Attraction is often an instinctive feeling. However, if you want to attract people to you personally or professionally, you can create an environment where they will be more likely to find you attractive. Learning to attract people will improve your network and relationships if you are equipped to engage in positive social interaction.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Attracting People Socially
Step 1. Participate in dynamic events
Many call it "showing off". Whether you're looking for a new job, a boyfriend, or new contacts, being in an environment with new people on a regular basis will help you be more comfortable on social occasions.
Step 2. Prepare well
Taking care of your appearance before attending a social event will make people more likely to be drawn to the idea of talking to you.
Step 3. Smile and look people in the eye
If you do this the moment you introduce yourself to someone or after a joke, you will look charming.
Step 4. Be energetic
People who actively participate in a discussion are usually more attractive than others because it is easier to converse with them. It is called "positive energy".
Step 5. Remember the names
Repeat a name when you hear it. Then, try to remember it with memory tricks, like a rhyme or an alliteration, by repeating it in your head.
Step 6. Ask questions
People like to talk about themselves. They may be looking for you again or be intrigued by you.
- Start with a compliment, perhaps about clothing.
- Ask "How do you know the landlord?".
- Highlight something you have in common, like "It looks like we're both wine / art / fashion lovers. What's your favorite?".
Step 7. Avoid sarcasm and complaints
"Negative energy" drives people away. Don't criticize someone for impressing others.
Step 8. Leave the conversation when you have managed to get a good impression
Avoid topics like health, gossip, money, and religion. Apologize and repeat the names of the people you are talking to to leave them impressed.
- You can say "It was a pleasure to meet you, Andrea".
- Try the motto "Be brilliant. Be brief. Leave quickly."; let people be fascinated and with the desire to know you more.
Method 2 of 2: Attracting People of the Opposite Gender
Step 1. Smile and start with "Hello
Few conversations start without this opening. If the other person hasn't noticed you, you can now say you're on their radar.
Step 2. Don't be in a large group of people
Try to have no more than 2 people around. Large groups of men or women give the impression that they are protective and complete, and it may seem that you are not interested in getting to know someone outside your circle.
Step 3. Be positive
Never start a conversation with a complaint, or whatever positive energy there was between you will fade away.
Step 4. Pay attention to body signals
People can send you signals to let you know they're attracted to you, letting you know it's time to flirt. Look for eye contact, approach from the other side of the room staring into the eyes, also show a little nervousness.
Step 5. Search for the contact
Come closer and touch his arm to increase positive energy.
Step 6. Show genuine interest
Ask personal questions, avoid those that only require yes or no for an answer.
- For example, you can say "What is your favorite genre of music? Or" What movie have you seen recently? "To break the ice.
- After breaking the ice, try a "Sounds like an interesting hobby. What else do you do as a pastime?"
Step 7. Leave the person wanting to get to know you better
Apologize and ask to exchange your phone number, or visit a friend at the bar. Giving someone a chance to think about you a little bit increases the attraction.
For the same reason, some relationship counselors recommend waiting before consuming a relationship. The wait increases the attraction, giving you time to test the relationship and get to know the other person better
Step 8. Find another venue
If there is no one that interests you at the bar you usually go to, try some other place. You probably haven't found the right people to lure into your orbit yet.
