Do you like a guy and want to call him, but you don't know what to talk about? Or maybe you don't know how to start the conversation with the guy you hang out with? Whether it's a crush or your boyfriend, it can be hard to know what to tell him on the phone. Here are some methods to follow to call this special person.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Calling a Guy You Have a Crush For
Step 1. Think about what to say
Before you call, think about topics you know they care about. Talk about a movie he likes, a sport he plays, or a video game he plays, to make him talk and get to know him. Maybe you are in class together and need help with an assignment. You can write a list of topics to cover, but don't rely solely on that. Try to keep the conversation casual and spontaneous.
- Ask questions like "How did training go last night?" or "What did you write in your essay?" to make him talk about things he loves or knows. These questions are open and will give him the opportunity to elaborate and speak.
- Make sure you focus on topics you know too. Don't give the impression that you are false or that you are prepared when you talk about it.
Step 2. Relax
When you have thought of a few things to say, take a few deep breaths. If you are too nervous or uncomfortable, you will probably embarrass him too, or you may frighten him. Be natural, be yourself and remember, he's just a boy.
- Make sure you speak from a place where you are comfortable and where you probably won't be interrupted. It will be easier to be relaxed and less insecure.
- You may not be the only one who is nervous. If you've hinted that you like him, he may be expecting a more obvious sign that you actually like him. Calling him is a good way to convey this message.
Step 3. Find the right greeting
When he answers, someone else answers, or he isn't there, think of something to say. When he replies, greet him informally but excitedly. Since this is your first time talking on the phone, be sure to say who you are, by saying something like "Hi, I'm Maria. How are you?" People usually have a different voice on the phone and live.
- If someone else answers, don't be afraid to ask about him. Be polite and ask if they can answer.
- If you hear the answering machine, don't lose your temper. Leave a message, letting them know who you are, your number and that you want to be called back. If you think the boy is silly or funny enough, you can leave a funny message, something like "If I don't answer when you call, I might be out, or I might have been abducted by aliens." You will let him know that you know what kind of guy he is and that you are not too serious.
Step 4. Ask interesting questions
Ask questions that cannot be answered with a monosyllable, such as "What do you think about the movie you saw yesterday?" or "What's the best part about the new game you bought?". This is your chance to use the topic list you thought about before calling. Find a way to talk about these topics and then ask related questions. This will get him to talk about the things that interest him and let him know that you have noticed them.
Try to avoid questions like "WHAT are you going to tell me?". They are very vague and do not allow the conversation to proceed. Also avoid asking what their favorite foods or colors are. These questions are trivial and won't make you seem interested or interesting. You have the opportunity to show him how charming you are
Step 5. Listen
Don't monopolize the conversation, make sure you listen to at least how much you talk. Nobody likes to be on the phone without being able to say a word. Also, be careful when answering your questions. Reply to what he says, expressing your opinion if necessary or laughing when he makes a joke or says something funny.
Even if you really need to say something, make sure you don't interrupt it. If you do, you may seem rude and instead you need to give him all the time he needs to express his thoughts. He will likely want to hear what you have to say, you just need to wait for the right moment
Step 6. Respond by thinking about what you say
Pay attention to the questions he asks you. Give adequate and complete answers that fully answer your question. If you answer briefly and piecemeal, they may think you're not interested. Instead, you should let him know that you are paying attention and that you want to keep talking. Also try to incorporate some of your interests into your answers, with phrases that can keep the conversation going like "I've never played that video game, but I really love strategy board games." These phrases will allow him to get to know you better.
- Don't share too much information. Save some topics for future conversations, perhaps when he asks you to go out with him. This way you will keep his interest.
- Try not to sound arrogant. Don't make him think you're arrogant or an exhibitionist. He may decide not to call you in the future.
Step 7. Keep the call short
Find the best time to end the conversation without sounding rude. You can use a real excuse or make one up, but end the conversation when it's still interesting. That way he'll want more and be encouraged to call you next time. Try saying something like "It was nice talking to you, but I have to go out with my friends in half an hour." This will let him know that you like him, but also that you won't be spending the whole day at home waiting for the phone.
