How to Say Hot Words to a Boy (with Pictures)

2024 Author: Samantha Chapman | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 09:13

Many people feel ridiculous when they say spicy words, but after experimenting to find out what works for your relationship, it can be a lot of fun to do so. The exact words you should say will depend on age, experience, personal tastes, and the nature of the relationship.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Prepare

Step 1. Consider your boyfriend's personality

Do you feel comfortable with physical and romantic contact? How does it behave when you are intimate? Are you a traditionalist or do you like to try new things? What language do you use in everyday life - do I often swear?

• What you say will depend a lot on the personality of the partner: if he is a very serious person who does not like to swear, you will have to be discreet.
• For example, instead of saying "You are so sexy right now, I can't wait to be alone", you could say "You look great!" and give him a quick flirtatious kiss on the lips - if he doesn't like public displays of affection - on the cheek.

Step 2. Probe the ground

Try to understand how much she appreciates hot words, starting with topics that aren't explicitly sexual. Spicy words don't have to be dirty. You might start with "I can't stop thinking about last night;)" the day after you met.

You might even start with a simple compliment, like, "That shirt looks great on you," or "I like that dimple when you smile."

Step 3. Tap it more often

Many couples don't physically show affection outside the bedroom. By touching him more often, you may be able to heighten his desire and make him more comfortable. As a result, he will be more willing to try new things.

Step 4. Talk about when you kiss

If your partner agrees, tell him what you'd like to feel. Be respectful, and most importantly, never talk about kissing right after you're done, as he may associate physical contact with serious talk.

• Example: "I really like you and I would like to feel more connected to you. Maybe we could try to say a few spicy words."
• You could take a more informal approach and say, "What do you think of someone who talks spicy?". You might ask this question while washing the dishes together, preparing dinner or going for a walk - just don't do it in the bedroom or right after a kissing session!

Step 5. Find a book that can help you

If you can't get into the topic of hot talk, you can get yourself a book about it and mark some of the pages. You could tell your boyfriend that talking about it embarrasses you and that's why you decided to do it thanks to the book.

Step 6. Practice speaking spicy on your own

It might sound silly, but trying the phrases you say might help you say them more easily when the time comes.

If you don't feel comfortable talking spicy on your own, you can start by talking more in daily life - for example, when you eat something delicious you can moan with pleasure, or when she kisses you, you can make a happy "Mmm" sound

Step 7. Adapt the words to the situation

What you say - and how you say it - will depend on the result you want to achieve.

• If you are far away, for example at school or work, and you just want to provoke him a little, you could write to him: "I can't stop thinking about how good you were this morning / last night, etc.".
• If you are kissing and he says something you like, you might say, "I like it when you talk like that."

Step 8. Always be honest

When you're complimenting, texting, or talking spicy in bed, make sure you really believe what you're saying. If used correctly, hot words can increase intimacy and strengthen your relationship. Pretending would have the opposite effect.

Part 2 of 3: Send Sexy Messages and Emails

Step 1. Get to intimate conversations gradually

Don't start with a no-nonsense message when he is talking to you about his family, his sick dog, or some other serious topic. If you want to write a spicy message, do it gracefully. It starts with "I wish you were here" or "I wish I was with you right now".

Your aim is to give him a chance to respond with a romantic message before moving on to the hottest topics

Step 2. Don't use abbreviations

We are in the 21st century, but grammar errors still aren't sexy. If you have something nice to say, take a few extra seconds to write it down in full.

Step 3. Go up with shots

When you are sure they like spicy messages, you can become more obscene and outspoken. If you are not sure what level you can reach, take small steps and imitate his attitude.

• Ending flirtatious messages with a wink (;)) face is a popular practice.

• If he doesn't respond to your messages in kind, he may not understand what you are trying to do, or he may not like it. You will need to gauge his reaction by leveraging your knowledge. He might pretend he doesn't understand to be funny. Eg:

  • You: "I can't wait to see each other for dinner, but part of me would like to jump straight to dessert;)"
  • Him: "Me too! That restaurant serves the best panna cotta in town!"
  • You: "Ha ha, I like it a lot too, but that wasn't the dessert I meant: P". If you really don't understand his answer, write a simple ": P", to make him understand that your allusion was probably something else, but without explicitly confirming it.

  

  Step 4. Send sexy photos

  You will have to choose the images according to the nature of the relationship - you can take a cute photo of you smiling or something that shows a few extra inches of skin.

