Life becomes monotonous, something falls apart and the work gets harder and harder; in those moments the best thing to do is to press the 'reset' button and start over. If your desire is to be able to relax and get your mind in order after a terrible day, week or season, you can learn how to make small changes to your lifestyle that will lead you to a new beginning and new opportunities.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Reset to Start Over
Step 1. Try changing scenery
After some time, seeing the same places and faces over and over could negatively affect your mood. Sometimes all it takes is to get new stimuli and moving, for a little or a long time, can be the right solution. Psychologist Susan Clayton argues that where you live and how you define your home partly determine how you define yourself. You can deduce from this that if you can't stand the place you live anymore, you probably can't stand the way you are living either.
- There may be practical or financial reasons that prevent you from moving elsewhere, to another city or another state, but maybe you have the possibility to change neighborhood, to live the city differently, or to look for new roommates.
- Alternatively, try rearranging or cleaning your home or room thoroughly. If it looks like new, it will also look like new to you.
Step 2. Take frequent breaks
To live a healthy and happy existence, it is essential to learn to let go of the psychological burden that you carry on your shoulders during the day. First you should take several breaks throughout the day. Stopping doing the physical or mental work you are doing for a few minutes will give you a chance to start over with more energy and clarity. Taking breaks helps you keep track of your goals and stick to your schedule.
Try taking a 10-20 minute break every hour or every hour and a half to keep up. Studies have shown that this is the ideal duration to be as productive and focused as possible. You will not be able to do the same by trying to work continuously
Step 3. Exercise more
Physical activity improves mood, as well as health, and also helps you prevent anxiety. Recent studies have shown that people who exercise regularly have less difficulty coping with the stress and tension inevitably caused by daily activities. In addition, it is also a great way to clear your mind at the end of a particularly stressful day or week. Get rid of anxiety by sweating rather than brooding over it.
Step 4. Change appearance
Making changes, subtle or significant, to your look can make a noticeable difference in how you perceive yourself and your behavior, and consequently also in how others perceive you, especially in the workplace. Dress according to how you want to be viewed.
- While it's easy to infer that dressing smartly makes others tend to see you as more trustworthy and trustworthy, it's important to understand how you want them to perceive you in order to start a new existence.
- Maybe you don't want to be seen as trustworthy. If so, get a tattoo or wear a battered leather jacket to surprise friends. Become a new yourself by marrying a look you like.
Step 5. Temporarily delete your social network accounts
Today, the way we think about ourselves and others is largely influenced by our online presence. To change your virtual life as well, you may need to temporarily cancel or suspend your accounts, giving you a way to take a break and review your online presence.
- Erase anything you don't want to stay online and change your login passwords. Make every detail slightly different so it can feel new to you when you decide to start over.
- Start over when you feel ready, using a new or slightly different username to make new friends. If necessary, create a new email address to be able to create a new account.
- Stay offline if you find that you can't help but constantly log into Facebook.
Step 6. Sleep on it
Don't underestimate the psychological benefits of a good night's sleep on your ability to rectify things and start off differently. Lack of sleep significantly affects cognitive functions, also causing negative effects on mood, ability to perform simple tasks effectively and overall physical and mental well-being. If you want to have the energy you need to start each new day, make sure you get enough sleep at night.
Step 7. Consider making more drastic changes
Would you like to disappear completely? If you feel the need to start all over again, the right solution might be to make some dramatic changes to your lifestyle. Check out the following wikiHow articles to learn how to radically change things:
- Change name;
- Change identity;
- Disappear completely;
- Starting a new life.
Step 8. Try to assess the situation in a realistic way
Underlying a famous study performed in California and Nebraska was the belief by researchers that California residents had a higher happiness rate guaranteed by the better climate, but surprisingly the results showed that the degree of happiness was identical in both places. The neighbour's grass always looks greener, but we have a tendency to overemphasize the effect of some secondary factors, such as climate or geography, on our degree of happiness. The most important thing you should change if you want to improve your life is yourself.
Method 2 of 3: Leaving a Difficult Relationship Behind
Step 1. Free yourself from memories
If you want to get your life back in hand after the end of a relationship, get rid of all those objects that inevitably remind you of your past together. There is little point in keeping the memorabilia of the good old days because they will only remind you that now that person is no longer a part of your life. The sooner you can get rid of old objects, memories and photographs that remind you of past moments, the sooner you can start your new life.
