If you want to get noticed by a guy, one of the best ways to get what you want is to talk to him. However, it's not easy to get close to someone we have a crush on, because the idea of talking to them can scare us. Try to stay calm and have a conversation for a few minutes, then find ways to talk to him again in the future so you can get to know him. When you feel ready, ask him out; remember, you can't force someone to fall in love with you, so be prepared for rejection.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Making a Conversation
Step 1. If you feel nervous, try your speech first
Breaking the ice with a guy you like isn't easy at all. It may seem silly to you, but by rehearsing the words you say in advance, you will feel calmer. If you're not sure how to approach him, stand in front of the mirror and practice.
- Try to think of various ways to start the conversation. Where do you usually meet? If you are classmates, you can try asking him about homework, or make a comment on the last question.
- You don't have to plan in advance what you will say word for word. In fact, if you practice too much, your attempt at approach will seem forced. Instead, try to get a general idea of what you mean.
Step 2. Find a way to break the ice
Think about observations and comments you can make to start the conversation; it won't be difficult, there are so many. Once you start talking, you can keep the discussion going and get to know the guy you like.
- Try starting with a compliment. For example: "Hey, I really like your sweatshirt".
- You can also make an observation. For example: "What do you think about yesterday's assignment? It seemed very difficult to me!".
- You can ask a question like, "Do you know when we have to turn in the report? I forgot to write this in the diary."
- Try to get close to him in situations where he feels comfortable. If he's not distracted, it's easier to get his attention.
Step 3. Ask questions
Once you start talking, ask him questions. In the beginning it will not be easy to develop the conversation naturally. One of the most useful tips to remember is that many people love to talk about themselves. If you want to continue the conversation with the guy you have a crush on, ask him personal questions. This will also help you get to know him better.
- Ask him a question about something you have in common. For example "What do you think about this matter?" and "Are you going to the stadium this season?".
- Once you have started talking, try asking more general questions about the topics you are discussing. If you are talking about a movie seen in class, you can say: "What movie do you like?".
Step 4. Keep talking until the time is right
During your first exchange, you don't have to overdo it. Pay attention to her reactions and end the meeting when it seems to have reached its natural end.
- Once you're done with a topic, you can both feel like there's not much left to discuss. He may start answering you in monosyllables.
- This attitude does not necessarily indicate that he is not interested in talking to you. Conversations have a natural beginning and end. Instead of trying to force the dialogue, try to carry it out. Find a natural way to end the exchange, for example: "Now I really have to go to class. See you later!"
Part 2 of 3: Talk to Him Often
Step 1. Discuss your common interests
You have to be yourself with the guy you like, so don't just talk about him and his interests, but let him get to know you. Once you talk regularly, find common interests that you can discuss. In this way you will get to know each other better and bond thanks to the things you have in common.
- For example, both of you might like X Factor. Try asking him what he thinks about the last episode. For example: "Did you see X Factor last night? It was spectacular!".
- Starting with this question, you can move on to more general topics. For example: "Do you like music? I really like singing and listening to the songs of my favorite bands".
Step 2. Get to know him by asking him questions
If the pace of the conversation is slowing down, ask a question. By asking the guy about him, you'll rekindle his interest and figure out if you really want to go out with him. If you have a lot of common interests and similar views, you are probably compatible. You can ask him:
- "What is your favorite movie?"
- "Do you have any hobbies?"
- "What is your favorite subject?"
- "What is the most beautiful place you have ever visited?"
- "Who is your favorite television character?"
Step 3. Be yourself
If you really like a person, it can be tempting to play a role, trying to meet their wishes. For example, if a guy loves sports more than you do, it might be tempting to pretend to be a big football fan, but avoid doing it. Don't deny your interests, hobbies, and friendships for fear of being judged or rejected. You can politely express your opinion ("Oh, I don't like football very much") and use the opportunity to make yourself known ("I actually prefer to go to concerts").
It can be difficult to follow this advice when you really like a guy, but remember that anyone who doesn't appreciate you for who you are isn't your soul mate
Step 4. Text him regularly
If you can get his phone number, texting can be a very useful means of communication, which can help you get to know him better. Try writing to him from time to time and see if he answers you; can help you figure out if he really likes you or not. If he replies to your messages right away, he is probably interested in you.
- Be yourself when you feel it. If he asks you a question, answer truthfully. Use your signature tone and sense of humor.
- Use emoticons from time to time. Don't overdo it, but a few faces here and there can be seductive.
- Let him, from time to time, initiate the exchange of messages. Don't press it.
Step 5. Try flirting
While trying to get to know the guy you like, try to seduce him discreetly. This will let you know if he is interested in you or not. If he flirts himself, then he is likely to be interested.
- You smile. Smiling is contagious. Maintaining eye contact while smiling is important, as it creates a playful and provocative atmosphere. Smiling at a guy makes him want to win you over. Do it for a moment, then look away.
- Meet his gaze. This way you will communicate your interest.
- Try to touch it. For example, touch him on the arm while talking to him.
Step 6. Avoid some topics
Some topics can ruin a conversation, so you should avoid them. If you want to meet a guy you care about, don't talk about the things that make him feel uncomfortable.
- Don't belittle yourself. You need to show that you like yourself and that you are confident.
- Never say anything negative about his friends and family.
Part 3 of 3: Confess Your Feelings
Step 1. Look for signs of attraction
Before asking a guy out on a date, it's a good idea to figure out if he's interested in you. If it seems to you that he has no intention of being with you, perhaps it is best if you remain friends.
- You can tell if he's attracted to you by looking at his body language. Does he approach you when he talks to you, looks you in the eye and smiles at you often?
- When we are taken by someone, we often have a habit of imitating that person's body language. For example, a guy might cross his legs when you do.
- If he finds excuses to touch you, he is attracted to you. He may touch your arm, hug you, or try to connect with you in other ways.
- It can help you to notice if he behaves differently with you than he does with other people. This attitude may indicate that he likes you, even if it conflicts with the other signs. For example, if he usually has a habit of flirting with all the girls while he's quiet and shy with you, he might feel nervous when you're together because he likes you.
- Remember that none of these signs give you the guarantee that a man is interested in you.
Step 2. Take a straightforward approach
In some cases, being direct is the best choice. Confessing your feelings isn't easy; however, if you feel like a guy is attracted to you, it's easier to say it openly instead of beating around the bush.
- Choose simple sentences. You can say, "I really like you so much. I was wondering if you feel the same too."
- Take a deep breath before speaking and you will be able to stay calm.
Step 3. Ask him to go out with you
If your statement was successful, propose an appointment. You can say, "Do you want to go to the movies tonight?" or "Do you want to go dancing with me?". It's not easy to make the first move, but if you have the same feelings, it should be all right.
Step 4. Deal with rejection
You can never be 100% sure that someone is interested in you. Even if you think you have interpreted the signals correctly, there is always the possibility that a guy will not return your affection. In that case, accept the situation and move on.
- If he rejects you, don't pester him with questions and don't get angry. Reply: "Ok, I'm disappointed, but I understand". Then find an excuse and walk away.
- Seek help from friends and family. Find someone to help you vent your disappointment.
- Do something nice for yourself. Buy yourself a dress or something else you like. Take a day off and go to the movies with a friend.
Advice
- When you talk to the guy you like, don't cross your arms, don't fidget, and don't look at your cell phone all the time - you will give the impression that you are insecure or bored.
- Take it easy! Imagine that the guy you are talking to is a relative or other person who makes you feel comfortable.
- If you have difficulty in a subject, ask him for help, or if he doesn't understand something, give him a hand. Either way, you'll have a great excuse to be alone with him.
