Being alone means isolating yourself from other people and distractions or recovering from a painful occurrence. Being able to cope with loneliness denotes strength and independence. This article will explain how to best live it, for whatever reason it was caused (a break in love or with a friend or an independent choice).
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Being Alone After a Breakup
Step 1. After ending a relationship, depression is around the corner
The person with whom you have shared so many experiences is no longer with you. As a result, the time has come to make a list of your key points:
- Your family loves you unconditionally.
- Your friends can cheer you up during darker times, give you a real perspective, and talk to you for hours on end.
- Celebrate the milestones you have achieved in your life and think back to all those times you have put yourself on the line.
- Health is the most valuable asset.
Step 2. Throw away everything you remember about your ex (or put it aside in a box):
photos, letters, gifts …
Eliminating all traces of his existence can mark a new beginning, but one day, when you get over the breakup, you may want to review certain photographs or show them to your grandchildren. Throw away the memories only if you are absolutely certain of the negative influence they have on you
Step 3. Challenge yourself with an activity that you always wanted to do but never had the time
A relationship requires a lot of work. Reward yourself for the sacrifices made to allow the relationship to mature. Think only of yourself:
- Adventure. You could plan a trip to Calcutta or anywhere else in the world. Explore.
- Excitement. You can take a self-defense or skydiving course or participate in a marathon. Fill your days with adrenaline.
- Volunteer.
Step 4. Go out with your friends:
they know how you feel and will do anything to help you have a good time. You can also stay indoors with your friends to see a movie and to get manicures and pedicures. Being around other people will distract you.
Step 5. Let's face it:
it's full of interesting people out there. Don't think you won't find anyone else like your ex. It is a very serious mistake. Think in terms of personal development: Your next relationship will be better than the last.
Start learning from your mistakes so as not to make them again. To err is human, to persevere is diabolical, remember?
Step 6. If your old relationship was painful, never see your ex again, or things will cloud over and you won't be able to go your way
Now it hurts, but in a few months you will be a free person.
Step 7. Be patient
Don't expect to find someone right after the breakup, especially since you're not ready. Do you feel lonely? Here's what to do to avoid getting into a relationship for this reason:
- Go out and take advantage of all possible social situations, so you will meet new people.
- Spend a lot of time with your friends and broaden the tour. In a few months, you may find that your acquaintance's friend has a perfect sister for you.
- If dating goes wrong or people turn you down, don't be discouraged. But avoid going out right after the story ends. Wait a couple of months.
Method 2 of 3: When You Don't Have Friends
Step 1. Love yourself:
it is trivial to say, but no one will do it if you do not give a "good example".
Encourage yourself every day, compliment yourself and really believe it
Step 2. Get lost in your hobbies, especially social ones, which will allow you to meet new people
Take every chance.
Step 3. Become a better person
If you have no friends, you have time to use productively:
- Treat your body well. Take long walks, preferably in nature, run, swim, cycle or join a team.
- Learn something new, from C ++ to Java, from horse riding to guitar or banjo. The world is Yours!
Step 4. Learn from your social interactions
Maybe you don't have any friends due to bad circumstances or bad luck. In that case, if you open up to the world, you'll make new friends in no time. However, don't underestimate certain elements:
- Look at the body language. Are smiles sincere? Do some people turn away when you get close? Your words and your body have a visible effect on others if you know how to analyze their gestures.
- Understand the true meaning of the sentences. If someone tells you “I went to a Greek restaurant yesterday”, they probably want you to ask them what they think.
- Don't dominate the conversation: allow others to talk but, at the same time, don't be silent. Learn to ask questions and propose topics.
Step 5. Get to know new people online, so you will find people who share your interests and passions
Obviously pay attention: liars abound online.
Step 6. Get out of the social comfort zone
If you avoid going out, you may be too shy. Take courage and talk to the people who introduce you. Invite an old friend for coffee. Approach a group of strangers. Luck assists the bold.
Method 3 of 3: You Are Only by Choice
Step 1. Choose a place to be alone, such as a wood, your room or a park
Step 2. Get rid of electronic and non-electronic distractions
Step 3. Start your own business, such as meditating or reading a novel
Step 4. Remind yourself of the importance of independence:
learning to be is a skill. Evaluate the advantages of autonomy and discard the cons and you will immediately feel happier.
- If you need inspiration, here are some famous quotes about loneliness:
- "I am not a bird and no net can catch me: I am a free human being with an independent will" - Charlotte Brontë, "Jane Eyre".
- Freedom (noun): Don't ask for anything. Don't expect anything. Don't depend on anything. " - Ayn Rand, “The Wonderful Source”.
- "To find yourself, think for yourself." - Socrates.
- If you need to carry your cell phone with you during your solitary activities, turn off the volume.
- Don't neglect others. If you look for them when you get tired of being alone, they may not welcome you with open arms.
Step 5. Get lost in your business, put your heart and soul into it
You will get distracted and you will not think about loneliness.
Step 6. Balance time spent alone with time shared with others
Perennial loneliness is not good for you.
