Not everyone is successful when young and not everyone is a child prodigy. Some need to become wise and see the world around them, digesting their ideas, information and knowledge, before they flourish. Do you reflect yourself in this description? Keep reading!
Steps
Step 1. Determine if you are someone who has reached your creative, educational, social or professional maturity late:
- At school or university. Your grades have always been mediocre, until you suddenly blossomed and became top of the class.
- In the workplace. Maybe you have spent 15-20 years of your adult life figuring out what career to pursue. Once you understand this, you will surely shine.
- From the social point of view. When everyone was going out and having fun, the idea of making new friends and dating was foreign to you, maybe it terrified you. One day, you realize that talking to people isn't that scary and your social circle opens up.
Step 2. A late blooming person is a deep thinker connected to the world in a different and less hasty way than the crowd
Your fast colleagues will burn out just when you are ready to turn on. People tend to make bad decisions when they are in a hurry to keep up with others. If you take some time for yourself, your decisions will be better and mistakes few.
Step 3. Know your strengths:
reflection, attention and patience. Use them to become more confident and to encourage yourself when you feel down.
Step 4. Keep an “Ideas” diary on your bedside table or bag
As soon as you have one (and people who bloom late have many), write it down. You may not need that much right now, but then it will come in handy.
Step 5. You shouldn't envy friends and colleagues who "made it" or seem to have adapted to the world before you
You are taking longer because you think the journey is worth as much as the destination. However, it is useless to compare yourself to others. Accept your uniqueness.
Step 6. Others may turn to you when they need to calm down
Use this skill to help them. Also understand that this ability can be used to choose a vocation, career, or lifestyle.
Step 7. Enjoy your success and keep working hard
It has taken a long time, but you know that you will go far and that perhaps you are more competent than those who have been successful before you. Many will have faith in your experience, in your knowledge and in the fact that you have thought so much that you have come to your own conclusions instead of copying someone else's.
Step 8. Record your thoughts
Your process could help someone else, such as a member of your family. These traits may be inherited from your children, so make their life easier.
Step 9. Always trust yourself and your skills:
you will be able to make conquests that others can only dream of. To bloom late means to develop an awareness that will spare you the mistakes caused by haste.
Advice
- Be confident and aware of your strengths.
- Be creative when faced with obstacles. Don't let anything, not even lack of money or age discrimination, get in your way. If you have a wall in front of you, grab a shovel and dig or climb and climb over it. Take Evelyn Gregory, who became a flight attendant for the US Air Express at age 71 as an example. After being turned down by three airlines, she took a job as a gate agent and made herself known to the company. Six months later, she was hired by the company and flew for the next seven years.
- Remember that the things you like aren't boring. It may seem daunting to enroll in medical school at 46 or become a flight attendant at 71, but the truth is that doing so won't make you exhausted, it will invigorate you. It's much more tiring to do something you don't care about.
- Help other late flowering people find their way. Reassure them by saying that they have not been left behind and that they are no less intelligent than the others. We all have a purpose in this life.
- Be honest with yourself. Look in the mirror and ask yourself “What am I doing and do I want to stop doing? What am I not doing and what do I want to undertake?”. You can have clearer ideas even if you don't know what your passions and gifts are. It starts from here.
- Cultivate your sense of humor. Be self-deprecating. Researchers at Loma Linda University in California have found that laughing not only reduces stress and stimulates the immune system, it also lowers dopamine levels, which regulate our fight or flight response. In other words, a good laugh relieves the anxiety caused by taking a risk.
- Invest time to nurture your friendships. You will become more aware and confident about yourself and your path.
Warnings
- Watch out for the money. Maybe you will need to have a more Spartan lifestyle to indulge in a new passion.
- Be realistic about your expectations. Many employers frown upon late flowering people because they prefer to make a long-term investment or fear that they may not be able to learn.
- It is always better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing and not make mistakes. Do your best.
- There are many age- and gender-related prejudices in the world of work and college. Make jokes about it and show that you are worth as much as the younger ones.
- If you resume studying or volunteering to change careers, feel younger on the inside and don't give life advice to your boss or professors (they may appreciate it after getting to know you better). Treat them with respect even if they are much younger than you.
- Cultivate your computer skills and learn about social networks and the latest electronic gadgets.
