Finding a friend can be a coincidence. You can make friends naturally in some cases, or have to continually work in other friendships. By following the "Don't tell others …" style you can always turn the odds in your favor.
Steps
Step 1. Be a friend
There is an old saying that always remains true: "If you want a friend, be a friend."
Step 2. Be yourself
Each of us is unique, so dress how you want. Avoid peer pressure, and don't try to blend in with the crowd, but be proud of your individuality. Then, go out and do activities with the people you meet, whether they are new or existing friends, and have fun. Stand out for your uniqueness.
Step 3. Be respectful, smile, and do something that gets you noticed
Help other people if they need it.
Step 4. Be nice to everyone you meet
If you go to school or work with someone who isn't very popular, be nice and listen to what they have to say.
Step 5. Be modest
Nobody likes exhibitionists, especially those who exaggerate. If you want to brag about something, don't go too far, and do it gracefully.
Step 6. Be outgoing
There is nothing wrong with being shy. But try to open up a little more. It will be difficult to find friends if you are not sociable. Talk to new people. Meet the new kids in school. Introduce yourself to the person sitting behind you in the math class. People will start wanting to be with you.
Step 7. Smile and watch your relationships mature
The qualities and personality you build from the above tips will make you stand out, and people love those who smile even in difficult times. Try not to frown, because you can't know who might fall in love with your smile!
Step 8. Follow the basics of morality
Learn to listen. Be a good friend. Don't tell gossip. When a confidence is made to you, do not disclose it. Be responsible for your actions. Don't compromise your values. I'm the only thing that's truly yours. If you lost them, you would have lost everything.
Step 9. If people don't like you, or they don't accept you, remember that no one is perfect
You can't please everyone. Many people will pretend that they don't like you because they are afraid of other people's judgment. They are insecure. After all, they may not like you, but they will respect you.
Step 10. Learn to understand the feelings of others
If you don't, you won't be able to interact well with your new friends.
Advice
- When you talk to someone, listen. Don't just talk about yourself. Ask lots of questions and show interest in the answers. Don't worry, after talking for a while they too will start asking you questions and give you a chance to talk about yourself.
- Always try to help other people.
- Complimenting people is always helpful. People will open up to you if they think you appreciate them. Everyone feels better after receiving a compliment. Try to be honest though. Nobody likes pimps.
- If you love a sport, join a team; you will meet many people who share your passion, and with whom you will have a bond on which to build a relationship.
- Don't rush friendships, or people will think you're weird.
- If you are looking to befriend an unpopular person, DO NOT hang out with the most popular company. He'll just think you want to be popular too. Instead, try to hang out with people you would like to build a friendship with.
- It may seem strange to you, but wearing bright colors can help you get noticed; But remember not to upset your style, and instead cultivate your unique personality.
Warnings
- Don't dominate the time or space of others.
- It will often be easier to build a deep friendship with someone who is externally different from you, but who shares your values and morals. In these cases, external differences will only contribute to a more interesting relationship.
- If you notice that something you do is making other people nervous, try to control yourself. Maintaining your individuality is very important, but there is no need to create an atmosphere of tension.
- Don't be a boaster.
- Try not to mix completely different groups of people; the atmosphere may be too tense to develop meaningful relationships.
