Pulling yourself up is easier said than done, but if that can lead people to stop telling you to pick yourself up when they see you down as if this idea hasn't even remotely crossed your mind, it will really be worth it. To help you get over a dead end, try the following ideas.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Doing Fun Activities
Step 1. Build a fortress in the living room
Drag the mattress across the floor, rearrange the furniture in the room, build a roof with blankets and sheets, and take your cat, dog, best friend and / or computer with you. Put on a cheery album, watch movies, eat snacks (and let the bed fill with crumbs) and forget about your troubles for a while.
Watch cute or funny videos. Whenever you browse, you are about two clicks away from a video of an adorable and / or hilarious animal, which will guarantee you at least a hint of a smile. Are these things not for you? Look for a proven comedian, a scene from a movie that makes you laugh, or anything else that can make you laugh
Step 2. Get in touch with an old friend
You know, the one you've wanted to call for months (or even years), but you've been putting it off and putting it off. Let go of the guilt that grips you for not having done it before and relax in finding it again. If you can't reach him on the phone, take the time to write a long email.
Take an unforgettable bath. Fill the tub, add essential oils and bath salts, grab your favorite soap, and also throw in some fresh herbs, like mint or lavender. Don't forget the candles. Immerse yourself in reading or relaxing for a while
Step 3. Play in direct contact with the earth
No, really, scientists think that the friendly bacteria that populate the soil actually trigger something in the brain, promoting the production of serotonin and having an antidepressant effect. If you have a garden, go out and dig. Observing ants, birds and the beautiful colors of nature won't hurt you by the way.
- Cook a delicious meal for yourself, or bake a mouth-watering dessert. When was the last time you took the time to prepare something? Put on some good music, light candles, and create a cake to show your affection. You deserve it.
- If you're sick of cooking the same things over and over, check out a new and exciting recipe. In order not to stress yourself out, look for something that looks quick and foolproof, you won't want to end the evening in tears because your very first souffle has collapsed and is on fire.
Step 4. If you already spend too much time in the stove or are tired after spending several hours cooking, treat yourself to a night out
Method 2 of 4: Finding the Good Side of the Matter
Step 1.
Change expression. There is a theory called the "facial feedback hypothesis" which states that whatever expression you take will affect how you feel. Usually, the mood you really have at any given moment affects your face. If you are sulky, frown, if you are happy, smile. However, new evidence suggests that this also works the other way around, that is, if you want to feel content and cheerful, you have to smile. Hold that expression for 10 seconds. Repeat it as needed. It is almost like involving the "smile muscles" to activate the "happy section" of the brain, associated with this expression
Step 2. If you are worried about looking silly or crazy, do it in private
Doing this while looking in the mirror may be more effective
Step 3. Sing and dance
Although it has not yet been proven, the "body feedback hypothesis" may also exist, which will help you feel a little more confident. Hide in your room, put on a cheerful song and dance and sing along with it as you give your all. If you don't know the lyrics, take a look and sing along, or make your own as you go. For the dance, make a silly and tasteless one, such as the robot, the here, the moonwalk or the macarena.
The key to this step is to melt. The more tacky it is, the better. If you're feeling broken, just pretend you're an unbearably happy person, and you'll improve your mood quite a bit
Step 4. If you are in the mood to be daring, record with a camera while you do it and watch the video to smile at your moves
Method 3 of 4: Common Ways to Stand Up
Step 1.
Freshen up your home. This doesn't mean cleaning it from top to bottom (unless you enjoy doing it), but rather sorting, vacuuming or sweeping, washing the bedding (nothing is cozier than clean sheets), and arranging candles or a vase of flowers (or branches with fall leaves, or whatever else you have)
Step 2. Raise someone else
There is an idea floating around the many currents of New Age, which says that if you want something, you must sincerely give it to someone else before receiving it. If you can make someone happy, why can't you do it yourself? Ask the people around you how they are. Listen to them and try to find a way to make them feel better. You will shift the focus away from your negativity, and by helping them get rid of theirs, you will probably feel better too.
Hug someone. Hugs release endorphins. Find someone to hug, even if it's someone you just met. Random strangers are surprisingly open to giving hugs in many cultures
Step 3. Exercise
Physical activity releases endorphins, which will naturally improve mood. Some studies suggest that a workout is as effective as an antidepressant drug for treating negative moods and attitudes.
Take a restorative nap. While fatigue or exhaustion isn't the cause of what puts you in a bad mood, it sure can make you down even more. Sometimes a siesta can wake you up like a second morning in your day, and it's similar to hitting the reset button on electronic devices. Once on your feet, take a shower or at least wash your face to feel like it's a new beginning
Method 4 of 4: Put Everything in Perspective
Step 1. Meditate
In this case, we are not talking about cross-legged, candles or mantras. Instead, you should become aware of your thoughts, so that they don't control you. Imagine your thoughts being displayed on a scrolling electronic screen. Watch the thoughts as they flow and don't judge them. Chances are you will see certain thoughts repeat themselves, as if it were a broken record. If you meditate in this way long enough and often, you will notice that the repetitive thoughts will pass on their own, because you will not intervene for them, you will just observe them.
Be grateful. Everyone has something to be grateful for. Make a list of the positive things that have happened to you. Think about how life could be worse and reverse the thought process to recognize what you have. If you do poorly in school, think about the fact that you still have a chance to catch up before the year is over, or that, to start with, you have a chance to be able to go. Get a notebook and a pen and write down all the good things you own. Review this list when you see everything black
Step 2. Forgive
In addition to being grateful, another good practice is to forgive those who have hurt you in the past. Sit in a quiet place with your eyes closed and focus on the people you want to forgive. Imagine that you are sitting in a circle with the person who hurt you. Look at their faces in your mind and take turns focusing on each of them individually. Once you feel truly connected with one, say aloud "I forgive you". In theory, this routine should also be ended by forgiving yourself for things in your life that you regret or cannot control. The purpose of this exercise is to create serenity with the feelings of peace and rebirth.
Remember that you don't forgive others for their benefit (or because they deserve it), it's for yourself, so you can leave the past behind and move on
Step 3. Accept
This concept, central to Eastern philosophies such as Buddhism, is based on the idea that the world is perfect as it is. Many things around us aren't perfect, and that's okay. We can only accept this situation and decide that we don't need our life to be flawless in order to clear ourselves up.
Imagine. Close your eyes and think of a place that makes you happy. Afterward, think of your bad mood as if it were an object; pick it up and throw it in the trash
Advice
- Be open to people who offer support. Don't withdraw from hugs and other comforting gestures unless they make you sadder.
- Everyone can get in a bad mood at times. Remind yourself that things will work out soon.
- Share your smile! Smiles can brighten someone's day.
- Learning to be optimistic is a good way to ensure your good mood in the long run.
Warnings
- Make sure that whatever you do to cheer yourself up, it doesn't turn into an escape or addiction.
- If your bad mood or negative thoughts persist for an extended period of time, consult a doctor. This is a possible sign of clinical depression. This disease can be treated with drugs, but it can cause serious consequences if it is ignored.
- Some people like to try to tickle someone who is feeling down. While most people will be cautious about when and how to do it best, some people go overboard, even if they don't want to. It's okay to ask them to stop.
