Being highly motivated means being ready for lively, straight-to-the-point discussions and attitudes. It also means being smart enough not to be manipulated and open to positive learning. This way of thinking is the challenge! Fortunately, you have everything you need to get started right now. Let's go!
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Entering the Optics
Step 1. Be positive
It's pretty hard to achieve anything when you're stuck on thoughts like "Argh, life sucks and it's raining". Thoughts like that just make us want to hole up in bed until someone lifts us off. You can not do this! Positive thoughts are the only way to find motivation.
If you find yourself having negative thoughts, just stop. Don't finish them. Shift your attention elsewhere. Especially if you are thinking about your motivation! The task you are dealing with? It is totally doable and you have the skills to do it. Any other way of thinking will keep you from even trying
Step 2. Become confident
Along with positive thinking about your world, you need to think positive about yourself. If you think you are incapable, this will have deleterious effects on the commitment you will devote to the task in question. Why should you worry about doing something you don't think you can do? Exactly. You will not.
To get started, count your successes. Where are you coming from? What have you done extraordinary in the past? What resources do you have at your disposal? Think about everything you have achieved in the past. Why wouldn't you be able to get what you want now ?! You've done similar things before
Step 3. Be hungry
When Les Brown talks about motivation, he keeps repeating: "You must be hungry!". He means you really have to want it. You can't imagine yours without that. Thinking about something would be ideal, being full of ambitions will get you nowhere. You have to want it. If you don't really want it, why are you trying to motivate yourself?
Sometimes it takes a few turns to convince you that you want something. Do you struggle to get to work? Well, is it a means to get to something else? If you do this to be able to vacation in Hawaii, think in those terms. You really, really want to go to Hawaii - and the job will allow you to. It's much easier to do something you don't want to do when you have a purpose in mind - a purpose you're hungry for
Step 4. Know that there will be setbacks
It is important to have a (possibly lasting) attitude knowing that there will be failures along the way. Perfectionism will only leave you frustrated and tempted to surrender. There will be times when you will fall off your horse. You just have to know that you will be able to get back in the saddle and, above all, that you will.
Your failures or setbacks have nothing to do with you and everything to do with the human being. They happen. Sometimes because of you (not all decisions can be right), but sometimes because of circumstances beyond your control. Having this balanced perspective will do you a lot of good in the long run
Part 2 of 3: Gain momentum
Step 1. Focus on positive goals
It is very simple to know what you don't want or are afraid of. It is often more difficult to pinpoint exactly what would make us happy and what we tend to. However, in order to achieve something, we need to start thinking in terms of positive goals, not negative fears. Instead of "I don't want to be poor", a better purpose is "I would like to save TOT money every month". Do you see how the second sentence is much more feasible? And less scary!
Positive here does not mean giving off rays of the sun. It means something you can do, something in the affirmative. The intention of "not being fat" is demotivating in itself. “Losing 5kg through diets and the gym” is something that doesn't make you turn up your nose at the very thought
Step 2. Think small
Having noble goals is tough. Take a look at a book consisting of 7 volumes and you don't want to read it. Rather, break it down. The other volumes are still there, just waiting for you to be ready to let them into your life.
Instead of "I want to lose 20kg", think of something like "I want to lose 1kg this week" or "I want to go to the gym 4 or 5 times this week". They will guarantee similar results but simpler to conceive
Step 3. Make a note of your progress
Since the dawn of time, humans have been looking for purpose and direction. And it doesn't just have to do with existentialism - we seek purpose in work, relationships and even hobbies. If something is unsatisfactory, we won't do it. So whether you are losing weight, working overtime or studying for exams, keep a record of what you do! It will give you momentum and show you the positive outcomes of your attitude. It will give you purpose.
Be sure to write down your behaviors and their consequences. Not only do you need to look at the consequences and think “Wow! I'm just great! Look what I did! ", You will also need them to see what works and what doesn't work for you. If you try 3 different study methods, 3 different workouts, etc., which one had the best consequences with respect to effort? From there you can then optimize and strategize
Step 4. Take some breaks
We are not machines (but machines also need breaks). Studies have shown that students who take breaks are more efficient, and muscles are known to need breaks as well. The breaks are not for the lazy - they are for those who know they want to move on.
It's up to you to figure out when to stop. It also depends on the final goal. Not only should there be small daily breaks, but also in general in life
Step 5. Do what you love
Most of us have less than exciting jobs, workouts we don't want to do, and a to-do list that they would pay someone to complete. These things won't go away, so we need to make them as manageable and enjoyable as possible. If something you don't like, it could stay forever.
- Think about your job. If it sucks, how can you improve it? Can you ask to work on a specific project that interests you? How can you invest your time on the things you like?
- If training bores you, change it! You don't have to be a marathon runner to burn calories. Swim, take a course, or climb a mountain. If you don't like the exercise you are doing, you won't do it for long.
