Throughout most of the history of our civilization and in many parts of the world, people with limited options (historically women) have always sought wealthy partners who could provide for them too, putting financial security first over other factors. such as romance, love, looks and / or compatibility. The term "dowry hunter" became popular during the "Gold Rush" era in the United States.
Times have changed but the concept remains the same. Whether we like it or not, many people for various reasons still hope (sometimes without realizing it) to find someone who can support the family, so that they can stay at home to raise their children, be able to focus on the career of dreams that they have not yet realized. produces results or simply for material convenience. But just because you seek peace of mind and economic generosity in a partner doesn't mean you can't fall in love or intensely appreciate their person. Over time, you will learn to love, respect and take care of the man or woman you have chosen. As more and more women become financially independent, they are less and less interested in finding a good match, while dowry-hunting men are more and more frequent. If you think financial security is the most important factor in finding a partner to share your life with, here's how to approach it with sensitivity and charm.
Steps
Step 1. Think about the costs and benefits of this approach
If you expect your partner to be the one who maintains the family, he (or she) may have particular expectations of you as well. For example, he may ask you to raise his children, be attractive all the time, attend many social events, or comply with his will. It is possible that someone who supports you financially feels entitled to tell you what to do, how to behave, how to dress, how to talk, and so on - just because they pay the bills. Wealthy families are often the hardest to deal with. If you are completely dependent on your income, you may have to choose between your independence and economic stability. This is something you need to be ready to tackle if you are planning to be with someone for their financial wealth.
Also, think about what you will do if he loses his wealth. What will happen if this person has an accident? Or if his actions plummet? Or if the business fails? Will you leave him because he can no longer provide for you, and will this be compatible with your morals?
Step 2. Observe others at school or work
Make a note of who buys or goes out for lunch often. When someone buys lunch out, it usually means they have money. Sit at the same table during lunch. Take out your little sandwich, in a plain paper bag. As happy as she is, she will notice how happy you are. When he sees how sad you really are, he will offer to pay for your lunch.
Step 3. Tell him how happy he made you, and that you are very grateful to him that he bought you lunch
Be reserved and tell him you'll be happy to reciprocate next time. Make sure you do this.
Step 4. Talk about how much you love cinema, musicals or opera
Tell him about the play your friends saw but you couldn't see because it overlapped your work, and you couldn't afford it anyway. He'll be offering to take you there soon, so be ready to show off your best smile as you tell him you'll be delighted to go.
Step 5. Apologize as you grab your cell phone, pretending you have some messages to check
Remember he doesn't have your phone number yet, and pretend you suddenly realize it. Kindly ask him if he'd like to have it, then write it down for him.
Step 6. Make sure you don't have any money with you when you go to the movies
Don't take the bill when he takes you out to dinner. Thank you very kindly, and tenderly shake his hand. Smile and make him happy. Talk kindly and start a pleasant conversation. Sometimes talking about money when you go out can ruin a romantic moment, especially when it's time to foot the bill. Let him take the bill and let him spoil you.
Step 7. Take him shopping
Walk around and look at the windows of all the shops. Get excited when you see something you like. Sadly tell him that you wish you could afford to buy it. Sigh and start walking away. He will likely offer to buy it for you, but don't immediately accept. Tell him you can't let him do that. When he insists, stop resisting and allow him to buy it. Next time you go shopping, look at even more expensive things - over time you won't even need to talk about it. Just look at them! You will soon realize that all he wants to do is take care of you. Learn to appreciate it as a sign that he cares about you and wants to make you happy.
Step 8. Learn to respect success
If you are looking for who will support you and your family, you need to find someone who does it willingly, who is proud of their work and the well-being they have achieved. Show this person how much you appreciate their skills and gifts.
Advice
Be nice. Don't abuse or ask for anything brazenly. Be kind, respect him, and encourage him when he wants to spoil you. But timidly
Warnings
- There are many documented cases of men getting angry, and sometimes violent, when they discover they have been used for their money. Skill hunting is a scam commonly used by cheating artists to steal money.
- Make sure he's not married and doesn't have another family to support. You don't want to hurt anyone, you just want to find your perfect "daddy" or "mommy" and make them both happy.
- Being a dowry hunter is considered by many to be little or no moral at all. Are you sure this is the path you want to take in your life? Over time, you may find that you are not so happy with yourself and the material possessions you have acquired. Others will judge you and may put you in a bad light. Carefully consider all of your options and values before making such a decision.
