Seduction is about paying attention to another person's needs and behaving accordingly. If you want to seduce a woman, take your time to get to know her, create the right atmosphere and move slowly to get intimate with her.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Organize Everything
Step 1. Go slow
Seduction is just a matter of timing. What triggers the desire is the expectation. When you meet a woman you care about, go slowly. Wait a bit before approaching her and start listening to her instead of talking. Don't disclose your intentions right away, or you may find it unpleasant. Take small steps, at least in the beginning.
Step 2. Dress carefully
If you want a woman to notice you, you will need to dress well. Be careful what you're wearing, whether you're expecting to meet someone you like at a bar, party, or other occasion.
- Choose tasteful clothes that flatter your figure. If you are afraid that your wardrobe contains rather sloppy clothes, go to a shopping center. You can ask a salesperson to help you choose an outfit that flatters your physique.
- Remember that it's always sexy to be yourself. Try to enhance your figure. Basically, don't shave if you like having a beard, or wear a suit if you're the sophisticated type. You won't feel comfortable if you don't follow your nature. This is something that the woman you are dating will be able to perceive easily. The secret of seduction is to have self-confidence.
- Take a shower before you go out and put on a dash of perfume. If you overdo it, the smell may be too strong, but if it's a classy perfume, a small amount can help.
Step 3. Listen to them
When in the company of a woman, try to listen to her. People tend to be attracted to those who show interest in them. Instead of bragging about your accomplishments and telling your whole life, try listening.
- More than answering, ask for something. It's nice to ask a few simple questions to break the ice. Try "What do you do?" and "Where did you grow up?".
- Always show that you are listening. Smile, nod, and occasionally make a comment like "Good" or "Sure". Also ask a few questions to learn more about a topic. Ask for clarification or further details on stories and personal information.
- Sexual attraction is connected to the personality. A deeper knowledge can actually increase sexual desire. If you finally manage to conquer a woman, getting to know her better can help you get more pleasure from sexual intercourse.
Step 4. Trust yourself
Security is a quality that many people are attracted to. If you feel comfortable, you will be able to attract other people. Try to move with confidence, while interacting with women who stimulate your desire.
- Remember that there is a fine line between security and self-centeredness. It's not very encouraging to dominate the conversation to show off your skills. However, it is not a problem if you are proud of what you do for a living, of the place where you live and of other particular aspects your interlocutor might ask you for more information about.
- Make her laugh. Many people are attracted to people with a healthy sense of humor. During your meeting, try to make a few lines appropriate to the situation to see if you can impress her with your comic streak.
Step 5. Use your body language to flirt
If direct and confident, body language is able to communicate interest in its interlocutor. So, try to send a few signals to a woman to show her that you are attracted to her and that you are interested in getting intimate with her.
- Stand up straight. Keep your head up and shoulders open. Don't fold your arms or cross them across your chest. Send signals to communicate your safety.
- By flirting, she finds a way to break the contact barrier. Grab her hand to make her way to a bar or wherever you are. Guide her by placing your hand on her back. Let him slowly become familiar with physical contact.
Step 6. Use a few jokes appropriate to the situation to break the ice
The jokes used to pick up don't have a good reputation. However, if you choose the less abused or sleazy ones, you can actually increase your charm and earn a woman's interest.
- Research on jokes used to impress others shows that it can be helpful to highlight your talents - that is, to brag a little. Women react less favorably to jokes that contain compliments for their own sake or of a sexual nature. Instead, they tend to be more interested in those that push them to get to know a stranger better as they help them choose among other potential men. For example, if you are a nurse, try starting with: "Great! How much vitality in this party, isn't it? As a nurse, I think I can declare his death." Or, if you are a firefighter, try saying, "Is it me or is it too hot here? As a firefighter, I think you are the one making the temperature rise."
- If you're going to pick a few lines to impress, think of something clever that highlights one side of your personality or life. Emphasize your work, if it is interesting, on a particular hobby or skill. Don't drop silence without following up on the joke, though - research indicates that it works best when used to introduce a conversation.
Part 2 of 3: Creating the Atmosphere
Step 1. Use the perfume in your favor
When you invite a woman home, the key to seducing her is to use a pleasant fragrance. Try opening the windows a couple of hours before he arrives, letting out any bad smells. Light up some incense, choosing a pleasant but unobtrusive aroma, such as vanilla or something similar to sandalwood. Try investigating what she likes in advance, asking her a few questions about the fragrances she prefers. Ask her what kind of perfume or bubble bath she likes to get an idea of what she loves.
Step 2. Try playing some music
A little music can help create the right atmosphere. Remember to keep your attention on her and not on you. Choose a genre of music that she might like, but also slow, relaxing and sensual songs.
- Ask her in advance what her musical tastes are. Try putting in a group she likes, but choosing the slowest tracks. The faster pop tunes may predispose the soul to dance rather than create a sensual vibe.
- Classic choices, like Barry White, could be pretty mundane. Stick to songs that aren't overly traditional so your guest doesn't end up rolling her eyes.
Step 3. Don't hesitate to decorate the house
Atmosphere is important when it comes to seducing. Try to create the right climate with some nice decorations.
- Candles and soft lighting can be very useful. If you're sleeping with a woman for the first time, she may be a little insecure. By dimming the lights and lighting a few candles, you can make her feel more comfortable when she undresses. Candles are also considered by many people to be a romantic and exciting decorative element.
- Try to clean the house before he arrives. A nice clean home can give your guest the impression that you are a neat and responsible person, which can be very inspiring.
Part 3 of 3: Entering Intimacy
Step 1. Start touching it
Start making physical contact. When you are about to make the first move, remember to move slowly. Start touching her when you are sitting close by placing a hand on her knee or shoulder. Seduction, once again, is all about stimulation. If you are in a hurry you will ruin everything.
- The first kiss is preferable to be sweet rather than quick, but not too bold either. Make him want another one. Also try to understand how he kisses. How does it respond to your approach? Through the kiss she should let you know how much she liked it.
- If you're looking to seduce a woman you've been with for a long time, try to take the lead in an unexpected place. When the relationship has lasted for a long time it is likely that the couple will fall into the habit, risking to get bored. For example, try kissing your wife or girlfriend in the kitchen or in the shower.
Step 2. Focus on his erogenous zones
The erogenous zones are the parts of the body that stimulate sexual desire when they are touched, kissed, licked or caressed. Not all people are in the same places, but some areas of the body tend to be more sensitive in many women.
- There are many nerve endings in the neck and ears that are generally not touched often. They may respond well to a kiss, a hickey, swiping tongue, or a gentle bite.
- The head and feet are major erogenous zones for many people. A gentle massage on the scalp or foot could help move the situation.
- When kissing, focus on the lips. Try licking, biting and sucking them.
- The abdomen, lower back and inner thigh are also sensitive to touch. Many women get aroused when touched in these spots.
Step 3. Go slowly
The secret of seduction lies in making the passionate impulse last. If you run too much, you may make the other person uncomfortable or demotivate them. Don't be in a hurry as you go further. Pay attention to what the woman wants and what she likes. Try to get in tune with their needs so that your meeting is enjoyable for both of you. Stop every now and then, ask her if she's okay, and pay close attention to how she reacts.
Warnings
- Always make sure your partner is confident and interested in going further. Stop and ask her every now and then if she likes what you are doing.
- Practice safe sex. Use condoms, especially when sleeping with a woman you don't know.
