Have you been punished for some reason and now miss all the fun things you could do? With a little effort, you can show your parents that you have learned your lesson and are ready to change. Go to the first step to find out how!
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Showing Responsibility at Home
Step 1. Change your attitude
Start by changing the way you behave at home. You are probably angry at your parents for being grounded and for other reasons. That is fine! Everyone gets angry sometimes, but if you want your parents to understand that you are responsible and ready to behave like an adult, you will need to show them that you can handle your feelings as a mature person.
- Don't be annoyed and don't complain. Try to take advantage of this period of punishment as much as possible and keep a positive attitude.
- Don't be rude or passive-aggressive towards your parents. Misbehaving will not shorten your punishment, even if you deem it unfair.
Step 2. Be polite and nice to your parents
When talking to them, always use polite forms such as "please", "thank you", "sorry", etc. Speak calmly, friendly, and in a low voice. Do nice things for them when you can, like helping them get ready in the morning or doing the dishes in the evening.
Step 3. Take care of the housework
Show that you are ready to grow and take responsibility by doing small jobs. Vacuum, clean the toilet, wash the windows, keep your room tidy and fix things misplaced by your younger (or older!) Brothers.
- You can also ask your parents if you can help them with some of their household chores.
- Cleaning the garage, basement or terrace can also help, as these are places often overlooked by parents.
Step 4. Help your family members
Be nice to your family members and help them, or do nice things for them. You can play with your younger siblings, or help them get dressed in the morning (you can even help them with their homework), or you can make a special dish for your grandmother and take it home. Help your parents with burdensome tasks, such as ironing shirts or preparing lunch.
Just make sure they agree
Step 5. Spend your time productively
Often those in detention are prohibited from engaging in fun activities. Look for a way to use this time productively to let your parents know that you are ready to have the punishment lifted.
- Read a book, for example. It can be very calming, plus it gives the impression of running away!
- Learn something new. You can improve in free throw or learn to draw, do whatever you enjoy.
Part 2 of 4: Showing Responsibility in School
Step 1. Show respect to your teachers
The same respect you would show towards an army general. Talk to them politely, pay attention when they say something and never answer them. Also consider the idea of asking him for advice and putting it into practice. You can get along with all teachers, even those who seem the worst, just show yourself honestly interested in maintaining a good relationship.
Remember that if you've never shown polite behavior, it will take time and energy to build a relationship based on trust
Step 2. Be nice to your classmates
Don't be a bully, don't make fun of anyone, and don't get involved in any fights. If someone wants to beat you, get help from the teacher. If someone makes fun of you because you asked for the help of an adult, they are just trying to be despicable, they are stupid, leave them alone.
Step 3. Study
Get involved in school and try to improve your grades. Do your homework as soon as you get home and study for tests.
Step 4. Get a private tutor if you think you need one
If you are unable to follow the teacher, ask your parents to give you repetitions, or ask the teacher to get help from your better classmate. You can ask a friend to help you yourself if he's better than you.
Step 5. Help others when you can
If you are good at other subjects, ask your teacher if he can join you with someone to help him. This kind of responsibility will affect your parents a lot.
Part 3 of 4: Talk to Parents
Step 1. Ask your parents to be able to talk to them
If you have been able to show your parents that you are responsible, ask them to sit down and listen to you. Something like this:
"Mom, Dad, how about if we talk a little after dinner about the way I behaved? I would like to be able to discuss it to find together a solution that resolves the situation”
Step 2. Explain why you did this
Tell your parents what prompted you to behave badly, it is a good way to let them understand what you think and how you feel. They will understand that you thought you were doing the right thing, or that you are having a hard time. Say something like this:
“I'm sorry I hit Giovannina. He stole my diary and I felt violated and angry”
Step 3. Admit that what you did was wrong
Don't try to make excuses, or it will look like you're trying to shift your responsibilities onto someone else. Simply say that you know that what you did was wrong and that you know that you made them angry, even if you disagree, and explain why. It will help them understand that you have learned your lesson. Say something like:
“I was wrong to hit Giovannina. I know it. It didn't help, I should have come to you”
Step 4. Apologize
Do it sincerely. Ask him what you can do to fix and stuff.