Step 6. Use the rewards
It is a point to be carefully considered. The last thing you want is to associate anything with a snack. However, the rewards can be very powerful when used in moderation and efficiency. When you've completed something, make sure you're doing something you deserve!
You cannot reward yourself for every 5 minutes of the activity you are trying to do. It will just distract you and waste your time. However, even small goals, once achieved, should be rewarded. Have you been exercising every day this week? Great - take a day to just do some yoga at home and watch a movie
Step 7. Don't be afraid to make mistakes
To find the best way to achieve something, we often have to do things we've never tried before. There will be mistakes if you grow and improve. You can remove them from your list of possibilities and define your trajectory from there. Technically, mistakes are a good thing. At least they have a purpose.
- There is also the fear of appearing stupid that keeps many people from trying things. Whether it's raising your hand in class or trying out that new tool you don't know how to use, it's human nature to want to be comfortable. But for more satisfying results, if you really want to get high grades, lose weight, or go on your own, you need to do things you may not want to do.
- Similarly, don't let mistakes get you down. It's too easy to do, feel like it's not worth trying again and just stop. But by repeating to yourself that it is not an option, it will not happen. Failure doesn't matter - it just matters.
Part 3 of 3: Stay on track
Step 1. Surround yourself with motivators
It's fairly straightforward: we need reminders to move forward. They can be people or things - whatever keeps you in the right light. It's normal to get out of balance and forget where you want to be - these external motivators offer focus and direction.
- You can do a lot of little things to get yourself into action. Change the PC wallpaper. Attach a post-it to the wall. A reminder on the phone. Use the din around you to your advantage.
- People can motivate too! Tell all your friends that you are trying to lose 5kg. They could support you and make the road less difficult, as well as keep an eye on you.
Step 2. Stay in good company
Unfortunately, people can also be discouraged. We all have that friend who absolutely wants us to eat another slice of cake. That person is not good company. To continue on the road to success, we all need pompom girls along the way! Tell your friends and family what you are doing and what you need to be motivated about. Do you have a couple of close people who can help you stay focused and motivated?
Having a mentor who has been through this before will be very helpful. Do you know someone who went on their own, lost 20kg, or made their dreams come true in other ways? Talk to him! How did he do it? His persistence and demonstration of the feasibility of this may be indispensable for you to remain energetic and motivated
Step 3. Keep learning
Over time, you are likely to get bored, agitated, or distracted. To avoid these holes, keep learning! Make things more interesting! It's hard to stay motivated about anything for a long time. But if the goal continues to update, your consciousness continues to evolve, it will be easier.
If you're aiming to lose weight, read success stories and blogs. Talk to the trainers at the gym. Consult a nutritionist. Tackle new elements (training methods, diets, etc.) one at a time. The new data will open your mind
Step 4. Compare only to yourself
The best way to quickly demotivate is by comparing yourself to others. You'll never be them and they won't be you, so what's the point? Although you've already heard it a billion times, it's worth repeating: the only person you should compare yourself to is you, a few months ago. Only your progress counts; not that of others.
That's part of why noting progress is so important. To know where you are, you need to know where you come from. If you've made progress, you have nothing to be ashamed of, no matter what the competition is doing
Step 5. Help others
When you are closer to your goals, chances are you've learned a lot from your job. Use this wisdom to help others! It will not only motivate you, but it will motivate them. Didn't you wish you had someone to help you along the way?
Have you lost weight, started your business or passed that exam? Use what you know to help someone else and, better yet, absorb things better. Just as studying out loud and repeating to someone helps your learning, helping someone else will help you stay focused and feel good about your progress
Step 6. Set yourself more ambitious goals
Once you start hitting the small milestones, you can only get better! Start thinking big - focus on the final goal. Enough little steps; it's time to eat at the grown-up table. It's about motivation! You can practically start planning your trip to Hawaii now! And you'll look fabulous in that costume as well!
Make sure you keep the final goal in mind or it will start to seem too far away and unattainable. Why did you make all this effort, anyway? You know exactly why - and the light is at the end of the tunnel. What will you do when you reach it? You will move on to the next one, hopefully
Advice
- Talk as if you are already the way you want to be. Don't say "I'm getting positive"; “I'm positive” is much better.
- The journey to exploit your potential is well worth it. On this journey, you have knowingly / unknowingly helped many others to unlock their potential.
- Repeated positive affirmations often will help strengthen you. Choose one that suits your problem. If you are scared: "I am safe"; if you are shy: “I'm sure of myself”. Avoid negative words to stay focused.
- There will be obstacles, but you have to move on. One misstep can erase all previous positive actions and likewise a right choice can also launch you forward. That's life.
Warnings
- Don't be discouraged if you are slowed down on your new path to personal motivation. It will all work out. Be magnanimous with yourself.
- DON'T worry about irrelevant things, because negative thoughts become bad habits, just as positive ones become good habits.
- Have the courage to face obstacles if you really think you are right.
- Being motivated doesn't mean smiling and trying to please everyone.
- Don't be too hard on yourself.