Make it a real ritual. Take all the photos and delete them, one after the other. Burn his letters in the garden while you say aloud "Goodbye forever"; repeat it for each one
Step 2. Think about it, but don't let it become an obsession
It is okay to take the time to reflect on the end of a story, to give yourself a way to understand what went wrong and decide what you should do differently next time. However, while it is fair, you must be careful not to go too far so as not to be obsessed with these kinds of thoughts. If you find that you can't think of anything other than your ex partner, it's important to move on and look forward.
If you find yourself obsessed with thoughts about your past relationship or if you feel the urge to try to revive it, practice recalling a negative memory. Think about all the things you don't like about that person. In this way you will be able to quickly eliminate that obsession from the mind
Step 3. Keep your distance
Don't allow yourself to reconsider your decision to end that story. To start a new life, you need to avoid dating your old partner. Rather, do your best not to meet him, not to think about it, and not to do the things you did together. Make significant changes, physical and psychological, to put your life back in order after separation.
Don't retrace your steps. Don't reconsider your decision. Relationships that have already ended once are more likely to fail again than to be successful
Step 4. Learn to count on the support of friends
Spend time with the people you still care about and love you. Don't be afraid to express your feelings or tear apart your past stories together. Laugh at it and support each other.
- If you and your partner have many mutual friends, don't be afraid to claim your rights and stand up for your position. Don't step aside just out of fear of meeting your ex partner and diplomatically manage your network of relationships.
- At the same time it is important to recognize when a friendship should also end. If the friendship depended on a situation involving your old partner, don't be afraid to move on and make new friends.
Step 5. Change something that has nothing to do with your partner
Do something for yourself, something your ex partner wouldn't approve or appreciate. Sign up for a flamenco class, start CrossFit at the gym or listen to your favorite music blaring. Choose an extravagant hairstyle. Celebrate being single with a new business.
Think about something where your partner was hindering you. If you've never gotten to work on your creative projects due to his constant criticism or attempts to distract you, let your creativity resurface. Throw yourself headlong into a type of project that would have been impossible if you still had your partner by your side
Step 6. Allow some time to pass before going out with someone else
Plunging into a new story may seem like the ideal solution to quickly leave the one you just finished behind and move on, but the truth is that your mind is still haunted and loaded with painful emotions. You shouldn't carry such baggage into a new relationship and another person's life. Depending on how long the relationship that has just ended lasted, it will be better to wait a few weeks or even a couple of months to be sure that you have left it behind.
However, if you meet a person with whom you sincerely think you can be compatible and feel able to embark on a new relationship without remaining stuck in the past or making comparisons with the story that just ended, then feel free to start over
Method 3 of 3: Change Jobs
Step 1. Visualize your ideal day
If you think that changing your career could help you make a positive change in your life, try some simple visualization exercises to decide what kind of job might make you happier. Answer the following questions to try to understand what you want:
- How should your day unfold to be perfect?
- How would you like to earn the money you need? What responsibility would you like to have?
- What requirements do you need to get the job you dream of?
- Is it important for you to have a job that gives you prestige?
- How much do you think you can earn with the job you aspire to?
- Where would it take you to live? What lifestyle would you have?
- Who would you work with? What role would you like to fill?
Step 2. Try taking a personality test
If you have a hard time deciding what you really want, you can try one of those tests that help you figure out which job is best suited to your personality. While they are not infallible or rigorous, they can serve to narrow the field of research and direct you towards a career true to your nature. It is definitely a good way to get ideas.
One of the best known and most popular personality tests is the one designed by the famous Swiss psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung. You can easily find it online along with many other types of tests that can guide you towards the ideal job
Step 3. Talk to a job coach
They are a professional who can help you choose the career that suits you best and create a new vision of yourself. Search online to find one in your city, it will translate your skills into new job opportunities at a generally low cost. If you feel that changing could be good for you, but can't decide what kind of path to take or how to proceed, a work coach can be an excellent guide.
Step 4. Review your priorities
Many people have been brought up to think that the only option is to aim for abstract excellence and end up studying subjects they have no interest in, so they get trapped in a job that they hate or even have a hard time finding a job. Manufacturing professions, which are generally not taught in school, are a serious and respectable option that is often belittled. After a few years of practice, you can start making good money by working for example as:
- Welder;
- Plumber;
- Installer and maintenance technician of thermo-hydraulic systems;
- Electrician;
- Mechanic;
- Carpenter;
- Mason.
