Older women know what they want from a relationship, and they aren't afraid to say what they think. They are self-confident, autonomous, and reach sexual peak much later than their male peers. So, how to seduce one of these irresistible women? Just follow these steps to find out.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Make Yourself Wanted
Step 1. Exudes self-esteem
Older women like confident men. They want to make sure that you are able to cope with the complexities of life without needing to be guided. Conveying a confident attitude allows you to go a long way. While you don't believe in yourself approaching an older woman, pretend until you are deeply convinced.
When you first talk to an older woman, don't start complimenting her right away, or you will look like a kid asking for candy. If you do, he won't take you seriously. Instead, use your confidence to impress
Step 2. Get his attention
Remember that this is still an older woman. She won't be willing to tolerate boyish attitudes, like flaunting your car and staring at every beautiful girl that passes by. Try to be passionate about politics, global events, books, music. In short, highlight all the aspects that make you more interesting in general.
- If you haven't had much success so far, talk about the experiences you want to have. Do not focus on what you have not experienced, otherwise you will be bored.
- If you are much younger, do not talk about your friends or those typical experiences of your peers, otherwise she may feel "old". For example, if you go to college and she's well over 30, don't tell her about the handstand you did on the keg the night before. Instead, tell her about your study experiences in Paris.
Step 3. Focus on its most interesting features
While you don't have to shower her with compliments, you should tell her what you like about her. Appreciate it for what it is. Is nice? Laugh at his jokes and point it out. Is she affectionate? Treat it the same way; if she likes to touch you while you talk, imitate her and touch her back. Is it sexy? Remind her that her appearance has a certain hold on you.
- Don't make her think it was her age alone that attracted you. You certainly don't want to lead her to believe that you are interested in her just because she is older. Don't say, "You're beautiful for your age," or you'll look bad.
- If she names her age, you can say: "I gave you many years younger".
- If she asks how old you give her, try to subtract a few years from your guess. It doesn't have to be obvious though. If she is over 35, don't say "23", prefer "29" instead.
- Once you start talking about her age, you can also ask her why she is single or how she could say no to all the men who surely proposed marriage to her. The important thing is not to look too cheesy or cloying.
Step 4. Impress your independence
Older women don't like clingy, addicted men. A puppy can be in need of affection, not you. Talk about the activities you love doing for fun: favorite sports and hobbies, but also the experiences you have or have lived independently to develop your personality. If you always talk about your friends and family, then he may think you've never faced moments alone, and interest will wane.
Do you have a good career and a bright future ahead of you? Tell him without being a braggart. Tell her what you do; if he wants to know more, he will ask you. In any case, don't worry. Even if she is not independent or has not yet achieved great professional success, at least she will know that you have a passion in your life and an optimistic point of view
Step 5. Ask her to go out with you
Don't put it off. After you charm this woman and show her that you are mature and independent, invite her out right away. Just say, “I enjoyed talking to you so much, but now I have to go. Would you like to continue chatting over dinner or a drink?”. Ask for her phone number. Always be detached - don't seem desperate or too eager to see her again. Also, don't propose to meet you the next evening. Think about making a date over the next week so that she knows, or thinks, that she is busy.
There is a big difference between playing cool and being rude. You should still smile at her, make eye contact, and give her a discreet compliment when you invite her
Method 2 of 3: Take Her Out
Step 1. Take her out on a date
All proposals tried with your peers will not work in this case. Inviting a girl your age to dinner and to the movies (or bringing some beers or a cheap bottle of wine to her house) is fine, but to impress an older woman, you have to put in a lot more effort. Find out what she likes: fine dining, classy wines or just have fun in one of her favorite places in the city.
- Just remember that older women are no different than younger ones, they want to have fun too. Among other things, it is not certain that they have refined tastes only for a matter of age.
- If you go to a restaurant for dinner and are of the right age to drink alcohol, don't order a beer unless you want to be mistaken for a freshman in college. Prefer a classy cocktail, such as gin and tonic, so you will look more adult in his eyes. Of course, don't drink more than you are used to, especially if you have to drive.