- Don't let him stay on the phone for too long. If one of you is silent for too long or trying to fill in breaks, the call is probably too long. Try to find a way to liven up the conversation before closing it. Don't say hello with a bad memory.
- Most guys don't talk much on the phone, so a long conversation might not be for the guy you like. Also, you should avoid running out of topics to talk about.
Part 2 of 2: Talk to Your Boyfriend
Step 1. Relax
Even if you hang out with someone, calling them can still make you feel nervous. Remember to stay calm. Since he's your boyfriend, you shouldn't feel stressed out, even if the relationship has only recently started. You know he likes you and should be happy to talk to you on the phone.
Make sure you are in a quiet place where you feel comfortable. It will be easier to relax and you can talk longer without being interrupted
Step 2. Think about the things to say
If the last few times you spoke there were long silences, think about the things you want to know about your boyfriend before calling him. Do you know he just bought a new video game? Ask him how it is and why he likes it. Try to remember the little details he talked about the last time you saw each other, like "How did the essay go you were writing the other day?" This way, you will let him know that you pay attention to what he says when you are together and that you care about him.
This is especially useful if you find yourself running out of things to say the last few times you met or talked on the phone. This doesn't mean the relationship isn't working, but that you're both shy or don't know each other well yet
Step 3. Call him
Don't wait for him to call you. Just because he's the man doesn't mean he's the one who always has to take the initiative. Calling him will let him know that you think about him, that you care and that you have not lost interest.
Make sure you don't call him too often. You will seem to need him too much and you will suffocate him. Maintain the right balance
Step 4. Ask questions about important things
Don't be afraid to ask difficult or personal questions. Ask what his future goals are, what his ambitions are, or what scares him the most. Try to ask the questions in an open-ended way, so that she has a chance to add as many details as she wants, like "I know you're majoring in Political Science. What's your dream job?". This will let him know that you care about him personally and that you want to know all parts of his personality.
Don't ask where you think the relationship is headed or any other questions that have to do with your relationship. You could scare him or embarrass him
Step 5. Respond by thinking about what you say
Pay attention to the questions he asks you. Give adequate and complete answers that fully answer your question. If you give short, fragmentary answers, he may think you are mad at him.
- Don't share too much information. Even if you are trying to get to know each other better, leave some arguments for the future so as not to remove the veil of mystery from your relationship.
- Try not to sound arrogant. Don't make him think you're arrogant or an exhibitionist.
Step 6. Discuss common interests
Choose topics that interest both of you. This way, you can both contribute to the conversation and find things in common. By giving your opinion, you will let him know that you are independent, even if your interests are similar to his.
Don't talk about topics you know you disagree on. If you happen to be talking about these things, don't lie or say that you agree with him, but bring the conversation back to less dangerous topics with phrases like "I don't necessarily agree with that policy, but I think the same as you about the new one. health law ". Don't start arguing or raising the tension on the phone
Step 7. Listen
As little as you care about what he is saying, even if he tells a story he has already told, listen to what he has to say. When he answers your question, remember things to talk about in the future or that you can use to get to know him better. However, avoid not monopolizing the conversation. You should let him know that you don't always have to be in control of the call.
Don't be afraid of silences. Just because there are pauses in the conversation doesn't mean the phone call is going wrong. Silences can indicate that you feel more comfortable with each other and that you are able to enjoy each other's presence
Advice
- If the call doesn't go well, don't worry too much. You can always try again. If it was your first conversation on the phone and it was a disaster, it could be a sign that this is not the right guy for you.
- In case of awkward silences, tell him to wait a moment and put the phone down. You can calm down and think of something fun to get the conversation going, like "Sorry for the interruption, it was my sister. By the way, I went to a museum with her last week. Who is your favorite artist, and why." ? ".
- Try not to eat, don't breathe hard, and don't talk to someone else when you're on the phone with them. You would appear disinterested and rude.