  Try sending him a photo striptease: start with a photo of yourself dressed in a mischievous way, then continue with photos of your clothes, in the order you would take them off. Don't send him a naked photo - leave room for the imagination

  

  Step 5. Be careful when sending pictures

  Never assume that they remain private. If you have even the slightest concern that someone will see your photo, don't take it. As a precaution, at least avoid including the face.

  • Contrary to popular belief, Snapchat does NOT give you the ability to send sexy images with confidence. There are applications that allow you to save Snapchat photos permanently.
  • Even if you completely trust your partner and believe that you will never be able to separate, you need to understand that if something in the relationship goes wrong, you may not get those photos back and you cannot control who will see them - it is possible that they will be shared. It's not fair, and it wouldn't be your fault, but it is an eventuality you need to consider.

  

  Step 6. Don't send sexy messages from your office computer

  You would not only run the risk of being caught red-handed, but it is completely inappropriate. Remember that some companies use keyloggers or other surveillance methods to monitor employee productivity.

  Part 3 of 3: Spicy Speaking in Bed

  

  Step 1. Get to sexy talk gradually

  If you're just starting out, you could ruin the mood by talking spicy right away. If you aren't already, try moaning and panting more as you kiss to let him know how much you like him.

  If you don't like moaning or don't know how to do it, try to notice the sounds you normally make - for example, you might let out a "Mmmm" or a light happy sigh when you eat something delicious. You can use those sounds even in romantic situations

  

  Step 2. Start with one word at a time

  If you normally remain silent when you kiss, you are probably not ready to say anything. Start with a word or two to show him you're having a good time.

  Examples: "Yes", "I like", "Continue"

  

  Step 3. Pay attention to the way things are said

  The tone of a sentence is as important as its content; for example, if you say "I like" in a bored, flat tone of voice, you probably won't sound sincere. Speaking in a sigh or low voice will make you seem sexier. You might even whisper sweet words in his ears!

  • There is no need to swear when you speak spicy, so if you don't like using bad words, don't! "# @ $! You're so cool" is as effective as "You're so cool".
  • If you decide to speak in a low voice, make sure you don't use too low a tone or you will sound possessed!

  

  Step 4. Combine touch with words

  Instead of saying "Do you like it when I do _?" or "Do you want me to do _?", do something and then ask him if he liked it.

  

  Step 5. Let him know when he does something you like

  Men are very proud in the bedroom. If he does something you appreciate, tell him. You will make him feel good and encourage him to repeat it in the future.

  • Examples: "Yes, so", "It's beautiful, I like it"
  • If you want me to do something, but are too afraid to ask, you can say, "I like it when _".

  

  Step 6. Tell him how aroused he makes you

  Knowing that you're having fun will make him feel even better. Here are some examples:

  • "I haven't wanted to do anything else all day."
  • "You drive Me crazy".

  

  Step 7. Use the magic words

  Do you want to really drive him crazy? According to a poll conducted by Cosmopolitan magazine, men voted that the hottest thing to say in bed is "I'm coming". Men love to hear those words because a) they feel proud; b) make them aroused; c) they make it clear that they can stop holding back and have an orgasm themselves.

  Make sure the words are sincere. If I said this but it wasn't true, not only would you have lied, but you could (at least temporarily) stop having sex as a result

  

  Step 8. Don't overdo it

  If moaning doesn't come naturally, you may be tempted to overdo the displays of pleasure. You don't need to yell, pant, or put on any other flashy posture to show your arousal - if you did, you might even look fake.

  

  Step 9. Pay attention to what they like

  If he appreciates what you are doing, he will likely moan or tremble slightly. He may even pause for a moment to recover before continuing.

  • If your partner isn't comfortable with something you said, they may stop, walk away, not smile, or lose an erection.
  • If you're good at communicating, he'll probably just tell you that he didn't like what you said.

  

  Step 10. Be patient

  It takes time to figure out exactly what to say when you talk spicy to your boyfriend. By trying out many words and phrases, you will find the most suitable ones.

  • While moans, sighs, and words like "Yes" and "Continue" are often appreciated, more extreme phrases (using swearing or explicitly describing sexual acts) might make him uncomfortable.
  • By communicating openly and paying attention to his body language you will find out what works!

  Advice

  • It often varies in order not to become predictable. Alternate explicitly sexual phrases with lighter ones.
  • Kissing your boyfriend should be fun. If it's been a while and you're still having a hard time speaking spicy and neither of you seem to particularly like it, it may not be for you. In that case, don't get angry; switch to something that works better.
  • If you have a good sense of humor, use it when talking in a sexy way. It is often better to write the funniest phrases per text than to say them in bed, but only what you like is important!