This page will tell you how to ask your mom for a bra without her (or you) freaking out. It's as easy as asking.
Steps
Step 1. Make sure you are ready or feel you need it
Do you see your nipples through your shirt in an uncomfortable way? Do they hurt you when you run? Do they bounce too much?
Step 2. Try to explain your problem, while you are alone, without beating around the bush
In this way there will be no misunderstandings. Say something like, “Mom, I think I'm ready for a bra. Do you think we could go and buy one of these one day?"
Step 3. Don't be ashamed to ask
Do not be nervous. It is natural in every young woman's life that the time comes when a bra is needed. Even your mom was once a young woman who needed a bra and now it's your turn. Avoid shivering and sweating and face it with your usual confidence. He'll worry if he sees you're so nervous.
Step 4. Ask
Moms were girls too once and bought tons of bras. If your mom is surprised it is probably because you have grown faster than she expected. Try to find a time when she is alone and in a good mood. Maybe while he is in the garden or while he is reading a book, or perhaps while taking a walk.
Step 5. Drop some clues
Of things like "Mom, this shirt is too tight!" or "I need a tank top under this shirt". Or you could also purposely try on a smaller shirt at a store so she'll realize you need a bra.
Step 6. Wait for the right time
It might be embarrassing to ask for a bra. It is best to wait for a moment when no one else is listening.
Step 7. Ask her to measure you and go shopping without your dad or siblings
Your mom is a woman after all and has already done what you are about to do.
Step 8. If he says no, don't lose control, just ask him one more time, keep asking him and sooner or later he will buy it for you
Advice
- Another good way to ask is while you are alone in the car while she is driving. She will be focused ¾ on driving and ¼ on conversation. It's a lot less embarrassing because you're not looking each other in the eye. Don't feel bad asking your mom, because she's been through it before.
- There is no reason to be ashamed that you need a bra. It is a normal part of growth. If you'd rather keep it secret, though, avoid shops with a lot of people or where you might meet people you know.
- Remember not to ask your mom for a bra when she's in a bad mood or busy. Wait until she is in a good mood and is not busy. That way, they are more likely to say yes.
- If you don't have a mom or your mom is busy all the time, you might want to ask an aunt or older sister to help you. If you have no female figure greater than you in your life, you will need to ask your dad. Try saying "Dad, can you take you to a mall for girl's stuff?" Meet with him in another section of the mall when you're done.
- Don't be afraid, he won't be angry if you ask him!
- If you are in a shop and you see a bra that you think might fit you then you might say "Mom, can you come and see something I found?" It's another way of asking for a bra.
- Many girls buy an unpadded bra for their first time.
- Try to get a bra to try on as you head to the dressing rooms with your mom. She will see if the time is right for you to wear one.
Warnings
- Don't ask for a bra while in a crowded place. People are more likely to hear you and there will be some embarrassment between you and your mom.
- Your first bra may be itchy. This is normal, and should pass as soon as your skin gets used to having a piece of elastic where there has never been one before.
- Don't talk to your younger sisters about it first because they will probably tell your mom right away in a very indelicate way.
