Each of us would like to meet their ideal partner. We have the innate belief that somewhere there is a soul mate waiting for us. But the soul mate is not an angel who falls from heaven, but the person with whom to grow up and spend the rest of one's life, despite the challenges and difficulties that a couple relationship entails. Therefore, one must be ready to work hand in hand to achieve the same goal.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Finding out if you are compatible
Step 1. Look for a partner who complements you
To build a stable and lasting bond, you should find someone to help you achieve balance and serenity.
- Don't trust the old saying "opposites attract" too much. Relationships between people with opposite characters sometimes degenerate.
- For example, if you are a quiet girl, do not make the mistake of thinking that your partner should be a man who loves to show off; you may never get a chance to have your say. Instead, try to find a man who thinks like you. In this way you can grow together.
Step 2. Consider your main ideals and your philosophy of life
Try to find someone to share your deepest values with. If you are a believer and your partner is an atheist, you will likely find yourself facing a number of problems in the future.
- You are likely to be more compatible with someone who has the same moral principles as you.
- Focus on your expectations. Do you want to start a family? Where do you want to live? If you want to travel and are attracted to someone who prefers to settle down on a permanent basis, take a step back. Although you can get along, you won't be able to build a future together.
- Sharing the same priorities is the right prerequisite for sharing a happy life together.
Step 3. Stop looking for your "him"
It is likely that there is not just one person in the world for each of us. Try to open your mind and don't wait for the "ideal" mate.
- It might be counterproductive to think of finding your "one" soul mate. There is no perfect relationship. Conflict is inevitable, so don't rush to the conclusion that you haven't found your soul mate.
- In pursuing our ideal of man, we often go in search of someone who compensates for our shortcomings. Don't hope to find a partner who meets all your needs; rather, look for one that encourages you to grow and try your hand at new experiences.
Step 4. Don't stop at the physical aspect
Although attraction is important, complicity is essential for the growth and evolution of a couple relationship.
- Find someone whose company you really enjoy. You should be eager to spend time with him. You may like him physically, but if you don't appreciate the moments spent with him, the relationship may not last long.
- You should devote yourself to the activities you both enjoy. If you like music, don't miss the concerts. If you love being outdoors, go camping.
Step 5. Don't settle for a poor relationship or someone who can't make you happy
Don't think about making it different or better. It is not possible to change people.
- If you are not happy with someone, chances are that someone is not completely happy with you. Don't fool him and keep looking.
- Evaluate your previous relationships and any life plans. Think about the positives and negatives. Try to broaden your searches to different men from the ones you've dated in the past.
Step 6. Have patience
The more time you spend with someone, the better you will get to know them. If you think you've found your soul mate, keep dating her to understand how your relationship evolves.
- It is best to be patient when meeting your potential partner so that the bond becomes stronger and lasting.
- Don't limit your choices because of meaningless preconceptions. Avoid choosing your partner based on their job or their age. While it's okay to have preferences, try to keep an open mind.
Part 2 of 3: Cultivating the Relationship
Step 1. Pay attention to the way you communicate with your partner
Dialogue is the essence of the couple relationship and speaking openly about the problems is fundamental. Avoid monopolizing the conversation and make sure that both of you are ready to listen to the other.
When talking to your partner, you should introduce yourself in a kind and loving manner. Even in times of stress or conflict, the dialogue between potential soul mates must take on a calm tone, to show that you are willing to understand and support each other
Step 2. Trust your instincts
You may feel like you have known your partner for years even if you just started dating. If you feel attracted to someone and would like them to become a part of your life, don't oppose what you want.
It is important that you are enthusiastic about your partner. If he reacts with the same enthusiasm, you are on the right track
Step 3. Share your partner's projects
Watching the other grow is part of the relationship. Encourage your partner to pursue their goals.
Try to happily share his choice of pursuing a new hobby or changing jobs. By supporting these changes, you will be able to improve the relationship, as well as increase your partner's self-esteem
Step 4. Share your emotions
It is important to be on the same wavelength and be able to share your most intimate thoughts, without the fear of being judged. By confiding in an open partner, you will be able to increase intimacy and harmony in your relationship.
- At first you may find it hard to share the secrets that make you feel vulnerable. However, if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, it is important that you establish a deep bond.
- Make sure your partner listens to you when you confide in him and behave the same way when he opens up to you.
Part 3 of 3: Building a Life Together
Step 1. Try to be flexible
You will go through difficult times - they are part of life. The way you will handle some situations is useful for understanding if you are made for each other.
Loyalty is key. You need to be sure that your partner will be close to you even in the worst moments
Step 2. Resolve conflicts together
Your soul mate will not only stay by your side, but will support you in difficult times and help you admit your weaknesses.
Be prepared to compromise with your partner. Having found a soul mate does not mean that you have found someone exactly like you. If you run into problems, you might approach them differently. The aim therefore is to remain united and support each other
Step 3. Learn to forgive your partner
In case one of you hurts the other, try to be tolerant. Instead of blaming your partner for what happened, forgive him and move on.
- If your partner continues to hurt you, but you want to stay with him and resolve the issue, make him take responsibility for his actions. By overcoming your problems, you will lay the foundation for a stronger and more rewarding relationship.
- Admit you were wrong. In case you make a mistake, acknowledge that you made a mistake. Any solid bond requires a lot of honesty and self-awareness.
Step 4. Keep the passion alive
Although a relationship cannot be based solely on sexual attraction, this is still an important component. Sexual interest and romance are signs of a stable and healthy relationship.
The soul mate overlooks the defects of their partner, who in their eyes is always attractive
Step 5. Remember that love involves sacrifices
Finding your soul mate does not mean having the perfect person next to you, but rather someone with whom you can fully commit. Ultimately, it's up to you to build the relationship with your partner. You both have to invest a lot of time and effort for the relationship to last a long time.
