If people tell you that you are fat, you can certainly feel very bad about it. Nobody likes to be made fun of for their physical appearance. There are many ways to respond to such offenses: you can make a wry comment and surprise the other person with your brilliance, or point out that what they say is inappropriate. Work on how to emotionally deal with what happened; negative comments about your body hurt, so you should seek help from loved ones.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Respond in a joking way
Step 1. Use sarcasm
In some cases, people who take it out on others don't expect a response. Try using irony and you might catch the bully on duty. Bullies often target those who think they are letting themselves be abused, so a sarcastic comment can nip their attempts in the bud.
For example, pretend the insult was a compliment. You can say, "Wow! Thanks for noticing, I really appreciate it."
Step 2. Hit back with a rude joke
You can react to a comment about your weight with a sarcastic and specific joke. For example, if someone says to you "You have a very beautiful face, too bad you are so fat", try to answer: "You too have a beautiful face, too bad for your character".
Be careful, however, not to miss comments that are too offensive, especially if you don't feel safe. Don't put your own safety at risk
Step 3. Make fun of the other person for their lack of competence
A person's weight is a private matter between you and your doctor. Others have no right to comment if they have not studied medicine. Highlight this aspect. You will make those who offended you feel foolish for raising the issue.
For example, imagine you are in your first year of high school and a classmate says to you, "It would do you good to lose 15 pounds." Reply by saying, "Wow! I didn't know you got a medical degree as early as 14, because only a doctor can know how much weight I need to lose."
Step 4. Just consider not answering
In some cases, it's best not to argue. Some bullies are just waiting for a reaction. If you've retorted with witty jokes and still get teased, just start ignoring the offender. See if this puts an end to verbal aggression.
- If someone makes an indelible comment about your weight, pretend you haven't heard it. If he continues to offend you, just walk away.
- Don't be ashamed if you feel the need to cry after ignoring offenses. It is normal to be sad when someone hurts our feelings. Even if you can ignore a bully in the moment, vent negative emotions later if necessary.
Method 2 of 3: Tackling the Situation Seriously
Step 1. Reply to the person by telling them that their comment is inappropriate
In some cases, this is a win-win. If someone makes a joke that hurts your feelings, tell them directly what they did wrong. People who make fun of others about their weight are often taken aback when they are pointed out to them about the rudeness of their behavior.
- Try to be frank. Turn to the other person and say, "What you said is not funny at all. The comments about my weight are extremely rude and I don't appreciate them."
- You can reverse the situation with wise advice: "Offending me to boost your self-esteem is not healthy. Maybe you should find another way to deal with your problems."
- You can also ask the person questions about their behavior, such as, "Why do you feel the need to insult my physical appearance? What benefit do you get?"
Step 2. Tell people that your health is none of your business
Not everyone who calls you "fat" tries to hurt your feelings. While intentions don't justify such behavior, some believe they can help you improve your health and well-being. If you think someone is trying to help you with comments about your weight, let them know that this is not the case.
- You can say, "I appreciate your concern, but my health is a matter between me and my doctor. If I wanted advice on diet or nutrition, I would ask him."
- If the person insists, you can continue: "You know, I don't think it's really an appropriate conversation and I don't appreciate it."
Step 3. Remember that everyone's body is different
No two people are alike and you should point out to everyone that this is a diversity to celebrate. Show that you are proud of your appearance and others may stop bothering you. You can say, "I like my body the way it is, even if you don't think like me. I'm happy with how I look, so your opinion doesn't affect me that much."
Step 4. Establish rules for the future
If a friend or loved one calls you "fat," set hard limits that they must not exceed. Nobody has to put up with constant negative comments about their weight. If the person's behavior doesn't change, maybe you should reevaluate your relationship. People you hang out with should encourage you, not insult or demean you.
- Tell the other person about behaviors you don't accept in your interaction. For example, you can say: "I don't like comments about my weight and I am not willing to accept them. In particular I do not tolerate insults, as when you call me" fat ".
- If necessary, after some time remind the other person of the limits they should not exceed. For example, if he makes a comment about your weight again, you can say, "We've already talked about it. I don't appreciate comments like that."
Method 3 of 3: Emotionally Handle the Situation
Step 1. Don't engage in heated arguments
While sarcastic comments are allowed, especially when you are being harassed, make sure you don't start an argument. Limit yourself to a short, witty reply and don't insult the other person.
Yelling in the person's face or insulting them in turn will not help resolve the situation. Try to stay calm, even if you are angry
Step 2. Seek support from friends
It is normal to be sad when they tell you that you are fat and to feel bad about the comments. Ask for help from people who love you.
- Find a trusted friend or relative to let off steam with. If the comments still hurt you, try organizing a fun night out with friends, for example at the cinema.
- Choose an empathic person who can listen.
Step 3. Focus on the positives
A comment about your weight can make you feel very sad. After being offended by a negative comment, try to think about the things about yourself that you like. Remember all the good things people have said about you instead of focusing on a single negative sentence.
Try writing a list. Write down all the good things people have said about you. Refer to those comments and not the negative one about your weight
Step 4. Avoid people who comment on your weight
If someone is always talking about your physical appearance, even after you ask them to stop, you have every right not to hang out with them anymore. It is not fair to constantly criticize a person for their weight and it is certainly not nice to call them "fat". Do not hesitate to distance yourself from those who continue to disrespect you.
