Taking the first step means showing interest, asking someone to go out with you, or engaging in physical contact. You can do this after asking for permission or by expressing your liking for another person. You might try your luck spontaneously on the dance floor, or after years of thinking about your best friend. Whatever the move you want to make, by learning to observe the situation well and to evaluate the right moment you will be able to proceed naturally.
Method 1 of 4: During an Appointment
Step 1. Make your move during a movie
Whether you are in a movie theater or at home on the couch, a movie is a great opportunity to propose physical contact. Gently take her hand. If she likes you, she'll either accept the contact or tighten yours. If she doesn't like you, she'll walk away.
If she's holding your hand or coming up to you, you can put your arm around her shoulders and gauge her reaction. Ask if it's okay if you can't figure out what she wants
Step 2. Take the initiative when you greet her
The time to say goodbye is perfect for taking the first step, as it gives both of you the chance to leave right away. This is probably the best time for a first date. Make sure it is clear that you are leaving so that she does not feel any pressure. If you are driving, park and accompany her to the door. Let her know that you don't expect to be invited in.
Start with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. If she walks away, squeezes you briefly, lets you go or gives other signs of little interest, thank her for the nice evening and walk away. If she holds you back, approaches, or shows her lips, kiss her
Step 3. Make your move during a walk
If you walk together on a date, or head from one place to another, you can try a low-key intimate gesture. Try holding her hand, putting your arm around her shoulders or waist, or just touching her arm. She'll likely walk away if you make her uncomfortable, but ask to be sure.
Method 2 of 4: at a Party or on the Dance Floor
Step 1. Talk to her
If the volume of the noise allows, have a conversation. If she really can't talk, trying might make her laugh. If you get along, ask her if she wants to go out or find a quieter place. It does not matter which topic you are going to talk about. Make sure you ask a lot of questions so that it begins to melt. If you are the one talking most of the time, she may think you like yourself more than you like her.
Step 2. Ask her to dance
If you like to dance, you can ask her to do it during a lively song. Dance without obligation, separated in the beginning. You can invite her for a pirouette or dance by touching her with other friendly steps. When the music slows down, stretch your arms out and ask her to slow dance.
- If you can't dance or if you think it's the right time, ask her to slow dance.
- You can hold her close to you during a slow if she feels comfortable. Don't squeeze it and don't force it to stick to you. Ask her if she feels okay when you are in position.
- If the dance goes well, you can try to bring your face closer to hers and wait for her reaction.
- Don't touch it suddenly. Even if she likes you, she may not like these public displays of affection.
- Always remember to ask for permission. Don't start rubbing with someone you don't know.
Step 3. Ask her if she would like a drink, a cigarette or something to eat
It can be difficult to move around at parties. Skillfully getting something she wants will make you appear competent and thoughtful. If you haven't already figured out what he wants, be sure to ask first. Giving someone a drink they don't want can make them feel misunderstood or stressed.
Step 4. Maintain an attitude
You don't need to make an attempt at a physical approach right away. Talk and make a good impression. Get her number or give her yours. If you're nervous, talk to friends and remember that you don't have to hit the mark. Don't drink to combat nervousness or you'll end up getting drunk.
Method 3 of 4: with a friend
Step 1. Look for signs of romantic interest
While there is no precise way to understand what a woman thinks about you without explicitly asking, you can get an idea by paying attention to how she behaves in your presence.
- Notice how she dresses when she's with you versus how she normally dresses. If she wears her best clothes, she might be attracted to you.
- Be careful if he approaches you when he speaks and if he touches your arms or legs during your conversations. Flirting signals are possible.
- If she always chooses to sit on the opposite side of the couch or pulls away from you when you try to hug her or dance with her, she's probably not interested.
- Notice how she looks at you. Does he smile at you? Does he often observe you when you are in a group?
- Does he laugh at your jokes when other people don't? She might laugh because she likes you and your funny humor makes her happy.
- Find out if she wants to be alone with you. If he wants you to step forward, he may suggest you do something yourself.
- If he only wants to spend time with you in the presence of other people, he probably prefers you as a friend.