Step 2. Be a gentleman
If you want to impress an older woman, you should tell her she is beautiful, let her walk into a club first, and move the chair to accommodate her. When she carries heavy bags or envelopes, help her. It's the little things that let her know if you're a real man or a kid trying to hit her. Don't arrive late, leave your beard unkempt, wear clothes you haven't changed in days, or match your clothes at the last minute, otherwise you won't make a good impression.
Step 3. Your young age can be an advantage
Don't feel embarrassed or intimidated that she is older, even if it is a 10-15 year difference. Instead, think about the typical characteristics of a boy your age, ones that an older man does not possess. Sure, you may not have the same financial or emotional stability, but you certainly have certain advantages that others lack: a young and attractive body, lots of energy and enthusiasm for life, no emotional baggage or worries that plague or wear you down.
Call attention to your strengths instead of pointing out weaknesses. Don't talk about your lack of experience or job prospects. Instead, remind her that you are excited when you think about the future, that at your age you cannot help but be happy and free
Step 4. When it comes to sex, be honest
Show sincerity and openness if you want to bring an older woman to bed. Of course, you don't have to be vulgar. If things are going well on a date, don't shy away from your intentions. Tell her that you find her incredibly attractive and that you would like to spend the night with her. Alternatively, wait until you take her home, give her an intense look, kiss her or compliment her - maybe she'll invite you in.
- Towards the end of the appointment, your intentions should be clear. Before taking her home or leaving, she should know you want her, and reciprocate.
- Remember to always be confident. It doesn't have to seem like a question, like, "Can I please take you to bed?" Instead, make a simple affirmation to state your intentions and make her want you more.
Method 3 of 3: Get her to bed
Step 1. Take control of the situation
While this woman is older and might expect you to do exactly what she tells you, she will be impressed not a little if you take control and lead her. Do this from the first moment you walk into (hers or yours) home by kissing her, uncorking a bottle of wine, and taking her to the bedroom. She will be pleasantly surprised and impressed. Of course, you should still allow her to do what she wants, but don't let her totally dominate you, otherwise you won't fully experience the experience.
If you are planning to enter an older woman's home, you definitely need to learn how to open a bottle of wine before doing so. Nothing will make you look like a kid more than the inability to use a bottle opener
Step 2. Don't fool her with compliments
Sure, maybe you are happy, and very happy, to have a little intimacy with this woman, but don't overdo it or show too much enthusiasm. You should tell her that she is beautiful and that she has an amazing body, but don't go any further. Don't tell her that she is the most beautiful woman you've ever seen, that you feel lucky to have dated her or that you've never met anyone who knows how to kiss so well. This will make you seem insecure and inexperienced.
She wants to be treated equally, not as if she were a goddess or a statue. Filling her with compliments will remind her even more of the age difference
Step 3. Hit her with your experience
Of course, so far you have had several opportunities with your peers and you think you know how to do it. However, what really matters is the attitude. Don't be nervous when you go to bed or start kissing her. Don't show embarrassment when you try to undo her bra. If you don't know how to do it, laugh at it instead of blushing or feeling ashamed.
- Don't say, “I've never done this before,” or you'll shut it down right away. You have to convince yourself of one thing: you don't have to jump through hoops to hit her, just behave like you would any other woman. In this way, you will live the experience in a much more relaxed and rewarding way, and your confidence will also grow.
- If you are feeling truly inexperienced but are determined to hit older women, then you should cut your teeth by conquering your peers first. This can help you cultivate your self-esteem, provided you don't use them and the fun is mutual.
Step 4. Be desired again
After taking her to bed, you should leave her with a good opinion of you. Don't confess that you spent the most unforgettable night of your life. Instead, if you'd like, tell her you'll call her back, and let her hear from you after a couple of days. Be detached and forget that you are 10 years younger: the rest will come by itself. If you make it clear that you have a busy and interesting life, but that doesn't stop you from wanting to make time for her, she'll be happy to hear from you.
Advice
- Try to understand what these women want and act accordingly. Never mistake them for younger girls who would like to talk for hours about the newly developed relationship.
- Learning how to seduce older women can be fun and productive, but only if you follow the steps in this article. You must be different from others and behave in a confident and mature manner to be successful in this mission.
