It's not always easy to break the ice and flirt with a girl you don't know, especially if you're in awe of how beautiful she is. To do this, however, all you need is confidence, interesting topics of conversation and the desire to make the girl understand that you think she is special. If you can remember that the worst failure in this situation is not a tragedy, you will quickly be able to speak to the pretty girl sitting at the table across the bar.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Making Your Move
Step 1. Look after your appearance
If you want to approach a girl you've never talked to before, it's important to look your best. This does not mean that you will have to look like a bodybuilder or a movie star or someone other than who you are; it means you'll have to look and feel your best to have the confidence to make your move. Wear clothes that make you feel good, pay attention to hygiene and take care of the details, before talking to the girl you've been observing for some time.
- Of course, if you see a girl you like and don't think you're your best, talk to her anyway! If, on the other hand, you've been looking for the courage to talk to her for weeks, you should take care of your appearance in detail to gain more confidence.
- It is important to shower every day. You won't want to distract the girl with your stink instead of conquering her with the charming and funny things you have to say.
Step 2. Look for eye contact
The first thing you should do when you're ready to break the ice with a new girl is make eye contact for a second or two so she knows you're interested. When you've caught his eye, you can look away or to the ground if you've already caught his attention. If you're feeling bold, you can smile at her to let her know you like what you see, and get closer.
- You can make eye contact and then take a few minutes to charge up before approaching, but don't wait too long before making your move; if you do, you may miss your chance.
- She will be pleasantly impressed if, after looking her in the eye, you immediately approach her.
Step 3. Introduce yourself confidently
When you have made eye contact, approach the girl in an upright posture and looking straight ahead. You don't have to say anything in particular to start the conversation. You can just say, "Hey, my name is Carlo, are you?" Or, "My name is Carlo, and I'd like to meet you." Be simple and straightforward.
- When she introduces herself, you can repeat her name or say it's a cool name to show you're paying attention.
- You can also find a different way to break the ice, such as complimenting her on a piece of jewelry she's wearing, asking her a question, or saying something simple and fun.
Step 4. Don't use approach phrases
While you may think you need to use these phrases to get a girl's attention, they will only give her the wrong impression. You don't want her to think that talking to her is a game for you and you should instead show her that you really want to impress her. Don't waste time searching the internet for the top ten ways to get a girl's attention and try to be yourself instead.
- You don't want the girl to think you're just trying to pick her up; you want him to understand that you really care.
- You can find an interesting way to start the conversation, but you don't need to start with something too flattering or straightforward to start off on the right foot.
Step 5. Don't be too firm in your approach
Even if you want to make your interest clear right away, don't give the girl the impression that you are being too pushy. If you want her to keep talking to you, you shouldn't make explicit sexual comments, you shouldn't mention specific parts of her body or make the girl feel uncomfortable. Keep the conversation light, flirtatious, and friendly to let her know that you really care.
- When you've broken the ice, try to figure out if the girl is interested. If she crosses her arms across her chest, walks away from you, or keeps looking around for friends or using her phone, it may not be your day. If you're sure she's not interested, politely walk away.
- You will both start flirting with each other more as the conversation progresses, so you don't have to push things too hard at first.
Step 6. Be nice to her friends
If the girl is with a group of friends, or even just one or two people, you will need to make an effort to be nice to them too. You don't want the girl to think that you are nice to her just because you want to win her over and that you normally treat girls rudely; Make sure you are nice to your friends too and introduce yourself, but make it clear that the girl you approached is the only one you care about.
It's important to be nice to her friends so they don't try to stop her from talking to you, but you should avoid flirting with them too much or the girl you're interested in will think you're just an outgoing person and aren't really interested in her at all. particular way
Part 2 of 3: Make Her Feel Special
Step 1. Ask questions
When you talk to a girl, you can flirt with her by asking her questions, to show her that you want to get to know her, while trying to tease her. You won't have to ask too serious questions, and you should keep the conversation light, fun, and simple. You can ask about her hobbies, what she likes to do for fun, or about her cat; do not give the impression that you are subjecting her to questioning. Here are some examples of questions you might ask:
- "So, is blue your favorite color or are you wearing it just because it matches your eyes?"
- "Do you spend evenings with your cat or do you like to do something else to have fun?"
- "Are you really a Fiorentina fan or do you just like wearing purple?"
Step 2. Give her a compliment
Another way to flirt with a girl is to give her a compliment that shows you really like her. You shouldn't be complimenting body parts or making explicit sexual references, but you should highlight a characteristic aspect of her appearance to show that you want to know her better. Here are some things you can say:
- "Has anyone ever told you that you have a truly incredible laugh? I've never heard one like it."
- "You're the only girl I know who looks really good in neon green."
- "You are really good at talking to strangers. How do you do it?".
