The idea of confessing that you have a crush on someone is scary, but it could be a lot easier than you think. Learning to express your feelings creatively will help you stay calm. You can also figure out how to talk to the guy you like so that both of you can feel comfortable. Also, gather as much information as possible before you step forward to ensure you have a better chance of success.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Confess that you have a creative crush
Step 1. Write a card and give it to him
This is one of the most common and effective ways to tell a guy you like him. It is certainly less difficult than confessing it in words; also, in case your feelings are not reciprocated, it does not expose you to the embarrassment of hearing you say it directly. The person receiving it will also feel more comfortable. All you have to do is write a note confessing your feelings and hand it to him personally or slip it into his backpack.
- The card must be written by hand, clearly and legibly, and must go straight to the point, there is no need to dwell on it. It doesn't have to be particularly bright or romantic. Get right to the point: "I think you're a sweet, kind and attractive guy. I'd like to get to know you better, because I like you a lot."
- When you want to tell someone you like it, doing it in person is always better than through a phone message, email, or chat. A handwritten note is a good alternative because it is personal, but at the same time allows you to stay at a distance if you are upset. If you don't feel like it, a phone call is definitely preferable to an electronic message.
Step 2. Make him understand without saying anything
In some cases, actions can speak louder than words. If the guy you like begins to sense your feelings gradually, the message will be just as clear, but the process will feel more comfortable and natural than just confessing it outright.
- Arrange for them to meet so you can talk to each other. Change paths to meet regularly in the hallway or on your way to school and make an effort to say "hello".
- Always look for eye contact. Don't escape his gaze by showing embarrassment. Look him straight in the eye and give him a mischievous smile.
- Show interest in his passions and the things he does. Try to establish a friendship first, postponing the moment you confess your feelings to him. With a little luck, she may begin to reciprocate them naturally.
Step 3. Pretend you need help doing something
A great way to get to know him or start a conversation is to ask him for help with something simple. Depending on the person's character, you may even be able to spark malicious dialogue.
- If you are taking a class together, try asking him for help with homework for the next class. You can strike up a button with a compliment: "You seem to be an expert in this subject, do you think we could chat for a while when you have time about the project to prepare? I would need some advice."
- You can also pretend that you have lost something: "Did you by any chance see a book around here? I had placed it right here." If it helps you find it, add "You are so sweet".
Step 4. Get someone to "slip" the message
In some cases, the unstoppable gossip chain can work to your advantage. If you tell a friend that you have a strong crush on that guy and the news reaches the ear of someone who knows him, you can consider the work he has done despite having done almost nothing. By then the secret will have been revealed and it will be much easier to start talking.
- Confess your crush to a couple of friends without feeling embarrassed. If the news spreads later, you can always deny it is true. If you have never actually expressed your feelings openly, there is no evidence that you have done something embarrassing or that you have received a rejection.
- Never deny your interest in that person if your feelings are real. Why should you worry if someone finds out you have a crush? There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
Step 5. Come up with a ploy to invite him out
There is nothing worse than not knowing what they think of you. It will be much easier to confess your crush openly if you are certain that your feelings are reciprocated. A great way to find out is to ask the guy you like to accompany you to some event, like a party or an after-school activity, so that it doesn't clearly appear as a date.
- Try to find out what her passions are. For example, if you know he loves Marvel movies, you can invite him to see the new Iron Man by pretending to have received free tickets. End the proposal by saying something like, "It's nothing important, but I thought you might like it."
- If he reacts enthusiastically or seems very flattered and eager to go out with you, consider it a good sign and move on to the next step when you get the chance.
Step 6. Simply flirt
Be friendly and mischievous at all times. Sometimes an attitude can be much more eloquent than words. Talk to him as you would a friend or someone you are familiar with, trying to be yourself as much as possible.
- Tease him a little in a friendly way. Find ways to show off your sense of humor when you talk to him. Instead of just saying "Hi, how are you today?", Think of something witty like "I'm thinking about planning a school escape, but I miss an accomplice. What do you think? Are you in there?".
- Looking someone in the eye and saying "I have a crush on you" isn't very romantic. Instead of communicating it in words, try to make your interest obvious, so that you don't need to express it verbally.
Method 2 of 3: Confess Your Feelings
Step 1. Don't wait
When is the best time to confess to the guy you like that you have a crush on him? Now. Waiting is of no benefit, you will simply risk falling in love or starting out with someone else forgetting about you. If you already know each other, the perfect time to let them know is now.
The only guess you should wait is if he already has a girlfriend. Telling someone you like them if they're already in a relationship can make things pretty complicated. It's best to temporarily direct your interest elsewhere and return to office when he's single again
Step 2. Try to stay calm and relaxed
Regardless of what you may think, telling someone you like it is certainly not the end of the world. Even if you find that he doesn't love your feelings back, that's still a nice thing to say. This is especially true if you can approach yourself in a calm and gentle way while appealing to your sense of humor. Try to keep things simple and try to stay calm and confident.
- Brace yourself before you reveal your feelings. Look in the mirror and tell yourself "I'll make it. I'm a fabulous person and he'll be happy to go out with me." Then take action.
- Try to look your best on the day you decide to confess your crush. Wear nice, clean clothes that bring out your qualities and make sure you have fresh breath and tidy hair.
