A dominatrix is a woman who assumes the dominant role in a bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism (BDSM) relationship - note that the term "dominatrix" is often associated with those who do it for their profession. Knowing how to behave as a dominatrix will help you stay "in charge" of the situation.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Part 1: The Look
Step 1. Get the right clothes
A full body suit (often black) is essential in fetish and bondage culture. There is a difference between a dominator lifestyle and fetishism, but the black jumpsuit, which almost acts as a second skin, remains an iconic piece for both communities. Make sure your garment is leather, or latex. It is much more suitable for use in the bedroom (or other places) than for everyday use. Look for sexy and exclusive clothes. Make sure they fit you and fit you well.
Step 2. Invest in a nice pair of high-heeled shoes, such as thigh-high stiletto boots
Like the tracksuit, these boots represent the dominatrix's clothing in the collective imagination. Wedge boots are also allowed. Try on Christian Louboutin shoes; the red sole reflects your secret and sensual nature.
Step 3. Put on a corset
The corset is a tight-fitting undergarment (often worn even exposed) that helps shape (and hold) the body. A bondage corset has become a priority in fetish clothing. Alternatively, a bustier can also be worn.
Step 4. Other equipment associated with being dominatrix includes:
- Fishnet stockings or suspenders.
- Gloves; try fingerless ones or elbow length ones.
- A whisk or a whip.
Method 2 of 2: Part 2: The Attitude
Step 1. Be confident
How can you dominate someone if you can't stand up for yourself? Focus on the fact that you are in charge.
Step 2. Make a plan
A big component of being dominatrix is role play. Be creative.
Step 3. Be flexible according to your partner's needs
A dominatrix must be comfortable with common BDSM practices.
Step 4. Don't let yourself go into sexual intercourse
A dominatrix is not a prostitute. Many dominatrixes don't even let themselves be touched, in order to have absolute power.
Step 5. Get into a correct position
Remember: you have all the power. Always maintain good posture and stand straight. This helps to subconsciously let people know that you are in charge.
Step 6. For inspiration:
watch Irene Adler, from the BBC TV series 'Sherlock'.
Step 7. Keep in mind that it is not your clothes that make you a dominatrix, instead, it is your confidence, your self-awareness, and the ability to control the conversation
Women wearing skimpy clothes are an image that could trigger misconduct in a man, reinforcing his belief that he is in charge. Instead, make it clear that it's all about you, your pleasure, and your enjoyment.
Advice
Props and toys are an important part of a dominatrix's world. If you're not sure what to buy, visit your neighborhood sex shop for ideas
Warnings
- Many dominatrixes wear PVC (polyvinyl chloride) clothing. This is a toxic plastic material! Try to avoid it.
- Don't rely on media stereotypes to inform you about what to do as a dominatrix.
