Taking a girl by the hand could make you nervous, whether it's your girlfriend or making the first move towards the girl you're in love with. Whatever the reason you want to take a girl by the hand, the first thing to do is relax. After that, you have to approach her and gently take her by the hand. Holding hands is a beautiful way to show your affection, and it's not as difficult or scary as it may seem. If you want to start doing this, read this article.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: The First Approach
Step 1. Make her feel special
When you see her, say hello, look her in the eye, wave her hand, and start talking to her. If this is your first time holding hands, chances are you are both a little nervous, so it's important that you relax. While holding hands is an innocent gesture, it still comes with a certain level of intimacy, so you should be pretty sure she likes you before you make your move. Even hugging her or putting a hand on her knee can feel less intimate than holding her hand, so try to make other types of physical contact before moving on to holding her hand.
Step 2. Get closer to her
If you are seated, place your hand within inches of his. This can help you tell if she's ready to be taken by the hand - if she brings her hand closer, then she's probably ready for something more. If you are standing and walking together, try moving closer until your hands are inches apart.
Step 3. Make physical contact
There should be some kind of contact before I take her hand. If you are standing, put your arm on his shoulder. Otherwise, as you walk side by side, make your hands "accidentally" touch - at which point holding hands should become natural. When you're ready, there are several ways to take her hand.
Try to be relaxed before touching his hand. The more nervous you are, the more likely your hand is sweaty! It's not the worst thing in the world, but if you can avoid it, it's better
Step 4. Don't worry too much if she doesn't want to
Contrary to what you may think, not all girls like to be hand in hand. If she refuses because she is not interested in you, then you will understand this well, because she will walk away with her whole body and look uncomfortable. But there's a good chance she doesn't want to take your hand simply because she thinks it's trivial, or because she's nervous and thinks her hands are sweaty, or whatever, so don't worry; eventually you will understand.
Method 2 of 3: The Techniques
Step 1. Slide your hand under his
This is a bold and effective maneuver. If you are nervous, let your hands touch each other for a while before making the final move. Simply, slowly and gently, put your hand under his. You can move your hand a bit so that you play gently with his fingers. This technique works great if you are sitting.
Step 2. Put your hand over his
This is another very intimate technique. Move your hand so it's on top of hers and gently touch it. If you feel more comfortable, you can shake her hand or even massage her. This technique works great if you are in a restaurant or watching a movie. It doesn't get tired like holding hands while walking, because you can just relax and hold your hand over his.
Step 3. Palm to palm
This is also a very common way of taking a girl by the hand. Move your hand so that the palms of your hands are facing each other. You can also pat the palm of his hand if you are sitting down and want to try something different. Experiment with this easier move before grabbing her hand in full.
Step 4. Interlace your hands
After your palms touch, you can interlace your fingers, squeezing your hands fully. This works both sitting and standing, although it is more typical of walking couples. You can hold her hand passively or gently stroke her fingers. If you are walking in this world and you feel like joking a little, you can even move your hands back and forth.
Step 5. Hold on to the little fingers
This is also a way to flirt and have fun. Simply move your little finger towards his and grab it. That way you can have fun getting closer or away and joking around a bit. You can try this technique while walking by moving your hands back and forth. To do this you should wait until you have already taken hands in a more classic way.
Method 3 of 3: Become a Professional
Step 1. Know that taking breaks is okay
When you start holding hands, you don't need to stay that way all evening. You can take breaks, either because your hands may start sweating, or because you are getting tired or simply because you feel like it. Take your hand off gently, without suddenly letting go, and everything will be fine.
Step 2. Don't be monotonous
Do not use just one of the techniques described above. Alternate them, so that the girl doesn't feel like she is holding a piece of wood. You have to find a certain balance between never moving your hand and doing it too much, between stroking her hand and not doing it.
Step 3. Kiss her hand
If holding hands is going well, bring her hand to your mouth and kiss her back. Try looking into her eyes as you do this to make the gesture even more intimate. It is a very romantic move and you should rarely use it. But if you do it at the right time - for example at the end of a good moment when you held hands - she will love it!
Advice
- Separate your hands if they get too sweaty. Nobody likes contact with a sweaty hand.
- Talk to her. Act like holding her hand is an everyday thing.
- Shake hands every now and then.
- With the other arm, try to caress her forearm, around the elbow.
Warnings
- Be aware of the limitations. If you pass them, she may not want you anymore.
- Don't keep trying to take her hand if she doesn't react positively. It will only make the atmosphere worse.
- Don't shake her hand too hard.
- If you have a negative feeling, this is probably not the best time to try taking her by the hand.
- If he crosses his arms or doesn't respond during step four, that's okay. There are so many other girls.
