Waiting too little will make you look desperate. Waiting too long, not interested. But then what is the right time? There is no absolute rule but remember that:
- Wait at least a day. If she gives you the number in the afternoon and you text her in the evening, you may feel stuffy. The wait is tough but it will be worth it.
- Choose a time when she can answer you. Don't send him when he's at school or work. Try around 8pm or at the weekend, but not on a Saturday night!
Step 3. Resubmit:
don't assume that she automatically knows who you are.
- If you know each other well enough, your name will suffice: “hey Lia, I'm Giovanni. How's your evening going?”.
- If you have known her recently, provide some more information: “hey Lia, I'm Giovanni. It was a pleasure to talk to you the other day”.
Step 4. Light conversations
Texting is a great medium for small chats, so use it to your advantage! Messages are not suitable for talking about deep and interesting topics. The seemingly mundane details are just fine for now.
- Ask her about her day - a question that will open up an entire conversation.
-
Pick up on a topic you've already talked about, such as a joke between the two of you, a common interest, or a conversation that has been pending.
Call or Text a Girl Step 10 - Ask her about her interests - most of us love to talk about ourselves, so make it easy for her. For example, you can ask her about her hobbies or, if you know what she likes, deepen: “The other day you said you practice horse riding; this sport intrigues me a lot”.
Step 5. End the conversation before it engulfs:
you can leave a good impression of you and relieve the stress of "what am I asking now?". As soon as you notice that the dialogue is dying out, say hello.
Tell her you enjoyed texting with her and add "I hope to hear from you soon"
Step 6. Let her know there will be a next time
You could tell her you'd like to know more about her hobbies or write her "maybe we'll hear from you tomorrow".
Step 7. Compliment her during the second “session” (optional)
If the first time went well, dare and make her feel special.
Insert it into the opening
Method 2 of 2: Conquer it with a Phone Call
Step 1. Get his number, but do it transparently
Read the previous section to find out what the correct strategies are.
- Wait a day or two.
- Call her in the evening.
Step 2. Call her at the right time
Don't do it right after you get the number - wait at least a day. However, don't wait too long, or she'll think your interest is low.
Call her in the evening - she may be busy during the day and distracted by other chores. By calling at 7 or 8 pm, you can talk more calmly
Step 3. Relax
Before looking for it in the phone book, take deep breaths and calm down. Don't run the risk of stuttering due to nervousness. Practice in front of the mirror to find the right tone to be charming and understandable.
A little privacy. Call her when you are alone: if you surround yourself with other people, you will not be able to concentrate
Step 4. Look at the phone label
The way you speak through this medium says a lot about your good manners.
- If another person answers, say: "good evening, could I talk to Lia?". Your interlocutor may ask you who is looking for it. Answer by saying your name and contextualizing it (“I'm Giovanni, we attend the same Spanish course”). If she is not at home, politely ask if you can leave your number so that she can call you back.
- If she answers, say “hey Lia! I'm giovanni; you gave me your number the other day”. Re-introducing yourself may seem strange but it is still an important step to avoid any embarrassment.
Step 5. Chat about your days, homework, work, friends, interests
.. Don't stress yourself out looking for complex themes. You are just getting to know each other better.
- Keep the conversation focused on her by showing interest in her hobbies (even if that's not true; however, if you like a girl you should be able to genuinely participate in her life).
- Ask her how her day went - she may need to tell someone something.
- Reconnect with your previous conversation to establish common ground.
Step 6. When to end the call?
When the silences begin to last at least three seconds. Hang up if the conversation slows down so you don't generate awkward moments.
Close with a compliment: “it is wonderful to talk to you; I hope to be able to do it again soon ". It must be absolutely clear that you are not ending the call for something she said
Step 7. Wait a couple of days before calling her back
Calling every day would cause too much pressure: you still don't have that kind of confidence. Calling her a couple of times a week is ideal in the beginning, so you can encourage her to do the same with you.
Advice
- Don't invite her to your house to watch TV or a movie if you don't know her well - she might think you want to get straight to the point!
- If you have been able to lay a good foundation, after a couple of phone calls you will feel more relaxed.
- Don't text her or call her too late - you may be giving her a wrong impression of you.
- Texting limits certain nuances, such as a sense of humor. Remember that she can't see you, so use smiley faces or, if a certain sentence could be misinterpreted, don't write it down.
- If he refuses to give you his number, don't insist.
