Period is the most natural thing for a woman, so there is nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. That said, it's still an intimate matter and talking about it can make you feel uncomfortable or worry, especially if the person you're talking to is your boyfriend. By reading this article you can get some tips on how to face "those days" with more or less adult kids at the level of personal maturity. You will also receive useful information on how to manage moments of intimacy when you are on your period.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Tell your boyfriend in middle school
Step 1. Consider how long you have been together
As with many other private matters, it is not always the case to share an intimate fact with someone you have recently been dating. At this age, kids don't have an exactly mature approach to things, and if the subject intimidates them or makes them feel uncomfortable, they have no idea what to do.
- If you've been together for a while and you seem to know him quite well by now, the advice is to throw the subject there as if nothing had happened. There is no need to make it a state affair, because it isn't!
- Try to remember how he behaved in the past at other potentially embarrassing times. Did he freak out, deliberately embarrass you, go tell all his friends? In this case, it's best if you keep it to yourself.
Step 2. Think about why you tell him
Does this affect your relationship? Are cramps and pains keeping you from dating him? Do you suffer from violent mood swings, snap for a trifle and get angry with him? In this case, it would be appropriate to give him some explanation, so that he realizes that it is nothing personal.
If, on the other hand, it does not create any problems for your relationship, it is totally up to you to tell him or not. If you want it to remain private, that's fine. If you want to be totally blunt about it, do it quietly
Step 3. Avoid referring to period with euphemisms such as "I am indisposed", "I have monthly guests", "I have my things" or other turns of phrase
There is a strong chance that he has no idea what you are saying, and the misunderstanding will generate unnecessary embarrassment.
If you decide to tell him, express yourself in understandable terms, but make sure he realizes that you are sharing something extremely private. Give him a speech like this: "I realize I'm a bit moody this week, but I have my period and it's a condition that sometimes makes me a little too emotional. I just wanted you to know what's wrong. and I would be really grateful if you didn't tell anyone."
Step 4. Do not be offended if out of shyness he tries to avoid the conversation
Menstruation is a mysterious and disturbing subject for males, so she might just blush and say something like "Oh. Um. Okay" and never talk about it again. If, on the other hand, he makes fun of you or says you suck, then that's another matter, but you don't have to take it personally: the problem is yours alone, if he behaves like an immature child. There is absolutely nothing bad, strange or disgusting about menstruation: on the contrary, it means that you are healthy as a fish!
- You can kindly offer to let him know how this works and that every single woman on this planet is menstruating, including that pop star he likes so much.
- If he's really being rude, feel free to send him to that country. Tell him that if you are having periods it means that you are a woman, so you will certainly not be dating an immature baby. Or tell him it's not true that you have your period - it's just an excuse not to go out with him.
Method 2 of 3: Tell Your Boyfriend in High School (or Older Age)
Step 1. Tell them very directly
There is no need to use medical terminology or go into too much detail, like describing the intensity of the flow or anything like that. He has probably already had sexual experiences and has been with other girls he has discussed the subject with in the past, or has talked about it with his sister or a friend. So, talking about it will certainly not be the end of the world.
- Talk to him directly: "Look, I just started my period. I'm not very well."
- You could also say: "Eh, it's those days of the month …". In all likelihood, he will grasp the concept.
- Sometimes pairs refer to the cycle using code words, which are often tender or funny. So when you tell him it's "shark week," he'll get the hang of it.
Step 2. Let him know if it can be useful in any way
Even if your boyfriend isn't very knowledgeable about the mechanics of menstruation, he probably realizes that for many women it's a bad period. Your boyfriend loves you, so it is assumed that he is interested in knowing if he can do something to make you feel better. If during your period you feel exhausted and have cramps, ask them to spend the evening together on the sofa watching movies and eating ice cream.
- If you have cramps, ask him to give you a back or belly massage to relieve some of the pain.
- Tell them if it bothers you to be touched during your period. Since it may occur to him to comfort you with a hug or a caress, the least is that you clearly tell him that during your period you prefer not to be touched.
- If you'd rather be on your own, let him know (kindly) that leaving you alone for a while is also a great help.
Step 3. Take it as a way to make a selection and eliminate immature kids from your life
If he can't even deal with your period, he's probably not ready to be a boyfriend yet. He definitely isn't mature enough for sex, if you're thinking about it. At this age, boys should already be well aware of the fact that this is a normal part of everyday life for all women, so they should at least have a supportive attitude.
Method 3 of 3: Having Sex When You Have Your Period
Step 1. Tell your boyfriend that you have periods, then talk about it to find out what makes you feel good and what makes you uncomfortable
You can have sex during your period, even if you inevitably get a little dirty. Some guys are a little picky about it, others don't care, but the important thing is how you feel. If even being touched during your period bothers you, you should wait for it to finish.
- If you feel like having sex but you don't know what he thinks about it and how he might take it, try saying, "I would like to have sex, but I have my period. What do you think? Does it bother you?".
- Don't feel obligated to do anything you don't feel like doing.
- If you don't feel like having a full relationship, there are other things, like petting or just cuddling.
Step 2. Don't forget to use protection:
you can also get pregnant during your period. The rumor still circulates that if you have sex during your period you will not get pregnant, but it is totally unfounded! Sperm are able to survive in a woman's body for up to five days, and if ovulation occurs early, fertilization can occur.
But if the chances of pregnancy during your period are lower, the chances of getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD) are higher. Since more body fluids are involved and STDs are mainly transmitted through sperm, vaginal discharge and menstrual blood, disease transmission can occur more easily
Step 3. Spread out a towel to avoid getting too dirty
To avoid staining the sheets, spread a towel on the bed and keep some handkerchiefs handy to dry.