Step 3. Introduce yourself, if you don't know each other yet
If you have little confidence, confessing that you have a crush on him can be particularly difficult. You certainly don't want to run the risk that, after telling him you like him, he replies saying: "Wait a minute, but who are you?". If you're not sure if he knows you, approach and introduce yourself.
There is no need to complicate things: "Hi, I don't know if you know who I am. We attend the same school, last year we were both following Mrs. Rossi's course. So it's been a while since I wanted to tell you that …"
Step 4. Talk to him in private
This conversation should take place in private. It is important that both of you can feel as calm and comfortable as possible so as not to complicate the situation without reason, but also to have some privacy so that talking is less embarrassing.
- The short intervals between classes can be a good time to confess your feelings on the fly. Even when the bell rings at the end of the day it is a good opportunity. Alternatively you can try sitting next to him on the bus. Just come forward and say, "Can we talk for a minute?"
- Never approach while in a group and don't try to confess your crush in the middle of the mess hall while everyone can hear you. You would feel really embarrassed if things didn't go the way you hoped. This is a private conversation, so talk to him alone.
Step 5. Think of a specific date or event to propose to him
If after saying "I like you" he replies "You too", then what will happen? You can't just say "Well… great!". It is important to have something specific to suggest to him in order to continue talking.
- If you're close to the prom, you can say, "Great, I thought we could go to the prom together on Saturday. Would you like that?" If, on the other hand, there are no school events scheduled or you are not a student, you can say: "I would be happy to go out to eat something together. How about a pizza on Friday night? Let's say around 7 pm?".
- In some cases it may be better not to rush things. Don't expect to get an immediate response after you tell the guy you like him that you have a crush on him. Chances are he wants to think about it, that's a good thing. Don't worry about having to wait.
Step 6. Just get to the point
There is no reason to complicate things and there is no need to be super creative. The content of the message is elementary: "I like you". Just introduce yourself, smile and say, "There's one thing I've been wanting to tell you for a long time. You hit me from the first day I saw you, you seem very sweet and cute. I often think about you, I really like you. very".
Don't follow a script when you decide to confess your feelings. Many of the people who find themselves in this situation think it might be easier to memorize a text to avoid being blocked by anxiety, but the truth is that they just end up looking like robots. Try to speak naturally, as if you are chatting with a longtime friend
Step 7. Don't fear rejection
These things happen, it can happen to anyone. You may feel bad at first, but it will surely be much better than fantasizing just thinking about what might have happened if you had found the courage to step forward. You will get stronger and move on with your life, and he will do the same. So take heart and go talk to him.
If he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, smile and say, "Well, at least I know. Have a good day." Don't complain, don't make fun of him, and don't do anything dramatic. Even if you feel sad, at least you know how things are and you can move on
Method 3 of 3: Know the Guy You Like
Step 1. Start making friends with him online if you haven't already
A good way to do some research and get to know him before you confess that you have a crush on him is to become friends on Facebook or follow him on Twitter. If you are standing by, stop waiting and look for him online to make a first contact. Chatting via chat a few times can help break the ice and make you feel more confident when it comes time to talk to him in person.
When you meet again, you can refer to topics you discussed online or something you both saw on Facebook that day to start a conversation. This is a great excuse to start chatting
Step 2. Make sure he's not dating another girl
One of the most important things to find out before you confess to a guy that you like him is whether he is currently single or engaged. In the second case, probably the best thing to do is to step aside so as not to complicate the lives of several people.
Social media is a very useful tool in this regard. You can check her relationship information on Facebook or browse her profile carefully to try to figure out if she's dating someone else. You can also ask people who know him
Step 3. Talk to friends you have in common
If you want to know more about the guy you like, talk to someone who knows him well. Find a reason to hang out with his friends and just start asking a few questions about him. Find out what his passions are, what he likes to do, and if he has an interest in another girl.
Remember that if someone realizes you have a crush on them, it could be a good thing. You wouldn't have to tell him personally and you would feel much calmer
Step 4. Find ways to hang out in a group
Look for an excuse to go out with him, but not in the context of a romantic or one-on-one date. You can get to know him by inviting him to join your group of friends to do something special.
- For example, organize a dinner with friends or a movie night at someone's home and invite them to join you. If you don't have the courage to do it yourself, you can ask a friend for help.
- If you find that you don't actually like it, that's okay. At least you haven't confessed to him that you have a crush on him only to discover later that you don't have much in common.
Step 5. Sharpen your wits
If you want to know more about a guy and see if you could be good together, the first thing to do is pay attention to the details. What kind of people do you think he likes to hang out with? How is their sense of humor? What do they prefer to do together in their free time? Spend some time looking at these details to try to know as much about him as possible.
Notice how he behaves when you are close to him. Pay particular attention to body language. If when he meets you he tends to "withdraw" into himself, for example by keeping his shoulders forward and his arms crossed, and does not make eye contact, it could mean that he is not interested in you. In this case, you could save yourself from a foreseeable rejection
Advice
- Talk to him directly and honestly. If he does react in a way you don't expect, just move on with your life; it is certainly not the end of the world.
- If you have decided to observe him to understand what type he is, make sure he does not notice. Otherwise he will think you are a stalker and your chances of starting a relationship with him will drop dramatically!
