When your boyfriend tells you it's over, the first thing you want to do is call him, tell him how you feel, and hope that seeing how hurt you are and how much you love him, he'll get you back. But before you do, read these important steps to understand the mistakes you are likely to make and how to stop repeating them; you will learn to do the right things that will help you get your ex boyfriend back.
Steps
Step 1. If you have been calling your ex nonstop, you need to stop all forms of contact now
Don't write to him, don't call him, don't text him, nothing. By ceasing to look for him, you will give him space to breathe. Now he can relax without the constant threat of an ex stalking him. He will also have a chance to realize that he made a mistake.
Step 2. Before anything else, try to understand why the relationship ended
Was it a sudden and unexpected death in your relationship? Was there a fight or an argument? Or did you feel it slowly faded away? When you understand better the reasons for the breakup, you will be well on your way to settling your troubled relationship.
Step 3. If it was an argument that led to the breakup, you should honestly consider the reasons for the argument and the arguments
Was it your first fight or had it occurred on other occasions? A fight doesn't mean much. Everyone quarrels, they break up and get back together the next day. But if this is a repeating pattern, it probably indicates bigger problems within the relationship. If the fight is a trivial matter, wait a few days for him to contact you. When he realizes he overreacted, he'll probably want you back.
Step 4. At that point, stop and relax, let him apologize and explain his behavior
Step 5. Now, if you think you did something wrong, it's time to accept it and admit that you were wrong
You must sincerely understand that if you have hurt him, it is normal that he is tired of your behavior.
Step 6. Another reason people break up is probably the hardest
This occurs when there is apparently nothing wrong with the relationship, yet your boyfriend leaves. If that's what happened to you, you have to accept that your boyfriend is no longer attracted to you.
Step 7. In this case, the only way to get your boyfriend back is to recreate the attraction
Remind him of why you started dating, kindly, and bring back happy memories of the two of you together. Maybe he'll realize he misses what you had.
Advice
- Don't call your ex boyfriend ten times a day. Even though it may seem like you can't live without him anymore, calling and texting him constantly only makes it worse.
- Guys want what they can't have. So keep some distance, hang out with other guys, and show them that you are independent. But don't keep your hopes high, it's probably over for a reason and it would be a shame to waste your time repeating the past.
- Work on recreating the attraction. It might seem easier said than done, so check out the other articles on the subject to learn about it and get your ex back using the secrets of attraction.
- Have lunch together.
