Are you sick of those awkward silences when you talk to your boyfriend? When you know someone well, it can be difficult to find new conversation topics. It is not impossible though! Follow these steps to have interesting and original conversations, by speaking in person, by writing online or by texting.
Steps
Step 1. Ask what topics they find interesting
People are generally better off talking about themselves or their interests. Because? Because it is something they know well and have thought about. Here are some ideas on what to ask:
- How was your day
- His past experiences (where he lived as a child, what he did, which are the relatives that have marked his life)
- His hobbies
- His work
- Your favorite books, movies or songs.
Step 2. Stay informed
If you have time to watch or read the news, you will have more topics at your disposal. Stay up to date on recent events, funny videos or programs, or viral stories on the internet. When the conversation languishes, ask your boyfriend if he has heard what you have recently read or seen. If it did, you can talk about your views on it. Otherwise, it's the right time to tell it.
Step 3. Talk about hypothetical situations
Would you rather be blind or deaf? Would you rather be able to eat only spinach or listen to Christmas carols for eight hours a day for the rest of your life? Try to come up with interesting, funny or complicated situations, and ask your boyfriend what he would prefer. When he responds, ask him to give a reason.
- Be the devil's advocate. Counter what your boyfriend said, so that he is forced to reevaluate his choice. Make it clear right away that you're just trying to make the conversation more interesting - and that you're not always contradicting it on principle.
- Other questions to ask: "What keeps you awake at night?" "If you could live up to this point again, what would you do differently?", "What couldn't you do without?" or "If you could only keep 10 things, what would they be?".
Step 4. Ask him to tell you something you don't know
It could be something about him, or a fact you don't know. Whatever it is, you will learn something. If you want to be more specific, ask him to tell you about one of his hobbies.
Use nostalgia to your advantage. Ask him about his first memory, his first day of school, his first toy, and the first birthday he can remember. It's a great way to learn about the things that are important to him and what his life was like as a child
Step 5. Ask bizarre questions
This can make you laugh when you are both in a good mood. Questions like: "Do you still believe in Santa Claus?", "If you had to choose between TV or the internet, which one would you give up?" and "If there were no clocks, what do you think life would be like?". Keep the conversation light and fun, and remember that no answer is wrong!
Make funny jokes and laugh together (if he has a good sense of humor)
Step 6. Give him compliments
Tell him why you enjoyed your meeting. For example "I loved it when we went for dinner. It was such a nice restaurant and I felt really special."
Step 7. Talk about the future
Talk about the things you'd like to do someday - visit Crete, act in the theater, write a book, or live on a boat. Ask him what he dreams of doing. Here are some possible arguments:
- What university do you want to attend
- What would you like to study
- Where do you want to go to live
- The trips you would like to take
- Possible hobbies
- Your dream job
Step 8. Play a game
It can be a board game, an internet game, or a video game. If you play against each other, you might make fun of them. If you are on the same team, discuss the strategy and the game. Try these classics:
- Chess
- Lady
- Backgammon
- Beetle
- Speed
- Card games
Step 9. Listen carefully
The art of talking to another person involves knowing how to listen, to encourage the other person to talk more. Show interest in what your boyfriend has to say, using affirmative phrases and body language as he speaks and summarizing what he said to make it clear that he has assimilated it.
- If you are in the early stages of a relationship and face a lot of silences, try not to have conversations longer than an hour. Talking too much can make even a new relationship seem boring and stagnant.
- Let him know that you are still there. Small talk can turn into silence very quickly.
Advice
- Be yourself and be honest about what you are thinking.
- Flirt. Many guys miss the thrill of hunting in a relationship.
- Sometimes, when there is nothing more to say, it may no longer be the time for words, but for a kiss.
- Talk about the most interesting elements of your hobbies and family to attract their questions.
- Tell him you're shy or silent - he loves you, so he'll understand!
- When you tease him, make sure you don't make him feel uncomfortable. It could lead to awkward silences or a bad impression of you.
- Ask him for a walk. It can be an opportunity for pleasant relaxation.
- Take it easy. He's your boyfriend after all. Even if you don't know what to talk about, the awkward silence will end before you know it.
Warnings
- Topics to Avoid in a Young Relationship: Marriage, children, expensive gifts, and dislikes towards family members. Pay attention to conversations about you in the future, as a couple, until you are sure that you are meant for each other.
- Don't lie just to have something to talk about.
- Never say I love you to make conversation. Say it when you are ready. He will feel embarrassed if you use those words to fill a silence.
- Don't brag or gossip about your friends. It will give a bad picture of you.
- Avoid complaining as a form of conversation. No one can take it for long, and if it becomes a habit, it will show a lack of self-esteem and the need to criticize others just to have something to say.
- Never talk about how fat you are. You're beautiful just the way you are - she wouldn't be with you if she didn't think so.
- Forget your exes! Listening to you talk about them might make them feel embarrassed, especially if you brag about them or criticize them. He will wonder what you think of him and will not like comparisons.