Step 2. When you can't resolve your doubts in any way, ask a straight question
In the case of a friend, you shouldn't ruin your relationship with too direct an approach. She cares about you and may be afraid of hurting your feelings. If you can't tell if she likes you or not from the signals she sends you, you should always ask before making your move.
- Asking can be as fun and sexy as trying a straightforward approach. Enjoy the awkward moment. Ask in person or write a note.
- You can use one of the following phrases: "I think about you a lot. I like you. I was wondering if you like me too or if you're just a great friend. I'm fine either way, but if you like me, we might go out sometime.".
- Compliment her. Choose romantic, non-sexual phrases, because you shouldn't make her feel uncomfortable if she'd rather be your friend. Tell her she has beautiful eyes, a great sense of humor and something special that you can't put into words.
- Get ready to receive a yes! Schedule an appointment. Ask her to see you in an enchanting place, where you can be alone, away from all your friends.
Step 3. Don't worry about the "friend zone"
This idea was invented by the kids to scare away potential competition. Girls don't think it really exists. You don't have to rush: when you know a woman likes you, you can make a direct move or tell her how you feel.
Step 4. Try it naturally
When you are certain that your friend is attracted to you, you will be able to take the first step naturally. If you'd rather plan things out, try extending one of your normal friendly interactions. In some cases, friends who are attracted to each other have very strange physical habits, such as hugging more than necessary, getting massages, or wrestling. If you also behave similarly, try to stop and look the girl in the eye.
- If you always hug each other, make your move by not letting go. If it freezes or pulls away, don't hold it back. If she gets closer or squeezes you more, try kissing her.
- Ask what he thinks. If you've made your move, make sure she's as excited about the result as you are.
Method 4 of 4: Finding out if it reciprocates
Step 1. Make sure he is capable of understanding
To be consenting means to legally consent to sexual activity. Sexual activities include oral, anal, and vaginal sex as well as contact, kissing, watching pornography, or exhibiting body parts. A person can only be consenting if he is sober, conscious and capable of understanding and willing. Girls who are drunk, under the influence of drugs, unconscious or mentally incapacitated cannot give their consent.
- Consent must be given freely. A person cannot be forced to accept an unpleasant situation. If she is afraid of you, is under pressure from another person, if you are older than her or have power over her in any other way, she cannot give her consent.
- If there is two or more years of age difference between you, sexual intercourse could be a crime.
- Find out about the relevant laws in your country before taking the first step with a younger girl.
Step 2. Find out if he is enthusiastic
After she verbally agrees (saying "Yes!" Or "I can't wait!"), Look for physical cues and listen to the tone of her voice. She should initiate sexual activities, respond to your contact, and appear relaxed and aroused. If there is no reaction, he may not like it. If he turns or walks away, he is probably telling you no.
- Stop immediately if you notice any signs that you may have changed your mind.
- If she seems hesitant but says she is ready, try going slowly.
- Make it a game. Touch each other in turn, or ask her to tell you what to do.
Step 3. Ask before each step
Before kissing, touching, or engaging in romantic contact with another person, always ask if they are welcome. It can be embarrassing, but it can also be fun, and it can definitely save you both from a bad experience. When you know she likes you, you can ask your questions in a sexy way.
- For example: "Can I kiss you?", "Can I hug you?", "I would like to touch you there. Would you like to?".
- Remember, a woman has the right to change her mind at any time. If she said that one thing is fine for her, it doesn't mean that it will always be like this or that everything else is fine too. Always ask for confirmation.
Step 4. Assess the situation after making your move
After doing something new, ask how it feels. You can say "Did you like it?" or "Do you want me to continue?". Even if you're doing something you've done in the past, it's always a good idea to ask what your partner thinks. Something she liked one day may not like it the next day.
Step 5. Walk away if she says "No" or if she doesn't seem excited
Learn to accept rejection. If she says no, respect her. Even expressions like "Not now" or "Maybe later" mean no. Don't go on if you don't get a full yes.
If you've made your move, but she doesn't encourage you to continue, stop. She'll tell you if she's changed her mind
- Remember that if a woman wants you to step up, she tries hard to make things easier for you. If you can never find the "right" time, even after several dates, she is probably the one who keeps it from happening.
- Just do what you feel like doing. Try not to plan your actions first and let yourself be guided by instinct. If you feel uncomfortable, you would notice.