The girl you like has finally given you her phone number. How to exchange sms to hit her and not let her escape? Find out by reading this article!
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Original Attack
Step 1. Be creative
She sure gets a lot of messages from other guys, so don't just say hello or send her an emoticon. Try to make her smile or spark her interest, so that she thinks "Hey, this guy has something special, I want to keep talking to him":
- Charm her with your wit. Make a shrewd observation to show her that the way you look at the world is truly unique.
- Make her laugh. Show her you're witty by texting too.
- Tell her something she has never heard before, like news you just read.
Step 2. Ask her a good question
It's a great way to get started, especially to let her know you're waiting for an answer. You don't want to leave it in doubt; he would ask himself "What should I answer him?". Be as direct and specific as you can:
- Ask her about her day or week. If something important has happened and you know about it, ask her a few questions.
- Make sure it's an easy-to-answer question; for example, ask her what she did over the weekend. No philosophical themes.
- Don't write too much, a simple sentence will suffice.
- Leave room for stories. Instead of asking "What time did you get back from the concert last night?", Opt for "How was the concert?". You can talk about more things. If you ask a question that requires a dry answer, the conversation will die even before it begins.
Step 3. Pay attention to grammar
Don't overlook spelling and punctuation. You will make her understand that you care enough for her to take care of this aspect of communication as well.
Use capital letters and accents, making your messages look the same as your emails
Step 4. Don't try too hard
If you think for a long time before texting or overdo it, she will notice. Don't pretend to be who you are not just to make a good impression. He will sense it, so the effort will be useless.
- Remember to relax. Don't send her long messages, one sentence at a time will suffice.
- Don't try to be nice at all costs. If it doesn't come naturally to you and you write “hahaha” after each of your sentences that you consider witty, then it's best to avoid trying to be funny. Be yourself.
- Remember that she is probably a little nervous too, so you're not the only one feeling that way.
Method 2 of 3: Keep His Attention
Step 1. Be engaging
If it's nice to text you, she'll think it's nice to have an in-person conversation as well. The purpose of texting is to give some clues about your personality, so that she wants more. Fascinating her, she will want to keep talking to you:
- Find a common interest. While you shouldn't talk about politics or religion via text message, you should have a common interest, like a show or a band, and talk about it.
- Name something you are passionate about, like football or cooking. This will grab his attention.
- Let her know that you have a busy and interesting life. Tell her about your outings with friends and rehearsals with your group. She'll be more interested in you if she knows you have a life.
- Show her your wit. If she says a funny thing, don't just write “hahaha” ending the conversation. Instead, answer her wisely and show her you know how to cope.
Step 2. Flirt
If you do, she will want to keep talking to you and will understand that you like her. Court her covertly, without exaggerating, so as not to scare her:
- Be playful. Show her your silly side and make a goofy comment at the right time. No woman likes men who take themselves too seriously.
- Make fun of her. If you know her well enough, joke about her, but make sure she can pick up on the tone of the conversation - texting can be tricky.
- Send her a wink or emoticon every now and then, but don't abuse it. When dosed, these means are great for flirting.
Step 3. Show her that you care, but without making it seem too obvious
Text her at the right time to let her know that you were thinking about her and that you consider her important:
- Show her that you care about her opinion. Ask her what she thinks of a new movie or restaurant that just opened in town.
- Ask her a few personal questions, but don't go too far into her privacy. For example, ask her what she likes to do on the weekend.
- Show her that you remember your conversations. If she told you she was studying for a test, she'll be shocked to get a message from you saying "Good luck" the night before.
Step 4. Don't give too much away about your feelings
You'll need to make sure they are reciprocated before overwhelming her with messages. You should let her know that you are interested, but avoid sounding desperate and insistent, or you will embarrass yourself:
- Make sure the message flow is fair. If you text her 10 and she only replies to two, it's time to step back.
- Don't answer her as soon as she makes herself heard. If she takes a day to get back to you, don't text her after five minutes, or you'll look desperate.
- Avoid extreme use of emoticons. Use them sporadically for flirting.
- Avoid crazy punctuation (like ten exclamation points in a row) and don't capitalize everything - it's really unpleasant.
Method 3 of 3: The Ideal Conclusion
Step 1. Find out when it's time to end the conversation
Since you want to keep her interest high, you may want to say hello before you start boring her, especially if she's busy:
- If you always send the last message, let her do it for once.
- If she answers you in monosyllables, she may be too busy or not interested enough.
- If she takes hours or days to get back to you, don't text her constantly. Realize that she has a life too, but don't take it: leave her alone and keep a positive attitude. There will be other opportunities to contact you again!
Step 2. Leave the conversation open so you can resume it later
- Let her know where you're going, maybe she'll take your words as an invitation to go out together.
- Wish you some fun if you have to go somewhere.
- Find a subtle way to let her know you're going to think about her.
- Tell her what you will do or ask her what she will do: at the end of the commitment, you can tell yourself something.
Step 3. If everything goes well, ask her out:
the worst that can happen to you is that I say no, and it won't be the end of the world. If you're happy with the relationship you're building or just want to see it, invite it out:
- You don't have to be formal. You can tell her that you are going to a bar, restaurant or concert with friends and that she and her friends can join you.
- If you are in the middle of a long, articulate conversation, you can also say, “I'd like to keep talking to you in person. Would you like to do it over a dinner or a drink?”.
Advice
- Don't text her at any time of day, expecting her to reply to everyone. Remember he has other friends.
- Don't lose your temper and don't send her a question mark if she doesn't answer right away.
- Be yourself!
