Negative thoughts are not exclusive to a few people or situations, each of us is plagued by negative thoughts at some point in life.
However, by the time you recognize your own thoughts, you are already taking the first step towards controlling the negativity.
Steps
Step 1. Make the decision to take control of your present and future thoughts
You can decide to control your thoughts. This means making a constant and conscious effort to program positive affirmations and thoughts in your mind on a daily basis.
Step 2. Surround yourself with positive people
Have you ever heard, "who looks alike"? The saying works both in a positive and a negative sense. If your current friends enjoy putting down others, complaining all the time and being mostly negative, it won't be easy for you to let go of the negativity. It's probably time to make some new friends.
Step 3. Refuse to accept negative comments when you know you don't deserve them
For example, if you are making progress on a project, and you hear someone say that you are just wasting your time, tell yourself that it is not what I think, it is not what I believe. You know you've made progress in the project, used your time productively, and therefore deserve praise. However, don't completely avoid criticism, they can sometimes bring great ideas.
Step 4. Change your language
Ditch the use of words like 'should' and 'could'. Constructively replace them, for example by changing "I could repair the car" to "I will repair the car". In this way you will promise yourself to act and you will be more likely to respect the commitment made.
Step 5. Think for yourself.
Step 6. Use your own initiative instead of waiting for someone else's
You could throw away precious time waiting for others to act.
Advice
- Your life will go nowhere if you stand still and do nothing. Be ambitious and set goals. Work constructively to achieve them.
- Remember that actions matter more than words. Instead of just talking, start doing facts.
- Accept yourself. Before judging, remember that any of your thoughts are your own creation. Only you can decide which colors to paint your world with. Learn to be the best artist possible.
- Keep fit. Start and stick to your own training regimen, every aspect of your life will benefit greatly.
Warnings
- Not everyone will like your attempt to be positive. For various reasons, some people like to be negative, and you may have to go through constant battles until you make new friends.
- Even people who appreciate positive behaviors may be bothered by excessive positivity.
