The so-called "role models" are important, because they are those whose behaviors help us become the people we want to be and inspire us to make a difference. Choosing your role model wisely means being subjected to its positive influence and receiving the right stimuli in order to improve. Opting for a role model in your personal life is different from choosing a celebrity as a role model, but by following a few steps you can choose the most suitable people to fill these roles in your life.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Choose a Life Pattern You Know
Step 1. Choose a role model you know to help you become the best version of yourself
It can inspire you to mature and grow as a person. It could act as a guide and offer you concrete advice and examples to get the most out of yourself.
Step 2. Identify your bad habits or negative sides of your character
These are the aspects that you don't like or would like to change and they are important in identifying the changes that need to be made.
Step 3. Make a list of the main goals you want to achieve
Do you want to live in a certain way? Realize something in particular? Becoming a certain type of person? Make a list of your goals, relating to both personal and daily life.
Step 4. Gain self-confidence
As you begin to consider how to choose a role model, try to strengthen your self-esteem. We choose a role model to have a model that encourages us to become better people. You must have confidence in yourself and in your abilities to be able to become whoever you want to be.
Step 5. Identify people who are endowed with the same qualities that you wish to develop
If you want to be an inspiring person, think about the ones that inspire you. Do some brainstorming. Why do you admire them so much? What is the message they convey to you through their behavior?
You may be surrounded by ideal role models. These may have a deeper impact on you and even be able to guide you, to such an extent that they are considered the best choice as examples of life
Step 6. Consider someone who is determined
A good example of life should be someone who knows who they are: don't choose a person who looks perfect but has no purpose in their life, but one who doesn't pretend to be someone else.
Step 7. Choose someone who can make you feel good about yourself
Your role model should be someone who thinks it's okay to be unique and different, even if that means accepting being ridiculed. It should always help you have a positive attitude and accept yourself as you are.
The purpose of having a role model is to have a role model that encourages and stimulates you to improve yourself. If your role model doesn't make you feel this way, then it's best to choose another one
Step 8. Choose someone who can interact effectively with others
He should be kind and be able to communicate with those around him. It is easy to understand and imitate a person who is able to relate profitably.
Step 9. Don't consider top performers
It is preferable to choose a reference model that demonstrates safe skills and that has reached its position thanks to commitment and hard work. Often the flashy people, who have achieved striking success, are those who have taken big risks and who have been lucky, rather than the most competent. It is best to choose a role model who works hard and consistently to achieve their goals.
Choosing a top performer as an example of life could really discourage and demotivate you, because it would be difficult to emulate the levels of his performances, unless you are lucky
Step 10. Choose someone other than you
We are all tempted to opt for a certain model because we see something of ourselves in it. This reference model would hinder your growth, because you don't actually have to change any characteristics of yourself, but simply refine the characteristics you already have. You choose your role model because you see something in him that you are not, but that you should be.
- Imitating a role model who does not look like you will not be easy or natural, but it will serve as an impetus to bring out the best in you and to motivate you to achieve goals you never imagined you could achieve.
- Choose a role model that you wouldn't normally think of imitating.
- For example, if you are bold and spontaneous, choose someone who is consistent and known for in-depth analysis.
Step 11. Identify his successes and failures
Sometimes knowing about his failures can really encourage and motivate you to make the best of yourself, even more than his successes. By acknowledging his shortcomings you can understand that, as a human being, he makes mistakes - just like you. The important thing is to learn from him and keep working to improve yourself.
For example, even famous scientists like Isaac Newton and Albert Einstein have struggled and failed many times in their lives, but they continued to work hard to achieve their goals and ultimately succeeded. You can draw inspiration from their experiences to keep engaging, even when it feels like nothing is going right
Step 12. Choose someone you know and watch them emerge by adopting systems that are consistent with your morals and ingrained beliefs
A role model should be someone who you admire in all facets of their personality and who leads a healthy lifestyle.
Go in search of qualities such as passion and the ability to inspire you, a set of specific values, commitment to the community, altruism, unconditional acceptance of others and the ability to overcome obstacles
Step 13. Don't emulate your role model completely
We all make mistakes, including those you have chosen as your role models. They must simply act as a guide and must not be slavishly imitated: do not follow them blindly.