Step 3. Listen to it carefully
You may be too nervous to really pay attention to what the girl says, because you will be so worried that you will be able to carry the conversation forward. But if you really want to impress her and show your interest, you need to make an effort to listen to what she says so that she understands that you don't just want to hook her up. Here's what you should do:
- Look her in the eye.
- Put the phone away.
- Don't interrupt her or give her advice when she talks.
- Don't try to compare her experiences to yours when she tries to say something serious.
- Talk about something you mentioned earlier in the conversation.
Step 4. Ask her about the day
Another simple thing you can do is ask the girl how her day was or what she's been up to lately. This can lead to jokes or show her that you care about her. You may also find that you have more in common than you thought. Here are some examples of questions you might ask:
- "Have you been at the mall all day or did you do something more interesting today?"
- "Do you have any fun plans for tonight?"
- "Do you come here often or is it a special occasion?"
Step 5. Make fun of it
When you have become familiar with each other, you can make fun of them. If you both play along and see you're joking, this is a great way to flirt and show her you're interested. Pick a trait that's not too serious to taunt and make sure she does the same to you too before going too far. Here are some examples of things to say to make fun of her:
- "Do you always talk so much about your cat or is it his birthday?"
- "Do you always wear your hair like this or are you just trying to imitate Demi Lovato?"
Step 6. Try not to dominate the conversation
It is important to respect balance in conversation when talking to a girl you don't know. Even if you want to fascinate and impress her, you don't want her to feel like you're talking to her just because you need an audience. Make sure you don't talk much more than half the time and learn new things about her by asking questions; don't make her think you're self-centered.
- If you tell her something, like your favorite group, make sure you ask her the same thing too.
- Remember that the key is to be interested, not interesting. Your goal is for the girl to understand that you care about meeting her, not to show off.
Part 3 of 3: Maintain Your Interest
Step 1. Stay on light topics
If you want to keep flirting with the girl and keep the conversation going in an interesting way, you should avoid talking about topics that are too serious or that can sadden the atmosphere, such as the recent death of a relative, a tragic story you read in the newspaper or a traumatic moment in your childhood. Stick to topics that will put the girl at ease and encourage her to open up and keep talking. Here are some things to talk about:
- Your pets
- Favorite team
- Favorite hobby
- Favorite actors or movies
- Funny things that happened to you recently
- Your plans for the weekend
- Places you have visited
- Something interesting you have recently read.
Step 2. Be positive
If you want to keep flirting and continuing the conversation, you should try to be as positive as possible. You don't want to sadden the girl by complaining or criticizing everything around you; you want me to remember the experience with you as a positive one. While you can make negative comments, you should try to keep the atmosphere light.
- If you find yourself making a negative comment, you should compensate with two positives.
- Focus on talking about the things you love, like your favorite topics at school or your favorite sport, instead of complaining about the things you hate.
- Smile, laugh and be happy and open up as often as possible. The girl will feed on your positive energy.
Step 3. Ask for their opinion
If you want to keep the conversation going, you can ask the girl for advice on something not too serious. This will show that you care about what they think and that you take them seriously. People also love to give advice because it makes them feel important, so this is a situation where everyone wins. Pick a topic you think you know well and show that you really want to hear the answer. Here are some questions you can ask:
- "Do you think the new Hunger Games movie will be as good as the last?"
- "Do you think I should go see Negramaro or Vasco Rossi next month? They play the same day."
- "I can't decide what to give my little sister for her birthday. Do you have any ideas?"
Step 4. Use self-irony
Another way to flirt with a girl is to not take yourself too seriously. Try teasing yourself a little without going overboard and show the girl that she can say what she wants in your presence. Don't make her think you're too sensitive; it shows that you are confident enough to take some teasing. Here are some comments you can make:
- "I started playing guitar to try to pick up girls, but actually now it's my passion …"
- "I may be a little obsessed with my dog, but I like him more than most people I know!"
- "Ah well, obviously not all my lines have succeeded."
Step 5. Don't be jealous
If there are other guys around or if the girl mentions another man, you shouldn't talk bad about them or make negative comments. While you may think you're making a better impression, you'll actually seem insecure and think you're not up to par with other guys. If another guy shows up, be nice to him instead of being rude or treating him badly; make it clear that you are a good guy.
Let the girl see that you are confident enough to know that other guys don't matter
Step 6. Ask her out
If the conversation was positive and you want to see the girl again, you should try asking her out before walking away. You can keep an informal approach and not put pressure on her, not giving too much importance to it. Simply wait until the conversation is at its best and then tell her you need to go so that she leaves the best impression of you before asking her to see you again. Here are some things you can say:
- "I'd like to keep talking about the Strokes, but I have to go. Can I ask you for the number so I can talk about them over coffee?"
- "Actually I have to go, but I would really like to see you again so I can lend you the book I was telling you. Can you give me your number so I can call you?"
- "It was great talking to you and I would really like to see you again. Can you give me your number so you can show me if you really are the best bowler in the state?"