Step 5. Consider asking him to take away the punishment
It's a big risk. If this is not the first time you have ended up in punishment, then the chances are that you will not succeed, in fact you could make things worse. After seeing how you have behaved, your parents may think that you are manipulating them. Be cautious if you decide to go this route.
Say: "You were right. I made a mistake, but I learned my lesson. I would like you to think about the idea of taking away this punishment. I will behave better in the future, I promise”
Step 6. Consider asking for a reduction in punishment
It is a safer option. If you have been given a month's detention and you have already served half of it, ask to be able to do just another week.
Say something like: “I think I've shown you that I want to change and improve. I hope you agree. If you are, and I continue to behave well, could you take this punishment away from me early?
Step 7. Renegotiate the terms of your punishment
Try to understand if they are willing to make an exception for special events that occur during punishment, such as a prom, or a concert. Ask for permission to attend major events in exchange for an extra week of punishment. They will probably accept.
You can also ask for some restrictions to be alleviated. For example, you can ask to remain in detention but to be allowed to watch some programs on television or to be able to surf the internet for a while
Step 8. Consider not asking for the punishment to be removed
This is also a risky option, but it has more advantages than you imagine. If you don't get punished often, faultless behavior may be enough to allow you to do what you want even if you are being punished. If, on the other hand, you are often in detention, behaving in an adult manner will earn you some points in the future.
Part 4 of 4: Avoiding Future Punishment
Step 1. Look for new ways to resolve conflicts
Very often the main reasons for being punished are fights at school, arguments with siblings or lack of education towards parents. It's normal to feel anger when someone treats us unfairly, but if we all started throwing our hands up every time we don't like something, how do you think the world would be? Being rude and violent prevents you from solving the problems you have. Instead, try to talk to people who are bothering you or get help from an adult.
Remember that sometimes you have to face difficult and unpleasant situations. Sometimes you can't escape your problems, but by staying calm and being kind, you will be able to mature
Step 2. Find solutions under study
Another reason why we often end up in detention are bad grades and teacher's notes. Cheating on school and hanging out with friends can be fun, but the truth is, it's important to work hard at school, or else you'll face tough times in the future when you're looking for a job or wanting to buy the things you want. If you don't feel smart, talk to your teacher. He may find a solution to help you understand the lesson better.
Step 3. Think about the people around you
Often it is friends who have a negative impact on our behavior. Often this bad influence is mutual. If you have friends who push you to do things that could get you in trouble, know that they are not true friends. They are selfish. You have to find friends who care about you.
Step 4. Take up a hobby
Find a fun activity that keeps you busy and away from things your parents don't approve of. This way you will avoid being punished in the future. Learn to play a musical instrument, write short stories or poetry, learn to draw, or start exercising.
- Find a new hobby here on WikiHow!
- Your new hobby can even be WikiHow! We always need help keeping trolls out.
Step 5. Set yourself goals
It's easy to stay on track when you're committed to achieving your goals. Want to save for a new Xbox? Find a job in the neighborhood and save the money. You can also ask your parents to give you an incentive every time you get a good grade.
Working hard will allow you to improve your situation and allow your parents to see that you are a mature person. That way they will be much more inclined to forgive you when you make a mistake
Step 6. Find a way to relax
Sometimes it's our behavior that gets us into trouble, a nervous breakdown can be triggered by stress, worry or anger. If you want to avoid being punished for this reason, you need to look for a way to alleviate all those bad feelings and detach yourself from the things that are causing you problems.
- Taking a walk is a great way to get away from family problems and relax.
- A great way to relax is also to read.
Advice
- Don't complain if you are asked to do something or it will make your parents even more angry.
- Do not scream and do not argue otherwise you will make your situation worse.
- Don't be too explicit or it won't work.
- When your parents tell you that you are grounded, simply say "okay". Don't argue with them or they might increase it.