Step 14. Develop your style
While it is okay to emulate a role model, it is also important to maintain your individuality. Do not get lost in trying to follow the example of your role model. Adopt the characteristics that you would like to improve the most in yourself, but don't change the other aspects of your personality.
Be yourself and trust what you do. Don't copy what others are doing, try to stand out. If people copy, it only proves that they are insecure and unoriginal, unlike you
Method 2 of 2: Choose a Famous Life Pattern
Step 1. Choose a famous role model or a hero who excels in a particular field that you want to emulate
A hero is usually someone who emerges in certain activities. You will learn about this person through the media, rather than through direct observation.
Step 2. Identify all your best features
What are your strengths? What are you good at? These are the qualities you want to cultivate and preserve, but not necessarily the ones you would look for in a role model. Reflect on your strengths and develop an image of who you are and who you would like to be.
Step 3. Identify your bad habits or negative sides of your character
These are the things you don't like or want to change about yourself and they are important in determining how you want to change.
Step 4. Make a list of the main goals you want to achieve
Do you want to live in a certain way? Realize something in particular? Becoming a certain type of person? Make a list of your goals, relating to both personal and daily life.
Step 5. Gain confidence in yourself
As you begin to consider how to choose a role model, try to strengthen your self-esteem. You choose your own role model to have a model that encourages us to become better people. You have to have confidence in yourself and in your abilities to be able to become whoever you want to be.
Step 6. Identify people who have stood out for their admirable deeds
It could be someone who has donated their money to charity, saved many lives, helped people in need, or discovered a cure for a disease. Find someone with qualities that you don't have (yet!).
Step 7. Remember that only God is perfect
Don't expect a role model to be perfect; could make mistakes. For example, you could choose a role model for the milestones she has achieved, without imitating her private life.
This is important when choosing a famous example of life, especially for children, because many celebrities may have a lifestyle that you do not want your children to imitate
Step 8. Look for someone who leads the life you would like
If you want to become a famous writer, your role model could be someone who has written successful works. If you have always wanted to become a nurse, your model could be the nurse from the local hospital who has always dedicated herself to her work with self-denial and whom you have always admired for all the achievements she has achieved.
Step 9. Identify his successes and failures
Sometimes knowing about his failures can really encourage and motivate you to make the best of yourself, even more than his successes. By acknowledging his shortcomings you can understand that, as a human being, he makes mistakes - just like you. The important thing is to learn from him and keep working to improve yourself.
For example, even famous scientists like Isaac Newton and Albert Einstein have struggled and failed many times in their lives, but they continued to work hard to achieve their goals and ultimately succeeded. You can draw inspiration from their experiences to keep engaging, even when it feels like nothing is going right
Step 10. Identify your personal shortcomings
Many celebrities don't have a private life that should be modeled and emulated. You should carefully examine how these flaws affect their way of being and their personal career. Know that many famous people manage to get away with it and come out clean, thanks to their fame and money. Learning to recognize these mistakes can help you avoid getting into bad habits by following in the footsteps of your role models.
Step 11. Don't completely emulate your role model
We all make mistakes, including those you have chosen as your role models. They must simply act as a guide and must not be slavishly imitated: do not follow them blindly.
Step 12. Develop your personal style
While it is okay to emulate a role model, it is also important to maintain your individuality. Do not get lost in trying to follow the example of your role model. Incorporate the characteristics that you would like to improve most in yourself, but do not change the other aspects of your personality.
Be yourself and trust what you do. Don't copy what others are doing, try to stand out. If people copy, it only proves that they are insecure and unoriginal, unlike you
Advice
- Remember that having a role model does not mean becoming exactly like him. Don't cancel your personality. Imitate it without sacrificing your individuality.
- Emulate it until you yourself become a role model for others; this is how you can recognize that you have acquired the main characteristic of the role model.
- True role models are the ones that have the qualities you would like to have. They are also the ones who have influenced us to the point of spurring us to improve. Sometimes we don't recognize the people we are emulating until we realize our personal growth and the progress they have fostered.
- When choosing a role model that you know personally, you can ask him to be your mentor. In this way he could teach you and accompany you on your growth path.
Warnings
- Don't forget that no one is perfect.
- Some poorly chosen role models could take advantage of their position to induce you to make gestures that put you in a bad light or to exert a negative influence on others. Avoid following this kind of role model and never emulate others without thinking.
