When you say "I love you" to a girl, for a brief and unnerving moment the future of your relationship seems to hang in the balance. Immediately after you have declared yourself, you may think inside yourself: "How will she react?", "I really love her?", "Why did I tell her?", "What will become of us if she replies that she loves me too?". Before you throw yourself into this extremely vulnerable situation, you need to be sure of how you feel about him and be prepared for any response he may give you. Once you say "I love you", you will not be able to retract your statement.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Preparing to Say "I Love You"
Step 1. Practice what you want to say
Saying "I love you" for the first time can be a terrifying experience. If you are nervous, organizing the words you are going to say may help you feel more confident. Think about what you want to let her know and review your declaration of love. Instead of just saying "I love you," try to be deeper. for instance:
- Let her know the reasons why you love her;
- Tell her that you fell in love with her;
- Let her know how special she is to you;
- Decide if you want to keep it simple or if you want to make a great gesture of love.
Step 2. Find the right time and place
The moment in which you declare your love is an intimate and special occasion. So, it has to be perfect. Choose a private place, which also has a certain meaning in your story, and the appropriate time.
- Don't declare your love to her in front of the whole class;
- If you find yourself among friends, take her aside;
- You can organize something special for the occasion. Invite her for a walk or a picnic, or declare yourself over dinner by giving the speech you prepared for her.
Step 3. Don't assume your feeling is reciprocated
In addition to preparing your speech, you should also prepare yourself for his reaction when you say those two little words. In theory, she should tell you that she loves you too. However, you don't necessarily have the same feeling as you.
- He may pretend he hasn't heard or change the conversation. If that happens, don't ask her, "Well, don't you love me?" If he wanted to answer, he would.
- Be prepared to give her time and space to process what you have told her. Continue your meeting as you normally would.
- Keep calm if she rejects you. Maintain a mature and positive attitude - your feedback might surprise her.
Part 2 of 3: Tell her "I love you"
Step 1. Tell her you love her
When you are both alone and the time seems right, call on your strength and say the two fateful words. Look into her eyes, smile at her and say, "I love you". It is not necessary that the moment is perfect or that the sentence is accompanied by a great gesture: you just need to declare yourself sincerely.
Explain to her when you fell in love with her and / or why you love her
Step 2. Show her that you love her
In addition to declaring yourself, you can also show her how much you care about her. After all, actions are worth more than words. Offer your support: Attend sporting events in which she competes, give her a few words of encouragement and help her achieve her goals. Here are some tips on how to show her your love:
- Always treat her with respect and kindness. Don't mistreat her and don't betray her trust;
- Do everything to make her happy, perhaps by giving her a bouquet of flowers to cheer her up;
- Stand up for her when someone is bullying her, don't let anyone offend her.
Step 3. Write her a love note
While some people prefer to declare their love in words, others have less difficulty expressing themselves in writing. Everyone appreciates receiving love cards! Therefore, give your heart a voice by writing a letter or some passionate verse. When the right time comes, give her the ticket in passing, accompanying it with a small gift or slipping it into your hand at the end of a meeting.
- You can write her a short and simple note, a passionate love letter or perhaps a sincere poem;
- Don't write "I love you" in a text or chat message.
Step 4. Listen to his answer carefully
After she hears or reads these two little words, give her a moment to process and react. Don't put pressure on him to give you an immediate answer. Don't tell her how you thought she would feel or react. When she is ready to answer, give her your full attention. Listen to what he has to say and act accordingly. Hopefully, he will reciprocate the feeling you feel towards him, telling you: "I love you too!".
- Don't force her to give you an immediate answer;
- Avoid telling her what you thought she would reply.
Part 3 of 3: Determine if What You Feel is Love
Step 1. Know if you are trying to impress her
When you are in love with a girl, you are willing to do anything to please her and get you noticed. Maybe in order to impress her you run some risk or move seas and mountains to help other people. You could also show off your musical talent, playing an instrument, or your athletic skills.
If your behavior is driven by the urge to grab her attention, chances are you're in love with her
Step 2. Find out if it's always on your mind
When you love a girl, it's normal to constantly think about her. Do you notice that your mind gets lost unexpectedly fantasizing about her during the day? Do you wonder if she is thinking of you too?
If he's always on your mind, chances are you're pretty involved
Step 3. Consider whether this girl fosters a desire in you to be a better person
When you fall in love, you will almost certainly want to become the man she expects by her side. Perhaps you will feel the need to improve your grades or conduct in school. You could start exercising or going to church.
If you are willing to devote your energy to enrich yourself personally and gift her with what you have earned, it is possible that you are harboring a strong feeling for a very special girl
Step 4. Ask yourself if you want to see her happy
When you feel a strong love for a girl, your priority is likely to be making her happy. Maybe, to relieve her of stress during exams, you'd be willing to help her study, review lessons, or complete boring chores. When she gets sick, you may want to insist on taking care of her and giving her everything she needs. If she has a hard day, you would do anything to see her laugh and smile, so that she forgets her problems for a moment.
If you are inclined to devote time and energy to making her happy, you are in love with her
Step 5. Be confident in your decision
The two little words "I love you" contain enormous meaning. Once you have declared yourself to her, the nature of your relationship for better or for worse will change. So, before taking this step, ask yourself the following questions:
- Are you really in love with her?
- Does the word "love" mean the same thing for both of you?
- Is yours an interested feeling, in the sense that you intend to declare it in the hope of getting something in return?
Advice
- Try not to be too nervous, but be honest.
- When you tell her you love her, try to be serious.
- Review your speech several times in front of a mirror.
- Be yourself.
- Give her your full attention and try not to seem distracted.
- If he doesn't declare his love to you, don't worry. She is probably not ready to express what she is feeling yet.
Warnings
- Never lie to her.
- Once you have declared yourself, be prepared for anything.
- Don't use the phrase "I love you" unnecessarily. You risk making it insignificant and boring.
